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Pastor Robert Altman, Barnwell, SC (2026)

10/02/2026

Ghosted

It is October, and in our part of the world you begin seeing all the familiar decorations—jack-o’-lanterns, scarecrows, bats, spiders, skeletons, and, of course, ghosts hanging from trees and porches. Some people think it is fun. Some people want nothing to do with it. That really is not my subject. I am just using the ghost to get us thinking about something much more real.

Have you ever been ghosted?

Not by something that goes bump in the night, but by someone who used to be part of your life. There were phone calls, text messages, meals together, visits, conversations, and a sense that you knew what was happening in each other’s lives. Then somewhere along the way, they disappeared. No argument. No explanation. No dramatic ending. Just silence.

That can be difficult because our minds do not like unfinished stories. When someone disappears without explanation, we naturally start trying to fill in the blank. Did I do something? Are they angry? Did I matter as much to them as I thought I did? Sometimes we create an explanation simply because having a bad explanation feels easier than having no explanation at all.

1. Do not give up on a friendship too quickly. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loveth at all times.” Friendships go through seasons. People get married. Children come along. Jobs change. Families struggle. People move. Responsibilities grow. Sometimes someone’s life becomes heavier than you realize. Silence does not always mean rejection. You may not occupy the same place in someone’s daily life that you once did, but that does not necessarily mean the friendship was not real. Leave some room for grace.

2. Do not turn a silent friend into an enemy. One of the easiest things to do when communication stops is assign motives to someone who is not there to explain themselves. Proverbs 18:13 says, “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.” You do not know why they stopped calling. Until you actually know otherwise, do not build a case against them in your mind. They may be overwhelmed. They may be hurting. They may be distracted. They may simply be living through a different season. Do not interpret absence as malice without evidence.

3. If that friend really has become an enemy, pray for them. Matthew 5:44 says, “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them.” Maybe one day you discover that the distance was not accidental. Maybe someone really did walk away angry, misunderstood you, criticized you, or simply decided they did not want the friendship anymore. You still do not have to become bitter. That does not mean every relationship has to return to what it once was. It means you refuse to let someone else’s distance determine the condition of your heart.

4. Leave the door open. If one day the phone rings, answer it. If you run into them, speak. If the opportunity comes, address it honestly: “It’s been a long time. I’ve missed talking with you. How have you been?” Then listen. Romans 12:18 says, “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” You cannot control whether someone returns, but you can control whether there is bitterness waiting for them if they do.

5. Keep making friends. Being ghosted can make people withdraw. You start telling yourself, “I’m not getting close to anybody again.” But do not allow one person’s disappearance to make you disappear too. Proverbs 18:24 says, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly.” Keep talking to people. Invite someone to lunch. Send the text. Make the phone call. Sit beside somebody new. Invest in another person. Someone else’s absence does not diminish your value.

And there is one deeper truth beneath all of this. Human friendships change. People move. People get busy. People disappoint us. Seasons shift. But Hebrews 13:5 says, “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”

People may disappear. Christ does not.

So if you have been ghosted, do not spend your life chasing an explanation you may never receive. Give grace where you do not know the story. Forgive where you do. Leave the door open when possible. Keep loving people. Keep making friends. And remember that even when people disappear, Christ remains faithful.

07/22/2026

How do you explain these first verses of the Bible?

Genesis 1:1-3
1In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. 2 Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.
3 And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.

02/05/2026

Canceling the Cultural Crystallization of Christianity

Give me the Bible.

The world is fleeting. Culture rises and falls. Institutions shift. But worship will continue for all eternity, and that worship will belong to the one true God, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.

The Bible is the guiding light and the measuring post for all things spiritual and livable, for all things real and holy. Scripture governs the church and keeps her close to God. The Word of God is living and active, and it alone stands as the final authority over faith, life, and practice. My prayer is that the church, those who truly believe on Jesus Christ, will cling tightly to the Scriptures, read them daily, study them carefully, and allow them to shape every belief, affection, and action. May our homes and our gatherings become places where the Word is opened, discussed, tested, and obeyed. May it once again become the standard by which truth is measured and holiness is defined.

