08/27/2026
So much love, brains and talent in one person. ♥️🥹
I am grateful my father shared his love of her music with me when I was a little girl.
Long before it was safe or popular for a country star to do it, Dolly Parton looked at her devoted gay and le***an fans and told them, plainly, that they belonged. "I have a huge gay and le***an following, and I'm proud of 'em, I love 'em," she once said. "I think everybody should be allowed to be themselves, whoever they are, whatever they are."
She spent decades saying so in ways nobody could mistake. She backed marriage equality as far back as 2009 -- six years before the Supreme Court did -- in the only way Dolly could, with a joke: "Sure, why can't they get married? They should suffer like the rest of us do."
When a guard at Dollywood's water park made a woman turn her "Marriage is so gay" T-shirt inside out in 2011, Dolly apologized to her personally and set the record straight: "Everyone knows of my personal support of the gay and le***an community. Dollywood is a family park and all families are welcome." And to Larry King in 2016: "We are all God's children. If you're gay, you're gay. If you're straight, you're straight. And you should be allowed to be how you are and who you are."
Her park became a joyful gathering place for LGBTQ visitors, who made their own gay days at Dollywood a tradition. When fellow Christians scolded her for embracing her gay fans, she handed the judgment right back: "If people want to pass judgment, they're already sinning... I try to love everybody."
When North Carolina passed a law targeting transgender people in 2016, she said she hoped "everybody gets a chance to be who and what they are." And she'd been saying it since 1991, in "Family": "Some are preachers, some are gay, some are addicts, drunks and strays. But not a one is turned away when it's family."
But the truest measure of her love came when it cost the most. When AIDS was killing tens of thousands of gay men and much of the country turned away, Dolly didn't look away. In 1989, at the height of the epidemic -- when the government's response was condemned as a disgrace and most of her country peers stayed silent -- she put her own production company behind "Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt," the Oscar-winning documentary about the AIDS Memorial Quilt. She lent her name to the national Break the Silence awareness campaign and gave a song to a benefit album for HIV research. She stood with people dying of AIDS when doing so was neither safe nor popular, and when much of her own industry would not.
That was the heart of it: nobody gets turned away. Dolly built an empire on rhinestones and mountain songs, but what she gave her LGBTQ fans was simpler than any of that -- she told them, without conditions, that they were loved exactly as they were. "Long before it was easy or popular," Lambda Legal's Kevin Jennings said this week, "Dolly Parton told our community that we belonged, and she meant it." She spent a lifetime proving it.
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This tribute only scratches the surface of a life lived out loud in song. In her own illustrated memoir, "Dolly Parton, Songteller: My Life in Lyrics," Dolly walks readers through the stories behind 175 of her songs, including classics like "Coat of Many Colors," "Jolene," and "I Will Always Love You" at https://amzn.to/4xgl9ta (Amazon) and https://bookshop.org/a/8011/9781797224732 (Bookshop)
Long before the fame, there was a little girl in a coat her mother stitched together from rags -- and the pride Dolly took in it became one of her most beloved songs. "Coat of Many Colors," the picture book drawn from that song, tells the story of the childhood that shaped her lifelong tenderness toward children who had little, for ages 4 to 8 at https://bookshop.org/a/8011/9798217140640 (Bookshop) and https://amzn.to/4wPLUUs (Amazon)
For more books to introduce kids to her extraordinary life and legacy, we recommend the picture books "Dolly Parton: Little People, Big Dreams” for ages 5 to 8 (https://www.amightygirl.com/dolly-parton-little-people) and "Dazzlin' Dolly" for ages 5 to 9 (https://www.amightygirl.com/dazzlin-dolly), and the illustrated biography "Who Is Dolly Parton?" for ages 8 to 12 (https://www.amightygirl.com/who-is-dolly-parton)
There is also a fascinating biography on her life and impact on working women, "She Come By It Natural: Dolly Parton and the Women Who Lived By Her Songs," at https://www.amightygirl.com/she-come-by-it-natural
For books for children, teens, and their parents that promote acceptance and understanding of LGBTQ people, visit our blog post "True Colors: Mighty Girl Books for Pride Month" at https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=12258
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