Soulful Relating Institute with Tziporah

Make your next date and many dates to come an erotic exploration & expansion into a world of pleasure, connection that you didn’t even know was possible!

Knowing your s$xull preferences, touch style, and erotic nature of what turns you on and off are important assets to loving your lover and yourself well.

In relationships it can become easy to leave your connection to chance or after years of being kissed or touched in ways that no longer feel good in your body you give it up to not being s*xually compatible anymore and never talk about it in a way that is inviting.

What if that wasn't the case. What if knowing what turned up the volume on your turn-on was as easy as learning touch styles, like learning a new language and being able to communicate this language with your lover?

Three Key Points...
Curiousity
Vulnerability
Invitations

Rather than relinquishing your preference, your wants, and desires, talk about them. Turn it into a game, (I will share with you my fav hat game in another post)

If something doesn't feel good or if it hurts, pause. Stopping with grace and love is also an important factor with your lover. Why not say gently “I would love to explore playing with different rhythms of pe*******on. I am feeling a bit dry and sensitive with the hard thrusting, and I would love to feel you slowly enter me, tease me by only playing with the tip of your 🐓 in my wet 🐈.

I like to begin vulnerable conversations like this outside of the bedroom as it often is a safer place for us emotionally. Once in the bedroom in the heat of the moment, it is easier to take things personally, and have more of an emotional charge. (unless you have a mediator/a 3rd as your very own intimacy confidant with you)

Share what feels good about different touch points, what happens in your body when you are touched in certain ways, what doesn't feel good, and how does each feel different in your body? Elaborate on "good" or "bad" and be descriptive.

Vocalizing your desires now becomes another component of turning up the turn-on for both of you.

Now your have an invitation to explore, be creative and get out of a potential bedroom rut.

I value and appreciate when someone asks me what I need or how I am feeling instead of making assumptions from their filtered perceptions.

What about you?

Have you ever noticed when you have an idea of what someone else is going through and what they need and rather than ask them "how are you feeling?" "What do you have the capacity for right now?" "What are you needing?" Instead, you create a story in your head about this person, their capacity, and their needs and project your story and ideas onto the other person.

Arghhh. I know I used to do this with my Mother and I am sure I have done it with friends and lovers at times. It took some conscious awareness to sit back, ask and listen without my agenda in the way!

Yes, frustrating isn't it from both sides.

Because you mean well, you care for the other person and you are telling yourself this is why you are doing it. However, is it caring if nowhere did you inquire and ask the other person what was true for them?

I don't like it when someone takes my snowball away (aka the ability to choose for myself). and I appreciate and LOVE when someone is curious about truly how I am feeling and what I am needing at the moment. I imagine you do too!

Doesn't it feel good to have an intimate connection in this way? And it can feel awkward to approach relating in such a way if it is new and different. The idea is our communication is creating a real human connection. Which assuming and projecting does not.

Curious about what your experiences from either side have been like in your life. If you wish to share in the comments.

Together in learning and evolving.

❤️ *x # *xuality

Just because your lover said yes to an intimate act once does not mean they are obligated to be a yes all of the time.

How does that land for you? I know when we are desiring something so badly it can easily turn into shaming our lover unintentionally when they turn a yes into a no today.

And here's the thing. We all have the right to change our minds. Our state shifts moment to moment, how we feel from what is going on with us emotional or our physical health.

No's can feel so personal, can't they? And they are anything but personal! When our emotional, physical and mental state changes so do what we desire or our availability to play.

You might have found yourself pushing, convincing, and telling your lover all the reasons why they should say yes. I know you have because I have done too!.

Rather than pushing up against your lover's current boundary or no by constantly saying, oh come on, you did it yesterday, or last time we had s*x you were okay with it, ask what would feel good. Redirect the energy darling so you can continue to expand the intimacy and pleasure.

Intimacy is not obligatory and I think you deep down don't want it to be. So get curious, get curious what hearing no triggers inside you, get curious what would feel good for your lover today and talk about it.

xoxo
Tziporah Kingsbury

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Trust can only be shared when it is born from within rather than based on expectation of another.
Feeling absolute awe and appreciation for the experiences of interwoven trust I get to share in my life and for the spaciousness I’ve had in developing this inner relationship with self.
This is what I get to share and pass on to clients. This is what I get to intimately share with loved ones for however long or short time we dance together.
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Thank you for those who join me on the venture to inner freedom and epic relating/relationships on the planet!
Thank you love!

Waking with a warm heart after driving around the town of Bend Oregon yesterday dropping a copy of my book Soul of Abortion, A Compassionat Guide To Emotion Discovery, Healing and Peace to various clinics that support women and couples through reproductive health and choices.

Feeling grateful for the warm welcome and conversations and for the way these humans are creating supportive environments for so many here locally.

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Send me a DM and we can work with my publisher to get you bulk book pricing and have Soul Of Abortion available to your patients and clients.

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This past week I’ve been feeling a frozen and isolated. In often speak of break states with clients (aka. A sudden change in the context of speaking or movement or environment that changes a persons state quickly) . I love break states when I’m feeling this frozen quality of life weighing me down. Combining it with my joy for funky hair styles and getting out having mini chats with the people I see passing by and I feel alive and ready for life .

Curious what are some of your fun ways to shift your state when feeling stuck in a rut?

Surrendering to the Pleasure

As I get on my knees, I approach the him with such deep reverence as if they were the most majestic of altars for me to pray before. In gratitude for the vulnerability ❤️between us, I start tracing my lips 👄 along the inner thigh, the sc***um, caressing the soft skin as I make my way up to the pulsating wand of light.

There is a softening, a relaxing of our armored hearts in this exchange. Between the soft pe*******on, gentle licks around the edges, the saliva-covered wet thrusts, there is an art of honoring this masculine presence, and in doing so I am naturally honored in this joyous reflection. Though I may be physically receiving, I am also intentionally offering myself in this giving.

❤️The Art of Honoring the C**k in Six Pleasurable Steps 🔥 🐓

🔥Begin by sitting on your lover’s lap or laying on them belly to belly breathing looking into each other’s eyes. This creates a place of trust, a place of invitation and intimacy.

🔥Slowly with each breath begin to graze your body over theirs as you make you way down to your knees or laying with your ass up , head between their thighs.

🔥Alternate between looking down with absolute presence to your lover's skin and its textures to gazing up eyes wide open looking into theirs to pe*****te their heart even deeper.

🔥I love to softly breath and lick along the shaft as if welcoming in all their flavors and allowing my saliva to moisten their skin before placing it into my mouth.

🔥Once In the mouth👄 , remind yourself to relax your jaw, and play with different tempos. Slowly push their c**k as deep as you can, resting it in the back of your throat while your tongue moves pressing points along their c**k. Slowly come up to only play with the tip, don’t be scared to spit some of your saliva on the tip and rub it all around your lips while looking them in the eyes.

🔥For the adventurous ones: Continue in the same way using warm breath, licking like you would a dripping ice cream cone, place the whole of his sc***um in your mouth while sucking and sounding. They might find this one of their favorite experiences only wanting more. ;)

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