I pray for revival in our country. I pray that it continues to emerge among a younger generation, and even among those with celebrity, wealth, power, and influence. But I also pray that the church responds as the church should, with prayer, discernment, patience, and wisdom.

The most horrific thing we can do to a new convert is to place them on a pedestal or rush them into a position Scripture warns will lead to pride and destruction. A new believer is a spiritual infant. They need time to grow, to be discipled, to be taught, corrected, and grounded in truth. Yes, they can testify to the saving work of God in their life. Yes, they can proclaim what the Lord has done. But like a child, they must be nurtured, protected, and held close to the Word by a faithful church, not turned into a trophy or a spectacle.

In this age of cultural Christianity, crystallized, packaged, marketed, and sold to the church, I say again, give me the Bible.

We are not living in a time where we can afford to lay Scripture aside in favor of feelings, excitement, or emotional momentum. We are not children at a theme park. We are kings and priests. We are wise men and wise women. We are citizens of a kingdom that cannot be shaken.

We are called to cast down every vain imagination raised against Christ, to tear down strongholds, to reject what is of Satan, and to cling to what is good. We are called to show honor where honor is due, to live at peace with our brothers and sisters as much as it depends on us, and to walk in maturity.

In a world filled with recycled blogs and social media posts that misrepresent the church, distort theology, and weaponize psychology and sociology to shame Christ’s bride, we must be discerning. Something that moves us emotionally or resonates with our experience does not automatically carry truth or authority. Only the Word of God does.

Dear Christian, you will know when culture has manufactured its own version of Christianity and attempted to bring it into the church. The church has faced this before. In Revelation, believers were commended for testing those who claimed to be apostles and finding they were not. They tested those who claimed spiritual authority and discovered they were false.

We must do the same.

This is not the hour for sentimental faith or borrowed convictions. This is the hour for Scripture anchored believers who know the Word, love the truth, and live it with courage and humility.

Give me the Bible, and let the church be the church again.

01/20/2026

Family balance in raising children often brings two verses to mind.

One says, “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” Another says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Tara and I are living examples of how those two verses can seem to collide and yet work together beautifully.

Tara was raised in a home where her parents did not practice what many would call spankings or whippings. Discipline came through conversation, instruction, and firm guidance. I was raised by a father who believed deeply in discovering a child’s strengths and weaknesses, pouring into strengths, and correcting weaknesses early and often. He believed that for certain broken rules, a swift and measured punishment created and maintained order. He also believed strongly in direction, pointing us toward wise decisions and away from destructive ones.

Both sets of parents were doing the best they knew how to do, guided by Scripture and motivated by love.

Neither approach produced perfect children. I did plenty of things I never got caught for. Tara, who I lovingly call my angel, will be the first to admit she did not always behave like one in her younger years either. Perfection was never the aim.

The aim was opportunity. The aim was to steer us away from harm, to guard us from our own destructive desires, to point us toward loving God, loving others, becoming influential, and being productive members of our communities.

By God’s grace, both approaches accomplished more than our parents probably imagined years ago. Tara and I both grew into adulthood, marriage, careers, and children of our own.

As a pastor, I am often asked how these seemingly colliding worlds meet in one household.

The truth is, Tara is still very much shaped by her parents. She leans toward firm conversation, direction, and grace, especially with our strong-willed and strong-headed boys. I tend to lean toward a more immediate approach, believing that when a child knows right from wrong, consequences should follow clearly and quickly, and then you move on. Actions have consequences, and clarity matters.

A psychologist once said something that stayed with me. We should be as firm as possible with our children’s bad behavior because what the world will do to them later will be far worse.

