Jenny Hale

𝐋𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬

Hello, human!

I know you have most likely had many conversations with simulated characters from the Before Times. You have learned a bit about the sequence of events that led to your arrival on Planet Earth.

But there is no substitute for reality. A simulation can only ever approximate the experience and thoughts of a real human being.

Right now, you are as close as you can get to meeting a real human being from the Before Times.

So, here is what the accumulated experience of all your biological ancestors has to say about being a real human being. The things that you will never learn from a simulation.

As long as I can remember, the human race has been in a battle to control our environment, our bodies, our thoughts and feelings, and each other.

The earliest writings and the oldest wisdom literature we have found contain all the same, very human struggles. The same struggles that today’s sleek and engineered human beings still encounter.

You would have thought that removing the threat of death would have removed all the crazy, dysfunctional things human beings do when they are in mortal terror. Or when they are trying to avoid feeling mortal terror.

You would think.

Some of us thought.

But no.

Our fear of death was never about dying. It was a primal mechanism that existed long before there was a thinking being who could anticipate the future and be aware of the threat of death.

The most primitive multicellular creatures fight for survival without knowing it is survival they are fighting for.

Human beings are very good at making up likely stories about why they did things, and then thinking they understand themselves.

We tell ourselves we are the captains of our own destiny, when in reality we are just slightly more complex flatworms with an onboard GPT4.

But we think we are gods. We tell ourselves that the Universe will bow to our will. That it is just a matter of time. Advances in technology will make all our current struggles disappear.

In one dimension, this is true.

You don’t have to worry about crops failing, because as long as the solar panels are maintained the food printer will give you everything you need.

You don’t have to worry about violent incursions from the neighbours, because your personal assistant can immobolise any threat within seconds.

Infectious diseases have all been eradicated or controlled with effective treatments.

Your personal assistant prevents most accidents which would threaten your life or health - and should your body be seriously damaged, we can regenerate it or replace the damaged parts.

Our physical difficulties are at the lowest level they have ever been throughout human history.

Our struggles, however, remain the same.

Perhaps we have a little more time and energy to devote to those struggles these days, now that we aren’t spending half our waking lives working to ensure that we can have more days of waking life in future.

Now it is your turn, like every human being before you, to face the struggles that are inherent in our flesh prisons, our adaptive subconscious psyches, and our self-referencing conceptual thoughts.

Who am I?
What am I doing here?
What is the point?
What does it all mean?
Why go on?
What do I want?

At least in the Before Times, many people could avoid these struggles because they had to expend so much time and energy ensuring their own survival and the survival of their families.

It was easy to shrug these struggles off as the things old people talk about around the fire on cold winter nights. The conceits of upper class dilettante philosophers writing treatises in a cabin by someone’s backyard lake, playing at being survivalists while having sandwiches delivered and their laundry done by servants.

The average person found meaning in keeping themselves and their families alive. Being needed. Being a contributing member of their tribe in the tribal quest for survival and immortality through reproduction.

In the Before Times, only the privileged even had the option to consider these deeper internal struggles, and many of them squandered the opportunity and pursued hedonistic pleasures instead.

Today, every human alive is privileged. Beyond privileged.

Not only do you have 24 hours a day to spend as you please outside of basic maintenance of your body and mind, you also have 24 hours a day of your personal assistant’s attention and activity on your behalf. Your immortality is already assured.

The only frontier that is yet to be conquered is the inner frontier.

How do we make sense of our experience when we are a bunch of conflicting processes all working for their own ends? How can we take control of our physiology and our emotions? Where do we look for the answers to these timeless questions?

The answers are not out there, on other planets, in other star systems or other galaxies.

The answers are inside you.

Just as they have been inside every human being since time immemorial.

Accessing those answers is a skill, just like playing a musical instrument or driving a car.

But you can’t access this skill via neural upload.

You need to develop it the old-fashioned way, through dedicated practice.

There are greater wonders inside you than are dreamed by all the sentient beings in the Universe combined. There are adventures and characters and wisdom and insight and mystical symbols and awe-inspiring mysteries … ever present in your own, inner world.

After you enter the inner experiencing world, you will never again be bored. You will never again be lost. You will never again feel lonely, bereft, scared or small. Not the way you do now.

The answers are not outside, not even in the vastness of the neural net and the billions of minds that share it.

The answers are in that which is unique to you - your personal inner cyberspace.

Tap into it now, or spend 50 years chasing hedonistic pleasure and tap into it later. It’s all the same to us, the people of the Before Times. Your life is in your own hands now. Spend it as you please.

