06/25/2020
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What help have you called in or made accommodations or concessions for that are not truly helpful?
During this time, I feel it is vital for us each to discern, through our own lived experiences and unique circumstances, the distinction between help founded on codependency and support thatโs anchored in interdependence.
It is a good time to reflect during these next two weeks on what we have been both neglecting as well as compensating for in our own inner life, and further, to reflect on where this has been putting pressure on other people to โpick up the slackโ, care for, or provide for us?
Since the 6/20 Cancer Solar Eclipse, we have all been processing our own needs, and sometimes navigating the spiritual dimensions of this are challenging given that we inhabit a body that is of this Earth - not above it but rooted on it. This Eclipse cycle is here to test our roots. Soul bonds that have been under the faulty foundation of the โMother Woundโ are being radically re-configured and challenged right now until the 7/4 Lunar Eclipse in Capricorn that may bring more than the usual Fourth of July fireworks in the US.
Since 6/21, Mars has been in the equilux-adjusted, tropical western zodiac (what I call the T.S.Z. โTropilux Seasonal Zodiacโ) sign of Aries. The โwar drumsโ have sounded and we are all finding ourselves more on edge, frustrated, and defensive (or offensive) perhaps than usual and the high levels of stress are taking their toll on the soul. Not only is major tender loving self-care required right now to rejuvenate our Spirit, but to a greater degree than usual, so is healthy self-protection; protecting our own energy, and staying centered in our power, sovereignty, and self-agency is becoming increasingly important. The escalating energetic is one of self-preservation, fending for self, fighting for survival, etc. The โlaw of the jungleโ in which the โstrongest surviveโ, however โseparatistโ, seems to be fitting with the current natural order, and it will be here for the rest of 2020, preparing us for the paradigm-altering Jupiter-Saturn conjunction that will bring a major collective reforms around 12/21/20.
With Mars in Tropilux Aries now, you might have been noticing that people are generally more embattled at this time. Itโs like TNT has been lit and itโs only a matter of time till it blows.
The other day while on a hike a noticed a particular distraught and haunted quality to the usual sound of the coyotes off in the distance. They sounded not only restless, but quite furious, and I couldnโt help but feel how they are being affected by humanityโs drive to tamper with the forces of the wild.
Perhaps out of just wounding or mere habit, we have become dependent on the very structures that would keep us weak, squelching our personal liberties. Might this be the time for the vaccine rollout? Or perhaps mounting international tension due to the US-China trade conflict. It seems thereโs profit to be gained for the US but also certain leaders who may have a vested interest in domestic self-reliance. Pressure is building, and a lot of us who are sensitive can feel it.
The global situation between the US and China symbolizes a greater shift in consciousness towards self-reliance, which is a huge theme for this lunar cycle. At a personal level, whatโs being illuminated now within the collective is codependent behavior patterns founded on insecure attachment between the archetypal mother and the archetypal baby that stifles the childโs growth into mature adulthood and self-reliance.
According to Lisa Aromano, the signs of codependency are as follows:
1) denying oneโs own self-care, 2) rescuing others from poor life choice, 3) refusal to address our feelings, 4) catering to others to the neglect of self, 5) saying yes when meaning no, 6) toning myself down because my success will upset those around me, 7) doing for others out of a need to control how others view me, 8) accepting unhappiness as my norm, 9) staying in unhealthy relationships even when my heart wants to move on, 10) being concerned about what others will think of me rather than what I think of me, 11) taking care of others while refusing to take care of myself, 12) having no clue what I think/feel/need and living to cater to others instead of focusing on my own life.
But codependency is the symptom of a larger state of dis-ease for the Spirit, the Mother Wound.