I am not a psychologist, and I understand that most modern psychology leans heavily toward reward systems rather than physical discipline. But I know this. I respected my father deeply, not primarily because he disciplined me physically, but because he was a man of truth. When he said not to do something, I knew it was because it would harm me, lead me toward trouble, or plant seeds of destruction.

At forty-one years old, I do not remember the spankings. I remember that what he said was true, and that truth kept many of my carnal ambitions in check.

Tara testifies similarly. She often says the worst thing was not punishment, but being trapped on a long car ride with her dad, unable to leave, while he talked to her about life. It was not fear. It was conviction. She did not want to disappoint him.

Different methods. Same outcome.

In our home, we have found balance.

I try my best to do what I say and say what I do. Tara offers firm, nurturing correction when situations arise. More often than not, I yield to her wisdom, especially in delicate moments. She is my north star when it comes to understanding our boys, who are strong-willed and high-achieving.

She has seen her motherly talks fall flat at times. I have seen my fatherly discipline miss the mark too. But together, we see early signs of manhood forming.

We are not raising mice. We are raising men.

Men who will love their wives, love their communities, be respectful, honorable, and responsible, and steward every opportunity God places in their hands.

How you discipline in your home matters, but not in a one-size-fits-all way. You may lean too hard in one direction and need to pull back toward the center. You may need to lean differently based on your child’s disposition, and that may be exactly what they need.

Parents must evaluate their children honestly. Where are they? What do they understand? What do they need right now?

You may try many methods of reward and discipline and feel like nothing is taking root. But your children are watching more than outcomes. They are watching you. They are learning how parents navigate authority, grace, truth, and love.

One day, whether we realize it or not, they will imitate what they have seen.

So the real question is not just what method you use, but why you use it.

Is your heart leaning toward God’s wisdom and care for your children, or away from it? Are you forming them against sin, or against who God made them to be? Are you shaping them in your image, or pointing them toward Christ?

That is where discipline truly begins.

01/19/2026

Family Balance Disclaimer. Vices May Vary.

You have seen it before. A product is advertised. A solution is offered. Somewhere in small print you read the words results may vary. That statement is partly legal but it is also very human. It simply acknowledges that people are different.

The Bible tells us that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. We do not all struggle in the same ways but we all struggle. Different ages. Different histories. Different wounds. Different temptations. Because people are different the results are different.

Now consider this. What if families need the same disclaimer.

Inside every home between husbands and wives parents and children extended family or close friends there are struggles that are not shared equally. One person may struggle with overworking. Another with escapism. Another with curiosity. Another with pride anger fear or control. Scripture reminds us that each person is tempted when they are drawn away by their own desires. Temptation is personal. Struggle is specific.

Yet it is often easiest to judge the struggles we do not personally carry. Jesus warned us about this when He said why do you see the speck in your brother’s eye but do not notice the log in your own. That truth hits close to home especially with the people we love the most.

This is not a call to ignore sin. God is clear when He says be holy for I am holy. Grace does not cancel truth and truth does not cancel grace. The question is not whether sin should be addressed but how we address it. The Bible teaches that when someone is caught in sin they should be restored with gentleness. How we speak matters. How we listen matters.

Most struggles do not heal in isolation. That is why God gave us family. Family is not meant to be a courtroom. It is meant to be a place of restoration. We are told to bear one another’s burdens and in doing so fulfill the law of Christ.

Some issues require immediate action. Anything that threatens safety marriage or life must be addressed quickly and decisively. But many struggles take time. They take patience prayer forgiveness and repeated grace. Love is patient and kind. Love bears hopes and endures.

Real change is never just about willpower. Scripture reminds us that it is not by might nor by power but by the Spirit of the Lord. When someone overcomes what once controlled them it is not simply personal strength. It is the work of God. If the Son sets you free you are free indeed.

So here is the family disclaimer. Vices may vary but grace must not. Above all keep loving one another because love covers a multitude of sins.

Work together. Speak truthfully. Listen carefully. Protect what matters. Pursue healing in a way that builds trust safety and hope.

