Divorce Coach Vicki

06/29/2022

This!

09/09/2021

"After the relationship ends, the perpetrator often sets their sights on the child(ren) to exert control, and to terrorize the healthy parent. Every high-conflict divorce or child custody battle has three basic narratives: the abuser's need for control, the abuser's need to win, and the abuser's desire to hurt or punish the healthy parent. These three things are the foundation of post-separation abuse."

- Tina Swithin -⁣⁣
Authority Magazine
⁣"One Mom's Battle Founder Tina Swithin: "What You Need to Know to Survive and Thrive From Divorcing a Narcissist"⁣
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To read the full article, go to: https://medium.com/authority-magazine/one-moms-battle-founder-tina-swithin-what-you-need-to-know-to-survive-and-thrive-from-divorcing-8ad38650b994

07/30/2021

Reframing thinking about divorce is empowering! Divorce is the opportunity to make yourself happy no matter what. My other ‘job’ is a landlord. I have always enjoyed fixing things and troubleshooting. Now, I can crawl (or shimmy) my way under houses to fix plumbing and no one can tell me to just get someone else to do it. The internal satisfaction of being able to do it is invaluable and just makes me freaking happy. So, go do what you want and rock it! Let me know if you want to see/hear more of my landlord adventures and how it relates to reframing your thinking.


P.S. If you see me in public, (which will most likely be at a hardware store) I will probably be dirty with paint or something on me with kids in tow.

05/14/2021

Choose you battles wisely. I have had to learn the this hard way. It is difficult not to defend yourself when personally attacked. Often the person attacking is in a bad emotional space and it is not worth defending yourself.

05/13/2021

05/10/2021

Becoming aware of what is happening is vital to stopping the psychological warfare and healing from it. Is a long and painful road but so worth it.

The narcissist's most dangerous weapon creates chemistry with an empath.

05/03/2021

Self care is vital to our every day happiness. It doesn’t just mean vacations and mani/pedis. It is everyday habit of loving ourselves and doing the things that promote self love. Sometimes it is just saying no when we need to.

Doing what's uncomfortable, and allowing yourself to be imperfect.

05/03/2021

So often I hear divorce/separation stories and people cannot wrap their head around what is happening. Sometimes they are experiencing Post Separation Abuse. It comes in a variety for forms and the abuser will often switch back and forth to keep the victim on the defense. This wheel from One Moms Battle breaks it down clearly. Once the victim understands the pattern, they will be able to deal with the abuse proactively, establish boundaries, and begin to heal.

04/28/2021

Wow! This talk applies to so many areas of life. As parents, we’re always ‘crazy busy’. This ER doctor effectively explains what happens when we shift our thinking about busy. We then can be proactive instead of reactive which reduces overall stress and improves our thinking abilities. Tag a friend or share to someone that has a crazy busy life!

How do doctors in the emergency room stay calm and focused amidst the chaos? Drawing on years of experience, ER doctor Darria Long shares a straightforward framework to help you take back control and feel less overwhelmed when life starts to get "crazy busy."

04/26/2021

This is a thought provoking read. These divorces can be the ones that turn ‘high conflict,’ but the truth is it only takes one person to make a divorce high conflict. Coaching will help you manage the conflict but not engage in it. If you are the person causing the conflict, we can work together to manage your stress and behaviors to lead to a more amicable divorce.

Your successful friends aren't dating toxic jerks because they have low standards —it's much more complex than that.

04/25/2021

I am offering three 30 minute discovery sessions. Please share this post and hopefully we together can help someone struggling with any issue surrounding divorce.

A Divorce Coach can teach you how to negotiate, how to best support your kids, and how to set up your post-divorce recovery and transition to your new life.

04/23/2021

Time for everyone to brag on themselves! What are you proud of? I am proud of all of the personal growth I have gone through in my journey to be the best version of myself. Some of it sucked but was well worth it!