18/09/2026
So… lately, I feel like everything has been breaking.
And I mean everything. 😂
But it got me thinking about how we respond when life feels like it's falling apart.
Because our instinct can be to try and get everything back under control. We try to stay calm, grounded and centred so we're not too affected by what's happening.
And those things can be really helpful. But sometimes, what looks like being grounded is actually a very subtle form of control.
“I've got this.”
“I'll just breathe through it.”
“I won't let this affect me.”
And underneath that, there can be something much more subtle like fear. Fear of what might happen if we don't hold everything together.
Or grief.
Grief for something we've lost, something we didn't receive, or something we desperately wanted to be different.
And sometimes there's a deeper belief underneath the need to control:
“If everything is in order, I'm safe.”
“If I get it right, I'll be loved.”
“If I can keep everything together, I won't be rejected, disappointed or hurt.”
And often, we don't even realise we're doing this.
We just know we're exhausted.
This is where I love using somatic inquiry.
Rather than trying to think our way out of a pattern, we slow down and become curious about what's actually happening in the body.
Where do you feel the need to control?
What happens when you imagine letting go?
What's underneath it?
Maybe it's fear.
Maybe it's grief.
Maybe it's anger.
Or maybe there's a younger part of you that learned that being in control was how you stayed safe, loved or accepted.
In my online Reiki psychic surgery sessions, I combine somatic inquiry with Reiki energy work to explore these deeper layers.
Not to force emotions away. Not to make everything okay. But to create enough space to actually meet what's there, understand the patterns that have been protecting you, and begin to soften your relationship with them.
Because life is messy and plans will change.
Things won't go how we wanted.
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