Sugar and Spice Festival

20/07/2026

The anticipation. The rising excitement. The tension, release and afterglow.

Watching a World Cup final can send our bodies through emotional highs and lows that may look surprisingly similar to s*xual arousal.

Neither follows a perfectly smooth or predictable curve—and s*xual pleasure does not require or**sm.

But last night certainly delivered a memorable climax.
Congratulations to Spain, the 2026 FIFA World Cup champions!

18/07/2026

We often think of grief as something that happens when someone dies. But we can also grieve the loss of our health, abilities, identity, intimacy or s*xuality.

Some losses are visible. Others are carried quietly—and may be difficult to explain even to the people closest to us.

In my latest blog, I write about the different ways grief can show up, how it affects our bodies and relationships, and what healing may look like.

We do not simply “get over” grief. We slowly learn to live alongside what has changed, while making room for connection and joy again.

If you need support with grief, intimacy or changes in your relationship, hire me or my team at ErosCoaching.com.

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https://www.eroscoaching.com/2026/07/understanding-grief-a-journey-through-loss-and-healing/

Understanding Grief: A Journey Through Loss and Healing by ErosCoaching.com

18/07/2026

What happens when we compare real people with beautifully written characters who always seem to know the right thing to say?

Yes, we should expect emotional maturity, communication, consent and care. But we also need compassion for clumsy or failed attempts at connection. People sometimes get nervous, say things badly or completely misread the moment.

The important question is: when something goes wrong, can they listen, apologise, repair and learn?

We cannot ask people to be vulnerable, then shame them for not doing it perfectly. And we should not judge the same behaviour differently depending on someone’s gender.

Real intimacy is not about getting everything right. It is about how we treat each other when we don’t.

Modern romantasy and "smutty" TV may be shaping expectations not only about s*x, but also about emotional intimacy, communication, and what we want in romantic partners.

11/07/2026

🎧 Confessions Of A S*xologist | with Dr Martha Lee
On The SG Boys Podcast — Season 5. Go listen now!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nndXsj8VnRg

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Are you ready to confess? 'Cause we have something we wanna talk ab...

27/06/2026

This article talks about why some women fake or**sms. Dr Tara Suwinyattichaip**n says there should be no shame around it, and that faking can come from insecurity, people-pleasing, and being socialised to protect a partner’s feelings.

She also warns that repeated faking can create a negative s*xual response loop: the partner thinks something is working, keeps doing it, and the person faking becomes more dissatisfied. Her advice is to learn your body, explore self-pleasure, ask for what you need, and suggest what to try next time.

None of this is wrong. But it is also not new. And it is still incomplete.

Sometimes people fake or**sm because they have had enough. The s*x has gone on too long. It is uncomfortable, boring, painful, or emotionally unsafe. They may have already tried to communicate — by slowing down, redirecting, saying “not like that”, going quiet, tensing up, or trying to end it — and the partner ignored it, missed it, or pushed through.

So no, it is not always just people-pleasing or poor communication. Sometimes the fake or**sm is the fastest way out.

A partner should not need a fake or**sm as a stop signal. They need to listen, notice, pause, adjust, and stop making s*x about their ego or performance.

Better s*x is not only about teaching people to speak up. It is also about teaching partners to hear, respect, and respond.

Because sometimes the performance is not pleasure. It is escape.

If this is showing up in your relationship or s*x life, you do not have to keep guessing, performing, or building resentment. Work with me or my team at Eros Coaching

S*x expert Dr Tara Suwinyattichaip**n has shared important advice to any woman who's ever faked an or**sm and warned over 'negative s*xual response loops'.

27/06/2026

We keep asking why Singaporeans do not speak up at work. But many of us were trained not to: don’t talk back, respect your elders, don’t challenge authority, don’t ask stupid questions, don’t be wrong in public, don’t make people lose face.

This does not only affect meetings. It follows us into relationships, conflict, s*x, and the bedroom. Many people struggle to say: I want this. I don’t want that. That hurts. Can we slow down? I need more. I changed my mind. I feel pressured. I am not okay.

This is not just “communication skills”. This is about finding your voice again.

A lot of my work as a relationship counsellor and clinical s*xologist is helping people take back their power — inside and outside the bedroom.

When clients learn to name what they feel, ask for what they want, tolerate discomfort, hear “no”, say “no”, repair awkward moments, and stop abandoning themselves, something shifts. They become clearer with their partners, more confident in their bodies, and often more confident at work too.

Because your voice is important. If you learnt to silence yourself to stay safe, you can also learn to speak from a place of safety, clarity and choice.

If you want support with relationship communication, s*xual confidence, intimacy, desire, boundaries, consent, or finding your voice again, work with me or my team at ErosCoaching.com.

https://www.straitstimes.com/opinion/why-singaporeans-still-struggle-to-speak-up-at-work?utm_source=emarsys&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=ST_Newsletter_AM&utm_term=Why+S%E2%80%99poreans+still+struggle+to+speak+up+at+work&utm_content=25%2F06%2F2026

In an economy that increasingly rewards initiative, judgment and collaboration, silence carries growing costs. Read more at straitstimes.com. Read more at straitstimes.com.

21/06/2026

How are you really doing?

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22/05/2026

“Masturbation causes erectile dysfunction.”
It’s not that simple.

As a Clinical S*xologist, I’ve worked with clients who experience delayed ej*******on, er****on difficulties during partnered s*x, or feeling “less sensitive” s*xually.

Sometimes it’s not ma********on itself — it’s patterns our body and brain become used to.

Examples:
• Very tight grip
• Very fast stimulation
• Same position every time
• Reliance on very specific fantasy or p**n patterns

Over time, some people may find partnered intimacy doesn’t create the same level of stimulation their body has learned to expect.

S*xual difficulties are often more nuanced than people realise.

If you’re struggling with er****on concerns, delayed ej*******on, desire differences, or intimacy challenges, support is available.

Learn more about our 3E Program: eroscoaching.com/3e