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“𝗝𝗼𝗯 𝗵𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴” 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗹𝗮𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀. 𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿.

Apparently, job hugging has now become the new quiet quitting. A situation where people are staying put even when they feel stuck, because uncertainty outside feels worse than discomfort inside.

As part of the sandwiched generation, that fear manifests itself because of being risk adverse:

"𝘊𝘢𝘯 𝘐 𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘬 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘫𝘰𝘣𝘴, 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘸𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘦?”

Kids who need stability.
Parents who need to be taken care of.
Bills that need to be paid regardless of whether you desire time and space to “rediscover yourself.”

I’ve lived this.

As a father of two young kids and caring for elderly parents, there were times that I felt trapped in my own hectic life.

I was hugging certainty, because the risk (and cost) of getting it wrong felt too high.

Job hugging is sometimes framed as as a trust problem; employees don’t trust the system to be fair or predictable.

In our case, it is a 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗺.

You see, it is easy to lose your internal compass when you’re no longer sure what “moving forward” is for.

This is why I keep coming back to one practice: To build your personal . It allows you to 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗲𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 such as these.

A rhythm gives you:
▪️ a steadier baseline (so every headline doesn’t shake you)
▪️ clearer decisions (so you stop outsourcing your life to fear)
▪️ small, repeatable actions (so you regain momentum without burning out)

I built myself a few simple tools and shared them at a LinkedIn event on 7 Feb 2026.

They are not tools to help you pivot careers… but to help you get closer to pivoting your own life.

If you’re struggling to hold on, visit this page: https://lifepivotos.envlant.com/
Then drop me a DM and I'll see how I can support you along this journey.
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𝘐’𝘮 𝘍𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘹, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘋𝘪𝘢𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘋𝘢𝘥. 𝘐 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘮 𝘣𝘺 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘩𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯-𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘥, 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘶𝘱 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘨𝘺.

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐆𝐏𝐓 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐝? “𝘊𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘢 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘦 𝘣𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘫𝘰𝘣 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘦.”

What came back made me laugh.

It captured the parts we don’t put on a LinkedIn headline:

𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵. 𝘊𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘳. 𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳.

The one holding the calendar… and the emotions in the room.

And it made me think about the pressure many of us carry:
🏢 A “work version” of ourselves.
🏡 A “home version” of ourselves.

Keeping them separate can feel tidy.

But for parents and caregivers, it often turns into tension because you’re not living two lives... you're actually 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐬.

I've realized that as I made my third life pivot, what helped me wasn’t “trying harder.”

It was building a human-centred

A few simple anchors that decide: what matters this week, what gets dropped, and how you recover.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll share the building blocks of a human-centred operating rhythm - simple anchors to help you reduce overwhelm and protect your energy.

And if you want to go deeper, I’m opening a small coaching waitlist for parents and caregivers who want to build their own rhythm with guidance and accountability.

If you’d like the details when it opens, comment 𝐖𝐀𝐈𝐓𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓 and I’ll send you the link (or DM me 𝐖𝐀𝐈𝐓𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓).

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𝘐’𝘮 𝘍𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘹, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘋𝘪𝘢𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘋𝘢𝘥. 𝘐 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘮 𝘣𝘺 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘩𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯-𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘥, 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘶𝘱 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘨𝘺.

𝐄𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭?

That question only sounds strange if we assume effort equals deprivation.

What changed things for me wasn’t motivation or discipline.
It was understanding 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 I was fueling my body with... and 𝐰𝐡𝐲.

When inputs are structured well, habits don’t feel fragile.
They hold, even on busy days with work, kids, and limited headspace.

No hacks. No perfection.
Just clearer decisions, repeated consistently.

This is how I think about habits now—one adjustment at a time.

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I’m Felix, the DiaperDad. I help create practical tools for working parents to build calmer routines and pivot towards sustainable work-life harmony.

People tell me, "Wah, Felix, you so brave, can go and pivot your life and career so many times!"

Brave? Oh please... I'm quite 'humji' (TBH, I was just tired of being stuck). 😂

I’ve learned that relying on courage is exhausting. Especially when you’re a DiaperDad raising kids and trying to keep a career/business afloat. Courage runs out.

But you know what doesn’t run out? Routine. (we do it every day! ☑️)

On 7 Feb, I’m putting on my "Engineer Hat" to talk about something I call the Momentum Flywheel.

It’s not about motivation. It’s about building a simple "Life System" that keeps moving even when you have zero energy left.

Because we don't rise to the level of our goals. We fall to the level of our systems.

If you’re in SG and want to learn how to engineer a life pivot (without the burnout), come join me.

🔗 Link in Bio to grab a ticket.

𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘃𝟮.𝟬 𝘁𝗼 𝘃𝟯.𝟬 - 𝗔 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆

It’s been a while since I last posted on Facebook (Meta) platforms — deliberately so. I needed time to recalibrate how I want to show up on social media going forward.

I’ve always been known as the fat kid. Overweight for most of my childhood.

The turning point came at 16, during a class gathering. Everyone looked grown up and dapper. I didn’t. I was still childish, wallowing in self-pity, weighing a hefty 110kg (243lbs).

That was when I made a vow — to lose weight and change my life.

I dropped 18kg in high school, another 14kg during military service. I picked up running, even ran marathons to keep myself honest and healthy.

𝗜 𝘀𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗜’𝗱 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝗮 𝟯-𝗱𝗶𝗴𝗶𝘁 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻.

Then life happened.

Over the next 20 years, I pushed relentlessly — climbing the corporate ladder, pivoting into start-ups, trying to be the perfect husband, father, son, founder. Until I wasn’t. Setbacks piled up. Personal tragedies hit where it hurt most.

Burnt out and tired, I stepped back onto the scale.

𝟭𝟬𝟮.𝟬𝗸𝗴.

How far I had fallen.
𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗜’𝗺 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗻.

The past 6 months have been about rebuilding — deliberately, systematically. I treated my health like a transformation project and quietly 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗔𝗜 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 & 𝗳𝗶𝘁𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗿 to guide me day by day.

From 102kg in June to 86kg in December.
𝟭𝟲𝗸𝗴 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 — 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝘀, 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲, 𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗰𝘆.

That journey forced a bigger realization.

There are many fathers out there like me — burnt out, carrying responsibility, quietly running on empty while trying to hold everything together.

That’s why I’m relaunching DiaperDad.sg — not just as a page, but as a program for fathers to recalibrate their lives: to be healthy, present with their families, and still successful in their careers.

Felix v3.0 isn’t here yet. But the clarity is back.

If this resonates with you, follow my page DiaperDad.sg

𝗪𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲.
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𝘍𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘫𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘴 𝘐 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴, 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦.

Riding on the election fever, the little one probably could make an impassioned speech about why all kids should be given a free Lego set when they celebrate their birthday.

Wishing everyone a happy Labour Day holiday break, and just in time to cool off before Polling Day in SG too.