06/23/2023
Do you care too much about another person's thoughts or opinions of you?
Does what they think of you matter more to you than what you know to be true about you?
When we care too much about what others think, we have them on a pedestal in our world. This is very very dangerous. Let me explain why.
Anyone that you elevate in your mind as knowing more about you & your life than you do, is given direct access to your mental space.
That means, you give them the power to influence your thoughts and emotions.
You have the door to your mind swung wide open for this person to walk in and out anytime they choose. You believe whatever they say is true.
Once they gain access to your mental space, they can then access your impressionable emotional space. You are now their puppet, and they hold the strings.
This person(s) now hold a place of importance and influence over your mind. They can get in your head anytime they choose.
Most people we give this power to are not even emotionally healthy or balanced individuals!
No one, and I mean no one except you and God, should have access to your mental space. Your mind is a sacred space and must be protected.
Letting others hold importance and influence is like giving someone access to the control room of your life.
It's ok to listen to what the "emotionally healthy and balanced" people in your life have to say.
You take their words, say thank you, then retreat into your mental space with God and close the door behind you.
You and God or spirit always make the final call on what feels true and best to you. You and spirit always make the final decision.
No one should be towering over you on a pedestal with direct access to your headspace. No one.
No one should ever go above eye level and gain control over your mind, emotions, and life no matter who they are or how much you admire them, love them, or want them to love you.
As far as emotionally unhealthy and unbalanced individuals go, their input should be dismissed altogether.
Time to level the playing field, knock down those pedestals, kick people out of your headspace, and take your power back.
06/21/2023
Empaths always carry a big cup of love in their hearts for others, but we must also carry the sword of truth in our minds & voice. The truth of our value and worth.
Many times, especially females, are taught to be nice, be pleasing, be accomodating, be quiet, don't get in the way, give others whatever they want and need, keep others happy, and whatever you do, don't upset anyone.
We are handed those tip toe shoes at an early age and told "put these on so someone might love you and take care of you one day".
Instead we should have been suited up with the truth of ourselves, the value we hold as loving human beings, and taught to go out into a hurting world discerningly giving compassion while respecting, valuing, and protecting ourselves.
We matter also. Our feelings matter. Our thoughts and opinions matter. We have needs too. We are equals, not less than.
We have more to give than just compassion and accomodation. We don't need anyone to "take pity" on us and love us! We are not beggars of love!
Our kindness is our strength not our weakness.
We are warriors of love. We own the cup. We hold the love the world seeks. We must protect the cup from ever being abused, misused, mistreated, disrespected.
When you begin to hold this truth within you, the power of self respect begins to grow. When we respect something, we protect it at all cost.
You will grow in the power to speak up on your own behalf when others cross the line and disrespect the very thing you respect about yourself.
If no one ever gave you permission to stand up, say something, and protect yourself from another persons foolishness, I'm giving it to you now.
Speaking up and setting things straight does not make you a bad person. It makes you a knowledgeable, respectful, healthy and balanced person. Know your value. Respect it. Protect it.
06/20/2023
Your card of the day.
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06/20/2023
Exhausting isn't it?
When you have to be on the constant look out for another person's emotional imbalance?... tip toeing carefully around their trigger happy fears and sensitivities as to not set off an attack or an over reaction? Exhausting.
This is not only exhausting emotionally, but physically as well. Being in a constant state of hypervigilance and fear of attack puts the body in a fight of flight mode. All that cortisol & adrenaline in your body for long periods of time is hard on the body.
When you are in relationship with a fearful or emotionally unhealthy person, it takes very little to set them off.
As hard as you try to keep them happy, or correct everything you do that seems to upset them, it's pointless. You are set up for failure because the change that is necessary needs to come from them, not you.
To begin to untangle remind yourself of the truth often.
The real problem that needs fixed is inside of them. Only they can fix that.
It doesn't matter how hard you try or what you change about you, their mind can and most likely will choose to take their pain out on you anyway.
They will find a reason to be upset with you and dump their pain onto you even if you do everything perfectly.
You are fighting a losing battle. Why? Because it's not even about you and your behaviors. It's about their stored pain and mental and emotional instability of the other person.
If you are in a tip toeing situation, decide today to retire those ballet slippers and put on a pair of walking shoes. Lace them up tight with the truth and gradually gain some distance between you and this emotionally unhealthy person.
06/16/2023
Yin Yang story of the day.
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Yin has been freed to regain financial stability. Yang is sad, reminiscing, & using others to cope.
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06/15/2023
As I am creating this card deck, I am covering the 3 ingredients of having a healthy and balanced relationship with self and others.
Each card has a description with either a light purple, medium purple, or dark purple description box.
The light purple cards are teaching you how to have ingredient #1: Mental and Emotional Mastery- the ability and the importance of training your mind to have positive and supportive mental dialogue ONLY about self and others. Healthy thoughts create healthy behaviors. They are also teaching how to clear and empty your emotional tank of stored emotional pain of the past, making you emotionally healthy and safe for others to be around.
The medium purple cards are teaching ingredient #2: Meeting in the middle. We should all meet in a place of equality. No games, power struggles, control, manipulation, addictions, or "over" behaviors.
The dark purple cards are teaching ingredient #3: Openness, Honesty, & Respect for/with self and others.
These ingredients when practiced create a healthy and balanced individual and when two people practice these ingredients they have a healthy and balanced relationship.
The Yin and Yang dynamic spiritual readings, are looking at 2 people in relationship and how they are doing in these 3 ingredients of creating and maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship.
Even though these dynamics may not be what you are going through presently or ever have been through in the past, you can still use these readings as a tool to self reflect and self check for unhealthy behaviors that need resolved and corrected.
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