Charles Spurgeon once said grace is not blind to sin but it is patient with the sinner. That balance is what every Christian family must learn to live out.

01/19/2026

Family balance is having a place to call home beyond your home and people to call family beyond your family.

For us, Sundays look like worshiping Christ, attending church, and connecting with a community larger than our own household. It also looks like cooking, eating lunch and supper together, doing chores, and finding time to rest.

Raising a family is about continuity. It is about consistency. It is about home. It is about family.

But it is also about having another place to call home.

Ever since Tara and I were married and our children were born, church has been our second home, and the people there have become a second family. We believe it matters to belong to a faith community and to worship Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior through prayer, song, preaching, listening, giving, and serving. That shared rhythm has become an anchor point for us.

Scripture reminds us why this matters:

“Let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24–25

There is never a discussion in our home about whether we are going to church. We simply know we are going. We also know that when we get home there will be chores to do, meals to prepare, and hopefully time for a quick nap. The kids might head outside to play, or on a cold rainy day, fire up the old PS2 or watch Sunday football.

Church fills our morning and our afternoon. Sometimes it means Tara and I stay up past the kids’ bedtime to make sure the house is clean and things are set in order. But it is worth it, because going to church is fruitful and it matters.

John Calvin captured this well when he wrote,

“God is pleased to gather and defend His Church by the preaching of the Word.”

That truth has shaped how we think about family. We want our children, and our children’s children, to understand the importance of having a family beyond your family and a place to call home beyond your home. Something bigger than yourself. Something that gives you awareness, perspective, and a sense of eternity. Something that helps you understand your place in God’s world.

Church has been an anchor point for us. A place of balance. A source of joy. And a gift of consistency our family needed.

I hope you had a great day.
I hope you have a great church.

01/17/2026

What if “I’m sorry” is only the beginning, not the solution?

This morning, Tara and I were discussing what it truly means to be sorry and how to act and move forward after an event in your marriage or household that demands repentance and forgiveness. How do we walk together afterwards, and what should come next?

That conversation led straight into our family devotional.

Scripture tells us that life and death are in the power of the tongue. That means words are meant to carry weight. They are meant to stir the mind, awaken conviction, and move us toward action. When words are overused or used carelessly, they lose their strength.

There are words that need to keep their meaning. Love. Sorry. Good. Bad. Even the names Jesus and God. Our culture uses these words often, but rarely slows down to define them. When words lose definition, they lose power.

So we asked a simple but important question. What does it actually mean to say, “I’m sorry”?

In our home, sorry begins with recognition. It means I understand that what I said or did caused an offense. It hurt you. It bothered you. It may have slowed you down, discouraged you, or made you think less of me or even less of yourself. Saying sorry is the acknowledgment that something was wrong.

But Scripture also reminds us that words alone are not enough. Faith without works is dead. That truth applies to repentance just as much as belief.

Saying sorry should lead to reflection and change. It means looking back at the situation, allowing the other person to speak honestly, receiving their perspective with humility, and asking how I can handle things better next time. That is why it matters for families to define what “sorry” means in their household so the word carries weight and not just emotion.

We also talked about not overusing the word. When sorry is said too quickly or too often, it can become a way to escape responsibility instead of owning it. A soft answer can turn away wrath, but an empty one only delays healing.

Another part of the conversation was responsibility on both sides. The one who caused the offense must be willing to repent. The one who was offended must also be growing emotionally and spiritually so that offense only exists when there is truly an offense present. Scripture calls us to maturity, patience, and grace with one another.

Then we talked about what comes after the words.

Do not leave “I’m sorry” hanging in the air. Action matters. Changed behavior matters. Guardrails matter. Go for a walk together. Talk. Pray. Put protections in place where things are fragile. In a healthy home, forgiveness, repentance, and action work together.

We were reminded of Esau, who wept and was sorry with tears, yet never found repentance because there was no follow through. Emotion can be real, but emotion without obedience fades quickly. True repentance bears fruit.

