30/04/2026
This moment never gets old, doesn't it?
So I was at a gathering not too long ago, and everyone was talking about the usual stuff, careers, promotions, projects etc.
When it was my turn, I said - I stay home with kids.
And I heard how it landed, lol, sort of like a footnote.
Ok I'm not saying that anyone judged me,
but I'm just going to be honest - I think for a slight moment, I doubted myself.
For a long time since I made this decision, I could feel how there are moments it made me feel small. It somehow feels like my choice often needed lots of defending. In terms of opportunity costs, value etc.
When am I going back to a proper job, with proper pay, etc. etc...
But here's what I've been sitting with since.
This question..."what do you do?"
it assumes that work only counts when someone pays you for it,
that your contribution only matters when its visible.
I'm starting to choose to stop agreeing with that.
Maybe what I do currently in this season doesn't come with a big title, or big paycheck.
But it comes with my children watching me choose to show up for them.
And honestly, this IS the whole story.
And I'm saying this for all the mums out there who have chosen your child in one way or another,
over something else that would have made more sense from the perspective of the world,
maybe you chose a job that has less pay, less promotion, in exchange for time spent with your kids,
maybe you chose to do meal planning or meal preps when you're home at night, sacrificing your rest time, so that your kids can have healthy nutritious food everyday
maybe you choose to close two eyes at home, and accept that its not going to be as clean as tidy as you want it to be, so that your kids can play and explore in ways that would spark their curiosity and learning
whatever those sacrifices were
know that there's value in your choice,
even if it feels unseen,
even if no one notices,
because your children will experience the impact of it,
and that's what truly matters. ๐ฉท xoxo