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❝𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐮𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐫𝐮𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭? 🤔💭❞
Maybe you’re on the phone, cooking, focusing on work, or — for us teachers — teaching in the classroom, and suddenly you hear:
“Teacher… Teacher… Teacher…”
or
“Mommy… Mommy… Look at this!”
I’m sure many parents and teachers have experienced moments like this. 💛
So, how do Montessori classrooms usually handle this situation? 🧐
One simple and respectful Montessori solution is the “Hand on Shoulder” technique.
Young children are naturally excitable. They are still learning patience and often want immediate attention. That’s why they tend to interrupt loudly or repeatedly call for adults when they need something.
As adults, especially at home, we may sometimes become impatient, raise our voices, or feel frustrated in return.
For parents and teachers experiencing this, I would love to recommend trying the Montessori “Hand on Shoulder” technique. ✨
It’s very simple.
In the classroom, teachers can introduce it as part of a Grace & Courtesy presentation.
Teach the child that whenever an adult is talking or working, and the child needs help, attention, or wants to say something, instead of shouting or interrupting, they can quietly walk over and gently place a hand on the adult’s shoulder.
Then, the adult gently touches the child’s hand or nods to acknowledge them — as if saying:
“I see you. I will listen soon.”
This reassures the child that they are seen and heard, and that the adult will come to them once they finish what they are doing.
After finishing the task, the adult can turn to the child and say:
“Thank you for waiting. What did you want to tell me?”
With this small habit, adults can finish their work peacefully, while children also learn that they will still receive attention and support without needing to interrupt loudly.
This respectful practice helps children develop:
• Patience
• Respect for others when they are talking or working
• Calm and peaceful communication
• The ability to wait without shouting
It also becomes incredibly helpful in social situations and public places.
Consistency is important, so gentle reminders and regular practice are needed. Adults should also model the same respectful behavior by gently touching a child’s shoulder when asking for their attention instead of shouting from far away.
Small respectful lessons like this can naturally help children build strong social skills and emotional awareness.
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