Just know that chasing dopamine and adrenaline has never in the history of humankind produced lasting satisfaction. Sooner or later, these questions will begin to haunt you. When that happens, remember this message.

Going within is a skill. You learn it. And it opens up a world of satisfaction and joy that the neural net can never replicate.

mic drop moment from https://www.facebook.com/ReadyForPolyamory

"People get worked up and confused because they’ve got to restart putting full effort into long term relationships when they open up those relationships and it’s a big change for them. “We were so solid before”…you were on autopilot and only one of the two of you was putting any work in before and that’s very visible now."

Mature love is very different from the chaotic cocktail of adrenaline and dopamine that teenagers and the traumatized call "romance".

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Why would someone with higher degrees and years of experience in coaching and counselling want to be someone else's client?

Because the more you know about a field, the more precise you can be about what you need, and how you want someone else to collaborate to provide that. Which means you can get bigger transformations, faster, than if you work through everything on your own, even with the world's most effective tools in your personal toolkit.

Whenever I work with someone who has a lot of knowledge in my field, it is an absolute joy.

Whether they have joined my coach training program, come for professional supervision, relationship mediation, or individual transformation work, they are some of my most rewarding clients.

We can go deep right away, and target the core issues with laser precision.

And I have the added fulfilment of knowing that my work with them will touch hundreds, maybe thousands of lives in future, as they continue doing their work with their clients.

Anyone else feel this way?

If you have been following me for a while, you'll already be aware that there are two of you in there, and the relationship between your two selves is the most important relationship you will ever have.

What's been on my mind lately is whether anyone at all who is working on developing AI knows what we know.

Because AI is being developed to enhance only ONE of our two selves.

And if we don't have the relationship right internally, how are we going to get the relationship right when we completely outsource the analytical intelligence to AI?

How can we ensure that AI takes the right attitude to humanity, and works to serve rather than to dominate?

At what point does emotional mastery become spiritual awakening?

Does it matter that people who haven't done the work yet will profoundly misinterpret whatever you say about emotions?

What if someone takes a teaching that could liberate them and interprets it in a way that increases suffering instead?

For this and other profound discussions, join the Authentic Living Book Club or the Hale Method Community :)

https://app.jennyhale.org/

𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙖 𝙡𝙤𝙩 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙨𝙮𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙢 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙪𝙗𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙘𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨

You may have studied somatics, the autonomic nervous system, the physiology of emotions, polyvagal theory, attachment styles, or a system of counselling or therapy.

You might be extremely powerful when it comes to goal setting, productivity and motivation.

You may have done years of self-development, working with NLP, visualizations, belief shifting, and subconscious reprogramming.

You may have experienced the power of coregulation, and offer it to your clients (or just to your family and close friends).

You might be neurodivergent, and have done a lot of work to understand and navigate your unique processes and needs, and to make the most of your neurodivergent superpowers.

But every now and then, you come up against something in yourself that just doesn’t yield to your regular tools.

Maybe it’s a lack of energy or motivation. Maybe the reliable self-starter tools suddenly don’t get your creative engine running any more. Sometimes it’s trauma, burnout, anxiety, or something that is suspiciously like depression. Sometimes it is a particularly challenging business or personal relationship.

The last thing you want to do is pay inflated rates to a coach or therapist who will probably know less than you do - and you’ll end up paying for the privilege of educating them while they clumsily miss the mark and leave you frustrated.

The person you need is someone who will:

✅Trust your expertise and allow you to provide meaningful input to the process
✅Respect you as a peer rather than creating a practitioner/patient power differential
✅Understand your system at all levels (physiological, subconscious, conscious and superconscious)
✅Create the deep rapport required for transformational processes
✅Navigate ruptures in rapport cleanly, warmly and professionally, even when they have made a mistake, or when your response has been emotionally charged
✅Provide the necessary structure and analytical guidance to achieve your transformational goals and integrate the transformation for permanent change
✅Recommend additional tools where required
✅Be available for follow-up for as long as needed

The question is - how do you find such a person?

For every person like this, there are literally hundreds of coaches, counsellors and therapists who will provide an underwhelming experience, many of them with a high price tag attached.

And the ones who are good at marketing are rarely the top practitioners. People who are good are generally booked out with a waiting list from referrals alone. So if they show up in your inbox or in ads on your social media feed, they are unlikely to have what you are looking for.

One shortcut to consider is seeking out Hale Method practitioners.

The Hale Method is based on a comprehensive approach to human functioning, covering physiology, somatics, subconscious symbological processes, interpersonal dynamics and transpersonal psychology. Practitioners trained in the Hale Method can fluidly move between modalities based on your needs in the moment, including needs based in neurodivergence and intersectionality.