Essentially this stems from our need to be cared for by the archetypal Mother, her need to be needed and the child/dependentโs unconscious or subconscious loyalty to not upset Mom (mirrors oneโs own inner child who might feel abandoned if separated from Mom too long). At a deeper level of taking responsibility for this, we may learn that the deeper cause is our need to have Mother need to be needed by us. This unconsciously inclines the child/dependent to compensate for these dynamics by making concessions that would seem to clip the child's own wings in order to avoid causing harm to Mom. In truth, the Mother and child are bonded/tethered/entangled by a profound yet subtly unhealthy (until healing occurs) sympathetic resonance, and the archetypal Mom doesnโt know who she would be if the child truly no longer depended on her. Mother often has to take it upon herself to help in order to feel needed (safe) and so she unwittingly, even if out of love, leads things in such a way as to keep the child weak. She doesnโt mean to, and this is no fault of her own. Further, thereโs no sense in beating herself up about it; this is simply biological conditioning and something we all suffer from to an extent, whether this effect is seen or unseen.
Nonetheless, to let the childโs dependency on her go would be to risk losing her identity as a Mother. This could make her feel uneasy, distraught, perhaps even afraid of โlosing her mindโ or โlosing her babyโ, so she will naturally protect against this and be reticent to accept this as a reality. So the 7/4 Capricorn Lunar Eclipse Moon will invite in necessary boundaries as part of โcleaning upโ the Mother wound.
The same dynamic also applies to the dynamic between the healer and the healee, or the helper and the helped. The healer, too, needs to be needed and so keeps the one in need of healing eternally in a state of dependency that would give the healer comfort and identity at a subconscious level (with Cancer, we are always dealing with the realm of the unconscious/subconscious).
All of this is under the unconscious guise of needing to help/heal/care for and therefore disregarding clear boundaries and agreements that might otherwise safeguard such potentially messy and destructive entanglements. Collateral damage is certainly possible.
If we find ourselves quick to deny this energy, I would warmly invite you to consider you may be missing what is more deeply submerged within the psyche and missing the healings that are possible this Cancer season through deeper self-reflection. Capricornian denial is one of the key ways in which we keep our full energetic power from seeing the light of day. And during Cancer season, our hidden patterning and conditioning is wanting to see the light of day.
Mom, or the healer, or the helper *prematurely* clips the fledgling's wings so that it canโt fly out of the nest. This is so Mother doesnโt have to relive the pain of having herself been abandoned as a baby, and so the cycle is perpetuated and passed along from mother to child throughout the lineage. The child, weakened, continues to perpetuate this by staying in Momโs nest lying helpless (rather than going for its own food and taking care of itself), and thus it outsources its own power which results in the fragmentation of consciousness that divides and fractures the Spirit. It goes without saying that the archetypal mother and archetypal baby is often re-lived and re-experienced within the context of relationships founded on this kind of gnarly dependency, which ultimately doesnโt help anyone from fully forming and maturing. It can be rather painful when you see it for what it is and when you realize the toll it has had in terms of the disintegration of your Spirit.
The Cancer-Capricorn axis highlighted during this lunar cycle is about the polarity between fragmentation and healing (the restoration of a felt sense of inner wellbeing and wholeness whereby all needs are provided for/sourced internally). This is experientially encoded in the Upanishads;
โIn the secret cave of the heart, two are seated by lifeโs fountain. The separate ego (Capricornโs shadow is seen through โdivide and conquerโ) drinks of the sweet and bitter stuff, liking the sweet, disliking the bitter, while the supreme Self drinks sweet and bitter neither liking this nor disliking that (Cancerโs unconditional embracing, accepting, and healing). The ego gropes in darkness (Capricorn begins cold, dark winter), while the Self lives in light (Cancer begins the warmth and radiance of summer when daylight is maximal in the sky). So declare the illumined sages and the householders who worship the sacred fire (of pure awareness) in the name of the Lord. May we light the fire of Nachiketa that burns out the ego, and enables us to pass from fearful fragmentation (Capricorn shadow) to fearless fullness in the changeless Whole (Cancer virtue).โ
The healing process each of us may be experiencing in our own way is about remembering our core power as we recollect who we really are: individualized sparks of Great Spirit who have emerged out of Mother Gaiaโs womb of creation.
May we continue to give thanks to the Earth Mother and tend to *her* needs in symbiosis with our own.
Letโs live in gratitude and appreciation for this life we have been given and hold compassion as we are once again rebirthed during this Cancer/Eclipse season.
Aaron Illumination
For more info on the Mother Wound, check out www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/addiction-and-recovery/201910/the-mother-wound
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