17/05/2021
ATTACHMENT
Eastern philosophy puts forth that we suffer due to attachment to that which feels good and aversion to that which is unpleasant. The previous post dealt with unpleasantness, but what about the pleasures of life? Surely these can only being enjoyment, things such as wealth, success, food, s*x, relationships, everything we crave in the external world.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying any fruits of the world, but problems arise when we become attached to them, when we NEED them to feel happy and content. If this is the case, we are dependent and will suffer if our sources of good feeling are taken away or change; before that, we may even suffer from fear of loss; it could be money, a partner, status, anything… for most of us, it’s multiple things. Being as change is the one guarantee of the impermanent material world, if we are attached, suffering is inevitable. We become slaves to our objects of attachment, they become our master, dictating our actions and therefore our life.
Most of us run away from pain and towards pleasure, it is wired into our biology; in counter to this, eastern schools of philosophy, much like the stoics of ancient Greece, promote steadiness in between the polarities of pleasure and pain, reducing the power of either over us. Moderation is recommended in an effort to reduce the power of pleasure. The ascetics practice complete self denial, which has a place for some, but is often counter productive; greater desire can be ignited, like at the end of a strict diet when one wants to eat everything. On the other side of the coin, having no self control is equally destructive. Complete fulfilment of desire is like throwing wood onto a fire, desire only expands. A balanced approach is generally optimal, not complete self denial or over indulgence.
More important than how we conduct ourselves, is our internal state. Actions are driven by the thoughts and emotions at the root of them. When we stop seeking fulfilment in the external world and instead, journey inwards, we may access something beyond outer pleasures, finding absolute peace and bliss, the natural state of our deepest self, hence attachments simply dissolve.