WakeUp.KickAss.Repeat Life Coaching

We fight for the people who treat us like crap. We love the ones, who don't deserve it. We cry for people, who don't think twice about us. We try so hard for ones, who always let us down. There's only so much, you can do. Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace. So either make yourself miserable or make yourself strong. The amount of work is the same.🤔

The worst marriage advice I ever received? “Never go to bed angry.”

That advice almost ruined some of our nights.

A few years ago, my husband and I were cleaning the kitchen late at night. One minute we were talking about our stressful day, the next, we were arguing. We were both tired, drained, and not exactly our best selves.

By the time we got upstairs, the tension followed us. We sat on the bed, barely able to keep our eyes open, but still trying to make our points.

I remembered that advice ringing in my head:
“Don’t go to bed mad. Resolve it now.”

So there I was, spiraling.

Do I stay up and push for resolution just to check some box?
Do I force an apology that neither of us is ready to give?
Do we keep going until 2am, saying things we don’t mean just to say we didn’t go to sleep angry?

Then something happened.

My husband sat up, gently put his arm around me and said, “I love you. We’re both exhausted. Let’s sleep on it. We’ll talk tomorrow when we’ve rested. Right now, we’ll just hurt each other more.”

That moment changed everything.

Because we didn’t need to fix it right now.
We needed sleep.
We needed space.
We needed love without resolution.

So we said “I love you.”
Held hands.
Faced opposite directions, and fell asleep still a little mad, but still choosing each other.

The next morning?
We talked. Calmly. Kindly. With clarity, and came to a better place than we ever would have the night before.

That night taught me something I’ll never forget..

You can go to bed mad.
You can be upset and still choose love.
You can pause a fight without pausing your commitment.

Because sometimes the healthiest thing you can do, is roll over, hold hands, and get some damn sleep.

We don’t always need closure at midnight.
We need kindness. We need grace, and we need to remember we’re on the same team, even when we’re tired, triggered, and totally over it.

So yeah, we go to bed mad sometimes.

We just make sure to always reach for each other under the covers.

That’s what a real, and safe, love looks like.

❤️

Glow-ups after 40 hit different.
They’re quieter. Wiser.
They don’t chase applause - they move in alignment.
It’s not about being seen.
It’s about seeing yourself clearly, finally.

This is the era of rising,
Softly, but surely.
Not needing to prove.
Just needing to be.

You’re not starting over.
You’re starting from wisdom.
And that’s a different kind of powerful.

Keep going.

Your glow is just getting started.🖤🕊️🤍

Forgive them for not knowing how to love you right. They struggle to love themselves, and that's why they couldn't give you what you deserve. Let it go, and remind yourself that there's nothing else you could have done.

Stop invalidating other peoples feelings when you don’t agree. 🗣🗣🗣🗣

Sometimes there's no going back..you have to decide which bridges to burn and which ones to build... no telling how its going to end.. but it's much easier when others help you in choosing...even though they don't know!
Actions, or lack thereof, speak louder than words.

Those who are hardest to love, need it the most! ♥️👌🏼💋

The greatest gift you can give someone is the feeling of being understood, heard and seen. People need acknowledgement. They need someone to talk to. So the best gift is to just listen to them without invalidating them because it's their story. They don't need to feel guilty for being sad, for feeling tired or frustrated. What they need is empathy and support. Your words can make or break them. Choose to be kind and compassionate while respecting their decision to share their thoughts with you.

Men deserve a good life too, their job isn’t just to make money, pay bills, and die. They deserve just as much love, affection, and respect as us women do. Some men are only loved by what they can do for a woman, granted no woman wants a bum but learn the difference between a bum and a MAN that is progressing & trying while he’s loving you, being a father, & dealing with personal stuff. Help him where you can. It’s all about team effort. Be a blessing not another problem. It goes both ways 💯

There's always a reason why we meet people.
Either you will change their life, or they will change yours.

Be so busy loving your own life that you'll have no time for fear, hate, or regret. 💛

It's funny how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn't live without, and then we fall in love with what we didn't even know we wanted. Life keeps leading us on journeys we would never go on if it were up to us. Don't be afraid.
Have faith. Find the lessons.
Trust the journey.