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02/08/2024
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We usually ignore how important our daily routines are.
One routine action can set a couple an inch apart, and another can bring them closer. Imagine if you did them for 5, 10, 15,... years!
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01/09/2024
Anger and resentment are normal reactions to betrayal. But it is not the most important, not even the final phase of dealing with betrayal.
You need to move on to the next stage of acknowledging, understanding, and analyzing the betrayal, both emotionally and mentally.
If you do this step right and with brutal honesty, you will see the true image of the experience. You will face the truth that you may not like it or that it may be too difficult to accept. But that’s your only way to grow out of the betrayal, move on, and mature. That’s when you can stop the betrayal cycle, at least to the extend you have control. You'll go from bitterness to tenderness and wisdom.
12/28/2023
Life has a way of accumulating baggage—unresolved issues that weigh on our hearts, casting shadows on our present and dimming the light of our future. But here’s the secret: within the act of resolution lies the key to liberation and an extraordinary transformation.
Think of those lingering conversations you’ve avoided, the apologies left unspoken, and the bridges that may seem burned but are not beyond repair. They are the puzzle pieces of your journey, waiting to be put in their place.
Imagine a life where you no longer carry the heavy load of the past, where clarity and peace become your constant companions. This is not a distant dream; it’s an achievable reality, and it starts with a simple act: acknowledging the issue and reaching out.
Comment below or DM me if you have an unfinished business that has been long overdue.
12/15/2023
Our past is not evidence of what’s possible for us, it’s only evidence of what has happened before. The future can be exactly what we make it to be - it’s a collection of our choices and decisions that determine our destiny. When we see life through the lens of our past, we put a ceiling to what we can experience in life.
We act out of fear and scarcity. We think what has been is what it will ever be. We make decisions based on our fears and insecurities & ultimately recycle our experiences. Liberation begins when we choose to step out of the limitedness of our past and believe in the possibility of our future.
When we choose faith over fear. When we decide to create our future on our terms, without the tainted perceptions of the past weighing us down.
We pick our partners based on familiarity!
I, like everyone else, think my mom cooks the best food. It’s not that my mom is the best cook in the world; rather, I grew up with her food, and her food is familiar to me, and I enjoy food whenever it tastes like hers.
If a little girl lacks proper intimacy with her father, she may have trouble forming real intimacy with other men when she grows up. She will be attracted to a man with whom she can’t form a fulfilling intimate relationship because he brings up similar emotions that she felt with her father. She craves intimacy with both of them.
Not all familiar experiences are healthy and pleasant, like your mom’s food. If you’re attracted to familiar toxic behaviors or people, you need to understand the root of that desire, heal from it, and choose a healthier alternative. In the beginning, it may feel uncomfortable or strange, but you’ll acquire a taste for better "food".
11/24/2023
“Love Addict” 💕
Study shows that when you “fall in love”, a special neurotransmitter in your brain seems to exist more than normal.
After you’re in a relationship with that person, that substance reduces in your brain and it may be replaced with boredom, sadness, or depression.
Some people who jump from one relationship to another often are addicted to this transmitter substance. They are excited and tempted to not stay in a relationship. They are ant to start a new relationship, they want to experience the neurotransmitter in their body again and again.
That’s called “love addiction”.
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When we don’t believe that we are worthy of love, we can’t trust anyone to love us.
We will not believe in true love, regardless of how much genuine love we receive from our partner or anyone else. We will question their motives and the genuineness of their love. We will be searching for a reason to convince ourselves that someone pretends to love us, but in reality they have their own agenda. Our unconscious mind, or even our conscious mind, will say, “Why would they genuinely love me when there is no reason to love me?” If we are completely honest with ourselves, we will never trust true love from anyone, and no one can convince us.
In reality, we will attract partners who are emotionally unavailable and cannot give love. Or we will push away and frustrate a partner who genuinely loves us because they get tired of proving their love.
Should men be vulnerable in their relationships?
Is being vulnerable attractive to women?
Watch this LIVE to learn about these questions and many other topics that came up about men being vulnerable, the effect of their childhood experience on their behaviors, what attracts women, the consequences of being vulnerable, and many more.
Toxic habits in relationshipsđź’”
Do you see any unhealthy habits that you or your partner repeat in your relationship? Let us know in the comments.
In this LIVE me and Chantal discussed toxic behaviors that we repeat in our relationships, why we do them, and what the alternative is.