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For as long as women have been emancipating, they have reinvented themselves in many ways. Not in the least as mothers; search online for books on how to be a good mother, and your server may crash.

But what do we know about being a good father? Where do men go when it starts to dawn on them for the first time that they will become a father? Some may be able to go to their own father or direct relative or close friend. But many of us don't have that kind of relationship another "guy". At best you may speak to a girl about your feelings, but being vulnerable to "the competition"???

And believe it or not, that caveman mentality still dominates a big chunk of our brain (and behaviour); we spend a disproportionate effort during our teens to find a life partner, and other men are indeed competition. Besides that, in many cultures, vulnerability and soul searching is not part of a mans vocabulary. We are stoic and unphased, like our fathers, right???

The very reason why I took my first step on the road to mental wellbeing, was to be a better father to my son. He is the true hero of my story, and was my inspiration to break the cycle of trauma that I grew up in.

When he was small, I had thought I would be the cool dad—my son’s inspiration—but one day he told me, in so many words, that he could never be like me because I was always strong and never failed, and he was just a little boy who failed at everything.

"I realised that instead of motivating him, I had just been flexing." I decided to own up to my responsibility as a father. It was not too late to become a good one, but to do so, I first had to become a better version of myself. Too often I had let myself be guided by past trauma, only to wonder afterwards why I had responded the way I did.

It was then that I decided to embark on a healing journey, from complex PTSD, from Split Personality (DID). You can follow this journey, and what I learned - about myself and about how my past traumas impact the way I respond to the world - in my book "Not So Tough, rise from the Mess", available on Amazon; https://amzn.asia/d/03Ge0K8e.

www.trijbels.com

Get inspired to start your own journey now;
“A powerful reminder that, no matter how tough our past has been and how hurt we have felt, self-work will unlocks meaning in life and pave the way for a brighter future for ourselves and generations to come.

Thank you Eric for sharing your deeply personal healing journey by writing your story and sharing it with the world. It is inspiring and encouraging to see that even complex PTSD can be reframed, transformed and eased with strong intention, trust, and self-work commitment.

To all of you who want to find inspiration on your own healing and self-development journey, I highly recommend this book.”

https://amzn.asia/d/03nW2PaC

Sunday morning thoughts; the first month of the year is gone. And with it for many of us, the good intentions that we started the year with.

The pattern is so familiar to many, that they don’t even bother to set resolutions anymore.

Strange when you think of it, because advancement requires setting ambitious goals and pursuing them with effort. So why are we so bad at following our dreams that we give up on them altogether?

Three things, self-sabotage, conventions and distraction.

Self-sabotage; our past has taught us certain, unhelpful, behavioral patterns out of self-protection, which are now working against us.
Convention; we dogmatically live our life based on rules made up by people we respect (such as our parents and teachers) but who are also fallible and may have similarly inherited these rules from others. These rules may not work for us and may be outdated to begin with.
Distraction; we use coping mechanisms and escape into social media to accept a life void of dreams.

So what to do? Contact me. As an experienced coach and counsellor, with lived experience in trauma healing, I can help you identify patterns, take you upstream to where they started, and give you the agency to become the architect of your own life.
My life was a complete mess and I wasn’t even able to have a normal conversation. Now I am an executive director in international banking, a coach and published author, a wildlife rescue volunteer, a father to a teenage son, and i am following my dreams.

Learn about my story to understand why i am different;

https://trijbels.com/

Or order my book from Anazon;
https://amzn.asia/d/299LC0a

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