10/01/2026
WHY I SHARE
Over the years, I've had a lot of people ask me parenting questions.
Many have complimented the behavior or character they saw in my children—sometimes especially when I wasn't around—and asked, “What are you doing?” or “How did you teach them that?”
I've had parents ask for advice.
Teachers, families, counselors, doctors, therapists, and caseworkers have asked what I've learned from working with children.
And for a long time, I honestly didn't always know how to answer. I wasn't following one formula.
I was doing what I had learned through experience, trial and error, faith in God, training, work, parenting, teaching, and years of paying very close attention to children.
I studied the children I worked with. Not formally with a clipboard in my hand—but constantly.
I noticed body language. Reactions. What made a child shut down. What helped them open up. What they responded to. What wasn't working. What needed to be taught differently.
I carried a lot of those observations in my head, adjusted what I was doing, created lessons around what I was seeing, and kept trying to better serve the children in front of me.
And I sought the Lord often—through prayer and fasting, and by sowing into children as often as I could with my time, finances, and obedience to my tithe and offering.
One thing I learned very early was that I could not approach every child exactly the same way.
I had to know the child.
Their temperament.
Their needs.
What they were carrying.
How they received correction.
What helped them feel safe enough to learn.
What motivated them.
What overwhelmed them.
There are things I've learned over the years that seem to matter with children almost across the board—our tone, our approach, the mindset of the adult, the condition of our own heart, whether a child feels respected, and whether we're actually trying to teach or just control the moment through our own fears.
But there are also many things that work best because we know that particular child.
The principle may be consistent.
The way it’s applied may need to change.
For years, I was developing something without really knowing I was developing it.
I don't share because I think I've done everything right.
I haven't.
And I don't believe there is some perfect formula that produces perfect children.
There isn't.
But I have spent decades watching, learning, correcting myself, changing approaches, building lessons, and paying attention to what children actually need.
Eventually, I began to understand how to put more of that into words.
And Kid of Character grew out of that.
Long before it had a name, many of the pieces were already there—character, responsibility, relationships, choices, repair, faith, academics, and helping children learn how to make wise decisions when we're not standing over them.
Over time, those lessons, observations, experiences, and resources began to come together into something more intentional.
A lot of what I share through Kid of Character comes from the things I've learned that have worked well across many different children.
But it's important to note this:
Children are individuals.
So, why do I post?
One reason is simply because people have asked me to.
Another reason is that I genuinely care about healthy homes, healthy schools, and healthy communities for everyone.
I don't have all the answers, but I do have decades of learning, observing, working, parenting, teaching, praying, getting some things right, and getting some things wrong. And I know I have something to contribute to that conversation.
The way we guide children matters far beyond any single moment of connection or correction.
And a child who grows up and gets a little off track doesn't automatically mean the parent failed.
Don't judge yourself.
Don't judge your children.
Keep God first above all else. 😉
