Practical Love

Lever du öppet? Mött öppenhet, polyamori eller kanske till och med relations anarki genom någon du dejtat? Eller är det så att du håller på att öppna upp din relation? Oavsett hur öppenhet kommit in i ditt liv eller hur du väljer att leva den möts vi många gånger av olika utmaningar. Utmaningar så som svartsjuka och kommunikationsmissar, som kan göra det svårt att skapa både den trygghet och frihet vi önskar och behöver.

På lördag håller vi vår workshop: Practical Tools for Poly/Open relationstips igen och det finns fortfarande platser kvar! Här får du möjlighet att dela dina erfarenheter med andra som också relaterar eller utforskar öppenhet, lyfta vad du upplever kan vara utmanande men också få ett helt gäng praktiska verktyg för att leva kärlek så som du önskar.

Hoppas vi ses på lördag ❤️

Länk till eventet: https://fb.me/e/3088J2CEE

PS. Bilderna är från vårt workshopspace som är ett hus vid Stigbergstorget från 1700-talet och på mig som sitter och förbereder. Ibland känns det som en påminnelse om att även om öppenhet fortfarande många gånger är diskriminerat så har vi tillsammans kommit en lång väg.

I love this sign hanging in a guest house in my (Nils) old home town of Auroville. It reminds me of the spirit I enjoy in a workshop space, at least in philosophy. In reality, of course, the egos are welcome with us, and it is health in our view to lovingly observe and care for the ego too.

Knowing what we need, our wishes, and our boundaries (all three usually a mix of our ego and authentic self) and being able to communicate them in a loving way brings us closer to one aim in Practical Love - To approach love with an open, authentic and vulnerable heart. It is not easy though. That is why we need practice.

❤️ Welcome to Practice Group.

We still have some spots left for this Thursday’s Practice Group, where we practice and apply Practical Love tools to our own lives. Open for anyone who has previously attended a Practical Love Workshop.

Hope to see you there and let us know if you have any questions!

Link to the event: https://www.facebook.com/events/705939600984447

Lots of love,
nils and the Practical Love team

Practice Group - Presence, Practice, and Community:

🙏🏽 Presence - The moment
It is a space with priority on what is alive in the group and in the room at the moment. Any previous plan is prepared to be left behind, by what the moment asks of us. Supporting each other through emotions arising at the moment offers us the opportunity to practice skills we need to live love.

🤸🏽‍♂️ Practice - Learning while healing and healing while learning
Living love is usually easy when we are calm and present - the challenge is when we are emotional, in our pains and traumas and/or when it really means something to us. We, therefore, believe that learning without an anchor to our own lives and our emotions is less fruitful than it could be. Applying what we learn while visiting our celebrations, longings, happy-, proud-, painful-, sad-, and shameful- moments is essential.

🌍 Community - Support and being supported (and for playfulness)
This workshop is above everything else a safe space to share and explore together with like-minded people where we can support each other as a community. Having people around us who both remind us of our longing to live love but also support us in moving towards it might be the most valuable thing of it all.

I’m sitting in the chair in front of my psychologist. She asked me if I could put words to my emotions and what was happening inside me. I just sat there quietly, deep in thought.

10 years later I start my mornings like the picture, by checking in with feelings and needs cards. What am I feeling right now, what am I needing right now?

This has changed my life.

Something magical happens when holding the card that describes the feeling I have in my body. And then picking up the need behind why I’m feeling that feeling right now. It makes it much harder not to take what is happening inside me seriously. And give me (or bring me closer to) what I need.

The next level of magic was when I started to apply this to my relationships and when applying it to my work supporting people in open/poly relationships in coaching and workshops. And then watching coaching clients, couples, and constellations use them to support each other. Imagine sitting down with someone you like and then supporting them with curiosity in their process to find what they are feeling or needing.

Practical Love Cards - For practice, play, and healing.

Every time we sit with the cards it serves all these purposes. When we work to connect with ourselves we heal to some degree, and become more skilled in accessing what we feel and need so we can access it faster in everyday life, and - let's face it - it is fun playing with cards.

Do you want a more effective language next time you want to feel secure and free or maybe more connected in an intimate relationship or date situation?

During Saturday's workshop, we will introduce you to these cards and practice, play, and maybe even heal together. Hope to see you there!

with love ♡

nils, and the Practical Love team