The Mama's Desk & Dad's Guide

IF IT MAKES YOU CANCEL THE GAME
so dad's we know you love something when it makes you cancel the soccer and honestly I have only seen this when it comes to a daughter dad relationship.😂.

but try to balance it up 😉 if you have a boy as well.the little dudes love to emulate you and the girls feel so secure around you so don't break hearts .

balance it up even when it gets to the mother ,don't get the little one and forget the big one . find a way .

HEY DADS
the best time to bond with your little one is when they are still so young.
find time ,create the time ,utilise the bedtime routine among others .

it makes your partner happy to see you involved . make an effort no matter how busy or tired you are. create play time so that you're little one can get used to Dad's special play time every evening 😉.make silly faces. it doesn't take much .
be extra involved

WAYS FOR DADS TO BOND WITH THE BABY

Bonding with a newborn can be overwhelming for dad. We've gathered a few fun ways for him to spend time with his little one.
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1.Cradle Baby Close
2.Take the Night Shift
3.soothe her tears
4. make silly faces
5.take him for a walk
6.try a baby massage
7.make special play time
8.daddy dance party
9.take on diaper duty
10.take a sick day when your baby is sick
11.be part of bedtime routine

kind reminder moms ,please tell the maids and baby sitters too
Little girls need to have their private parts wiped from front to back, so as not to get f***l material in their ge***al area.

🤰🤰🤰why breast feeding gives the best start in life .
Breast milk has everything your baby needs in the first months of life – in exactly the right amount and combination, always available and completely free.

No other baby food offers so much protection against infections and illnesses. Studies show that breastfed babies suffer considerably less often from ear infections, diarrhoea or respiratory and urine infections. Also, in later adult life, they are less prone to some intestinal illnesses or Type 2 diabetes, for example.

Suckling at the breast promotes the development of the mouth muscles and exercises the jaw. This exercising has a positive effect on speech development and eating solid food later.

If your baby is given only breast milk in the first six months, you can reduce the risk of allergies. It is also advisable at the beginning to avoid products with cow’s milk, so that you do not give your child any foreign proteins.

Breastfeeding is soothing – for you too. Even if life can sometimes be strenuous, you calm down and gain new energy. Also, the very first time your baby drinks from you, lots of hormones are released, making your maternal feelings even stronger.

Your health profits too: early and regular breastfeeding reduces the risk of infections and bleeding after the birth. Even the risk of breast cancer can be decreased.

Breastfeeding can also help you get back in shape after the birth. You burn up more calories and can slowly and gently lose weight. Your womb also shrinks back more quickly.

see guilt😂😂😂

How do we make the environment around our kids safe !
so I have been hearing very unfortunate stories of things that have happened to kids while their parents are away at work.like r**e ,maids exposing them to po*******hy,uncles harassing them ,relatives and shopkeepers introducing them to po*******hy and so much more heart wrenching stories.😭

The thing is you need the money, you need to work and take care of your family so you have to be away during day .

I have also learnt that the parents whose kids have experienced these tough ordeals have not been able to forgive themselves .
As moms how do we create a good environment for our kids to flourish and grow ? that's a question for you and me .
we often read these stories and we sympasize and throw pittyfilled words in the comment sections but remember it's the people that are so close to us that hurt our kids .

no matter what we do or how busy we are ,let's try to protect these kids God has given us. there is no excuse.

so if you have been a strict mom ,very strict with the maids and you feel like you need to let lose and become linient please just tighten up . know your child's whereabouts even from 2years . terrible things have happened to 2year olds .if you are working ,call home find out if they have eaten,call to remind the maid of something . install cameras send someone to come home abruptly ,just do something about it . be intentional.

and above all P.R.A.Y for your child. we can't do it all by ourselves .we can't hide them enough .we have no power to stop these unfortunate situations such that our kids don't fall prey but we can pray to God who sees everything and has the power .
as a parent or a mom ,one of the things you have to prepare for before walking into parenting is a praying lifestyle.you need to up your praying.

we pray they eat well ,we pray our boys don't fall down often ,we even pray for bowl movements to happen and to happen well. so let's always ask for protection ,you can't trust anyone with your child.
only God!!

Dear husband I still love you first.
we get these kids and somehow life begins to overwhelm because you have to juggle work,ministry ,home ,hubby and the babies.
so after along day your husband comes back home hoping to fall in warm hands Instead they find the opposite.

so when my husband is almost home,despite being so tired I get my self together ,prepare my mind and I say to myself yes you are exhausted but you've got to give him the best ! he is almost here 😀. thereafter I layout a plan in my head and know that once he arrives ,I will serve him dinner,we will have a small chat of how our days went ,(I wonder why men don't know how to tell stories )😂.he will summarise it all in two sentences ,but yeah give him a simple massage,watch a movie together and then head to bed. I make sure that's our time that kids can't interrupt .all days can't be the same but I can say I try . some days we just sit and watch a movie quietly till one of us catches sleep.remember not all days will have stories and it's okay.ofcourse weekends are huge and should be planned for very well so as to make memories and be happy .

it has worked for me , I programme myself ,prepare my mind such that he doesn't feel left out.
moms it's important that you create time for your dear husband remember a healthy and happy environment is good for your kids development and it starts with you as mom and dad ! so create it

postpartum here we go

This is what postpartum mamas actually need This is a picture of me mid-meltdown during my second week as a mom of two. I just got done breastfeeding for what felt like the 100th time and my husband had just entered the room asking if I needed anything, and I said no. When he walked out, I just broke down. Because there were SO many things I ...