Scripture reminds us that wisdom is shown not just in what we say, but in what we do after we say it.

Life and death are in the power of the tongue. Proverbs 18:21
Faith without works is dead. James 2:17
Be doers of the word, and not hearers only. James 1:22

May our words be careful, our apologies sincere, and our actions faithful to follow.

01/17/2026

Marriage? Really? While in College? You both must have been out of touch with reality.

We Married as College Students

We married as college students. Not because life was easy, but because we believed marriage was part of how God would shape us.

We did not have careers yet. We did not own a home. We did not have financial security or a perfectly mapped future. What we did have was commitment, godly counsel, and a shared desire to build life together instead of waiting for ideal conditions that never truly arrive.

There is a growing belief that marriage should come after everything is stable. Finish school. Get established. Feel ready. But for us, marriage was not the finish line of preparation. It was the beginning of formation.

Marriage shaped our character. It forced us to communicate clearly, forgive quickly, steward limited resources wisely, and grow together spiritually. We studied together. We worked together. We prayed together. We learned responsibility and resilience side by side.

That season taught us something lasting. Marriage is not sustained by perfect timing. It is sustained by shared purpose.

This is not a prescription for everyone. Wisdom and readiness matter. Counsel matters. But marriage was never designed to be postponed until life is easy. Life does not become easier. It becomes fuller and more demanding.

Marriage is one of God’s instruments for shaping us while we are becoming, not after we have arrived.

Looking back, I am grateful we did not wait for certainty. We learned how to build stability together. Those early years were formative and foundational, and they continue to bear fruit.

We did not marry because everything was secure. We married because we were committed to walking forward together in faith.

When did you get married

01/16/2026

What if balance in the family is not about perfection but about order

Families come in many shades shapes and sizes yet the core of the family unit remains the same. While the appearance of family life may differ God’s design for the home is still biblical and unchanging.

Scripture appeals to both parents and children grounding family life in a universal understanding of right and wrong. Children are called to obey their parents for this is right in the sight of the Lord. This is not arbitrary authority but a call to moral formation rooted in truth.

At the same time Scripture warns fathers not to provoke their children to wrath. Children are developing mentally emotionally spiritually and physically. Emotional responses are not difficult to stir in a child which is why parents are called to shape guide and nurture rather than crush or neglect.

Children are a blessing. They are not a burden or a chore. They are entrusted to families by divine gifting.

For those without biological children Scripture widens the vision of family. Paul speaks of Timothy as his son in the faith and John rejoices that his children walk in the truth. God’s family is built through discipleship as well as blood.

The woman wife and mother is called to pursue humility wisdom and order. Whether her work is inside the home or extends beyond it the home must still be stewarded with care. The home is meant to be a place of safety nourishment learning obedience and accountability where each person understands responsibility and grows within it.

A wife enters marriage having chosen a man she can submit to with trust. Biblical submission is not weakness but confidence rooted in godly leadership. A husband who provides protects listens and leads as a servant reflects the character of Christ and creates an environment where his wife can flourish.

The man husband and father is called to be the foundation and anchor of the home. He studies the life of Christ and the examples of faithful men in Scripture knowing he will one day answer for how he led his household. He is a comfort to his wife and a guide to his children laying down his life so they may thrive in godliness.

When these foundations are in place the family begins to function with purpose and direction. Not perfectly but intentionally. Shared responsibilities shared goals and shared faith begin to shape the rhythm of the home.

Healthy families become good neighbors good citizens and strong contributors to the local church and community. With the core established families can begin to talk about practical matters such as managing the home finances discipline church involvement service and generosity all while asking the most important question how does our home glorify God in action.

Balance is not automatic. It is practiced daily. Over time balance becomes a reflex shaped by conversation correction patience and grace. There will be disagreements and growing pains but maturity and fruitfulness follow faithful obedience.

A godly home does not happen by accident. It is built intentionally biblically and faithfully for the glory of God.

Pastor Robert Altman

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