05/07/2023
This week in my pondering of all things that is horsemanship and humanship, I am reminded of a couple of familiar sayings,”actions speak louder than words” and “ it’s not what you say it’s how you say it”.
While both of these sayings hold great weight and validity, is there one these that carries more meaning than the other? For me it would be the former,”actions speak louder than words”, for the simple fact if you’re not doing what you’re saying then what you’re saying has no weight or validity in the the first place. They are just empty words lacking any substance or meaning.
The latter phrase,”it’s not what you say it’s how you say it”, I believe to be very important also. But if it’s not backed up by the work you are doing then it’s just empty words, promises of no worth or value.
I see so many in the horse world that are much better talkers than they are doers of good work.
They will write a lengthy article of what you should be doing with all the feel good words that spark emotion to sell you on a way or product that will solve all your problems. You can often notice that they repeat keywords over and over again that help to anchor their thoughts into your head. A lot of times they will also throw in some cool quotes by others which are masters at their craft as if bonding the idea they are selling a long with those that are historically known to achieve great results. Not because what they are doing is in line with these teachings but because these teachers hold great weight and if you “name drop” someone might see you in the same light. At least long enough for them to sell you on their idea.
While these people are very good wordsmiths and stir emotion within you, the question you have to ask yourself is this. Do their actions speak louder than their words? Can they achieve the work they so eloquently speak of? Or are they just bottling up these words mixed with a tincture of something that makes you feel good and selling snake oil? How will you know? The same way the Bible tells you to know false prophets, by the fruit of their labor. You will know by their works. But so often you won’t see their works, you’ll just hear their words. And if you do see their works make sure it aligns with their words.