The 13th Step

Part 2 of previous post. I forgot to include myself! 🤣

What a beautiful, soulful Friday night and Saturday morning, my beautiful friends. We made wildness feel like poetry ❤️ We are in each other's souls 🙏

Hello, beautiful people! 🌿

We’d like to share some practical wisdom for the moments we feel triggered.

When a wave hits, whether it nudges you toward drinking, using substances, or any other familiar coping habit, here’s a simple exercise to slow the loop long enough to choose differently.

Although the video says this is "night-time breathing" for sleep, you can use this technique for moments of overwhelm too.

Try 4-7-8 breathing (inhale for 4, hold for 7, exhale for 😎. You'll be surprised how you feel after a few minutes.

When we’re stressed or triggered, breathing often gets fast and shallow, which can keep the body in “fight or flight.”

Slow, deliberate breathing can help signal safety to your nervous system and bring you back toward calm.

If it feels good for you, follow along with this 20-minute guided breathwork track.

Even a few minutes may help you feel steadier so your next step comes from a more grounded place.

Have a beautiful Saturday, and let us know in the comments how this technique served you!

Music Guided Breathing to REDUCE STRESS and FALLING ASLEEP Fast This music guided breathing session is designed to help you to reduce stress and fall asleep fast. The session is based on a scientifically backed 4-7-8 brea...

When life corners us, (whether through parental criticism), a humiliating work moment, or chronic stress it’s common to displace that pain into using.

Not because we're weak, but because in that split second it feels like control.

Here’s the reframe:

We're not powerless over a substance.

We felt powerless in a moment...so we reached for a learned coping strategy.

Step 1 (our way) isn’t about surrendering your power.

It’s about seeing the moment, naming the feeling, and choosing a different response.

Awareness first. Control next.

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From The 13th Step • eBook 1

Hello, future friends and fellow "walkers." Welcome to The 13th Step. Think of us as a quiet place to pause, breathe, and get perspective. We publish an educational mini-series and gentle prompts that help people reflect on habits, patterns, relationships, and service—no hype, no hard sells, just honest tools.