24/07/2020
Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie offered a group of teen girls at the Girls Write Now Awards fantastic advice about the importance of being true to yourself. She observed, "I think that what our society teaches young girls, and I think it's also something that's quite difficult for even older women and self-professed feminists to shrug off, is that idea that likability is an essential part of you, of the space you occupy in the world... [and] that you're supposed to hold back sometimes, pull back, don't quite say, don't be too pushy, because you have to be likable...
What I want to say to young girls is forget about likability. If you start thinking about being likable you are not going to tell your story honestly, because you are going to be so concerned with not offending, and that's going to ruin your story... The world is such a wonderful, diverse, and multifaceted place that there's somebody who's going to like you; you don't need to twist yourself into shapes."
For an empowering picture book about the value of being true to yourself regardless of what others think, we highly recommend "Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon" for ages 4 to 8 at https://www.amightygirl.com/stand-tall-molly-lou-melon
For an excellent book for pre-teen girls on staying true to yourself even in the midst of social pressure, check out "A Smart Girl's Guide: Drama, Rumors & Secrets: Staying True To Yourself In Changing Times," for ages 9 to 12 at https://www.amightygirl.com/drama-rumors-secrets
For a fantastic guide for teen girls that teaches them how to find their voice and understand its importance, we recommend "Express Yourself: A Teen Girl's Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are" for ages 13 and up at https://www.amightygirl.com/express-yourself-guide
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has published a short book offering guidance on raising girls to become strong, independent women, "Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions" at https://www.amightygirl.com/dear-ijeawele
She is also the author of several acclaimed novels including "Purple Hibiscus" (http://amzn.to/1q9TXCd), "Half of a Yellow Sun" (http://amzn.to/1uEGVSx), and "Americanah"(http://amzn.to/1qHkCN9), as well as the essay "We Should All Be Feminists" (http://amzn.to/1RVdM0u)