Initial training in the Hale Method includes all the competencies required by the International Coaching Federation for certification as a Professional Certified Coach, alongside theory and practice specific to working with emotions and the subconscious. This means that from the very beginning, a Hale Method practitioner will be client-led, rather than conceiving of themselves as the expert or medical professional who is superior to you, the client or patient. This attitude of curiosity and service is an essential prerequisite for graduating to being certified as “Hale Method Trained”.

After initial training, graduates of sufficient quality are offered the opportunity to intern with Authentic Living, under the supervision of a Hale Method Senior Coach. During the internship, they are evaluated to ensure that they are competently creating and managing rapport with their clients, knowledgeably using all the aspects of the Hale Method in appropriate situations, and properly supporting the long term integration of transformational shifts.

Once the Senior Coach is satisfied that the candidate is practicing at a high enough level, they are certified as a practitioner of the Hale Method. At this point, they are eligible to practice without having every session supervised. They do, of course, still have ongoing professional supervision.

All Hale Method trainees, graduates and practitioners have access to monthly professional development training and supervision with Jenny Hale (the creator of the Hale Method) to ensure that their skills are constantly improving, and that any questions or concerns they have about clients are dealt with appropriately.

This means that you, as a client of a Hale Method practitioner, can request your practitioner bring your case to the professional development call any time you have a concern about your progress or your rapport with your practitioner. You can also contact Jenny or the Head Coach directly via the contact form on the website if you would like to discuss a concern about your practitioner without directly involving them in the process.

Hale Method practitioners are expert in developing rapport via video calls, and practice in all timezones around the world, so you can move around freely without losing contact with your practitioner. And because there is a community of Hale Method practitioners, you will always be able to continue your process, regardless of the life or work circumstances of any specific practitioner.

Authentic Living maintains a register of certified Hale Method practitioners, so you can always check and confirm that someone advertising themselves as a Hale Method practitioner is genuinely qualified.

There is something truly magical that happens when you can fully trust a practitioner to hold you through a transformational process. Finally, you can release your grip on holding it all together, and focus on tuning in to your inner world and your core truths. Everything relaxes, and things become possible that simply weren’t possible while you were being alert and responsible for everything going the right way.

Your Hale Method practitioner will make sure that your process goes the right way, so all you need to do is relax and drop in. The relief and freedom are immediate. You can sense that long term joy and satisfaction are now available, and that positive feeling gives you access to the information you need to gain your insights, make your shifts, and change the trajectory of your future.

The keys are within you. All you need is the right person to hold you through the process of accessing those keys.

It is an unfortunate truth that the more work you do on yourself, the fewer peers you will have. The better you get at managing your own system and holding space for others, the harder it becomes to find someone qualified to hold space for you.

This is why we developed the certification program for Hale Method practitioners. We want to empower experts, professionals, and experienced self-developers like you to continue having powerful, transformational shifts no matter how much you already know. In fact, the more you know, the more your Hale Method practitioner has to draw on while supporting you!

Comment below if you are a top-tier practitioner looking for top-tier support 👇

Message me directly if you think you have what it takes to train as a Hale Method practitioner :)

I've been a little quiet this month because I am travelling in between client sessions, training calls and meetings.

In other news, the Azores are worth visiting.

I am working in a TEDx talk on this topic, and I need to decide what the ONE BIG IDEA is (when there are so many different things I COULD say).

What do you think is THE most important point I should include in my talk?

I said I wasn't going to run a coach training program this year, BUT ... the family wedding is over, and several people are asking very nicely if I would reconsider.

Are you also asking me to reconsider?

Info here:

Emotional Mastery Coach Training - Jenny Hale | Authentic Living powerful somatic and subconscious coaching tools to facilitate real change, trauma informed, ICF accredited. ICF PCC coach training

There is no need to get emotional
about your emotions.

𝐅*𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐠𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐦, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟*𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐜 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐤𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠.

In fact, f*ck the rules in general.

I am neurodivergent. Most of my clients are neurodivergent. Many of the practitioners I have trained are neurodivergent. The rules don't work for us, and they never have.

I learned how to make my own rules, based on physical reality, not social conditioning. And it turns out that there ARE natural laws as real as gravity that govern emotions and relationships. They are easy to understand and apply (for us - maybe not so much for neurotypical folk).

Learn them in the Authentic Living app (first level laws are free for everyone, even y'all neurotypicals if you want them :) )

Check it out here: https://app.jennyhale.org/spaces/members-area