Coming Closer with Andre Lazarus

Virgin island season 2 ended with a beautiful climax. I could not be more proud of the growth of every participant. The world better be ready🔥✨

Have you ever been curious about the benefits of Men’s circles and groups? and I sit down with the participants of to share real, raw honesty about our journey’s as men in dating and intimacy.
Don’t miss Virgin island 🏝️

Virgin Island is back! 🔥

Here are the transmission dates for Virgin Island in the UK.

Episode 1 - 9pm, Mon 27th April
Episode 2 - 9pm, Tues 28th April
Episode 3 - 9pm, Mon 4th May
Episode 4 - 9pm, Tues 5th May
Episode 5 - 9pm, Mon 11th May
Episode 6 - 9pm, Tues 12th May
Episode 7 - 9pm, Mon 18th May.
Episode 8 - 10pm, Mon 18th May.
(Last two episodes is a double bill)

Tune in to see some amazing live transformations 🪄

Touching yourself isn’t just a “nice to have”, it’s one of the most underrated wellness tools you already own. Research in somatic psychology shows that self-touch activates the parasympathetic nervous system, helping your body shift out of stress mode and into regulation.

When you place a hand on your chest, your belly, your thighs, anywhere with intention, you’re sending your brain a direct message: I’m here, I’m safe, I’m connected.

Studies on affective touch even show that slow, intentional strokes stimulate C-tactile fibers, the nerve endings responsible for feelings of emotional soothing and bonding. We often think connection only happens with others, but the science is clear: your body responds powerfully to your own hands.

And honestly? It doesn’t have to be serious or ceremonial. Think of self-touch as your personal portable hug machine, something that can bring you back into your body before a date, after a stressful meeting, or on a Sunday morning when you’re trying to decide if you’re a “get up early” person or a “stay in bed forever” person.

The more you build this playful, curious relationship with your own skin, the more attuned you become to pleasure, boundaries, and emotional presence with others.

It’s fun, it’s grounding, and it’s literally hardwired into your biology. Touch yourself not because you should, but because your body is always craving a little love from the one person it spends every moment with: you.

Looking at the patterns that hold us back is one of the most powerful gateways into living a more authentic life. Most people don’t realize how much of their day-to-day behavior is shaped by old conditioning, beliefs inherited from family, past relationships, or moments where they had to shrink to feel safe.

When you start paying attention to these patterns, you begin to see where you abandon yourself, where you play small, or where you defer to others at the cost of your own truth. Awareness isn’t just a feel-good concept; it’s a practical shift that helps you stop repeating the same emotional loops and start choosing what actually aligns with who you are becoming.

The process becomes even more transformative when you pair awareness with tangible, grounded tools. One of the simplest and most effective is writing things down: the places in your life where you feel stuck, the areas where you silence yourself, or the moments where you hold someone else back from being in their fullest expression.

When you put these patterns on paper, they stop being vague feelings and become something you can actually work with. From there, you can practice interrupting unhelpful habits, creating boundaries, and choosing new behaviors that move you forward.

This is how you get out of your own way, by naming the pattern, understanding it, and then taking small, consistent steps toward a more honest, liberated version of yourself.

Episode 7 of the Talented Lover Playbook!

Tell me if this sounds like you…

You finish quicker than you want. You stress about keeping it up. You wonder if she’s really satisfied and instead of passion, s£x feels like pressure.

You’re not alone. I’ve coached men around the world who struggled with the exact same thing.

Here is a simple yet helpful tip, breathing deeply…

The deeper you breath, make noise, move your body..the less you will be fixated on the building sensations happening in your ge****ls.

Practice counting the number of times you are breathing which can also help spread the sensations throughout your body, rather than just concentrating them in one area.

Practice makes perfect, so don’t get yourself down if it doesn’t happen right away. You will see progress the more you try it.

Enjoy!