Bareera_Afaq

She WAS OUTSIDE……
As I just started working outside it’s been almost one and a half year, I found plenty of women working with the various mind sets. But they all get the same tag and the same label. I don’t actually know the reason for that but I just noticed some points some facts that we (society) need to understand about, so in this way we may not be the reason of someone’s depression, anxiety, divorce, labeled so called feminist or ruin someone’s life.
There are different categories of females who are working outside, doing things out of the box, some of them just want to make their time productive, some of them want to make themselves busy, some want money for their own, some are struggling for their families, some of them are running for their life goals, some of them just want to be independent and as I mentioned before “the categories” some of them want to get rid of males they don’t want to be dependent on somebody (there are different mind sets of being dependent) specially males, some of them want freedom (even freedom has the categories).
We are unable to make differences…...

*Pillars and Labours*
It's Bareera again, sometimes I thought what If my parents didn't allow me to go to school, college or university, or to go outside for work?
And the answer is nothing, in that case I'm sure my parents would provided me with their best like good food, the basic necessary luxuries, basic education, good breeding and in the end make me in a relationship with a good well settled man *marriage*.
But now the scenario is quite different. My Amma Abba allows me to do whatever I wanted to do which is in the limits, wherever I want to go but for some strong and genuine reasons like work or a day out with friends, whatever Feild of work in which I'm interested in, and whatever the subjects I want to read or learn.
I give my snapshot because I feel so bad specially for those kids, adults who are enrolled in any sort of educational activities they're not allowed to go and work in the Feild obviously parents are always right on their own side but if you have a kid who is talented and able to manage work thing with his or her studies then I think it's okay to give them permission to fly in the skies. And it's okay to cash their abilities.
I have my class mate and she's very talented MA her photography and videography is brilliant and also she takes too much interest in makeup and all that cosmetics stuff and she was sharing her ideas with me and believe me that was brilliant, but in the end she said "Baba kehty hai beta why you wanted to do work? Kya chaeyay hai apko batao jou chaeyay Mai laa deta houn" fine. It's okay if parents are such type of but too much sugar also causes some major diseases. So what my point of view is, it's okay if you're born with silver spoon but you have too make something on your own, atleast something very minor, your own personality.
These kind of parents didn't allow their kids to get in work type of stuff then they complain that our kid have some depression issues obviously when he or she haven't any activity accept studies and social media and even they're unable to deliver what actually bthey think they want, so it will obviously led them to the depression or the overthinking problems.
Now there is another case those people who don't want uncomfortableness in their lives and these people are young.Youth calls the pillars of country but if we have the weak pillar who even can't stand properly by themselves how can they afford the burden of the society and the country, I don't know either the material of the pillars are bad or the labours who are working on these pillars aren't doing their job as well as they should need to perform...
Sorry but we the young people the youth have the very major problem which is also a Taboo we don't like to discuss it but it exists and it's an issue of the*relationships and the breakups* I have a point of view for this thing, if you don't make your kid busy in some healthy stuff I mean make them busy in work too after 18 no Matter he or she is student or what just make them busy and teach them how to make your life systematic, when you'll make this sort of patterns for your children then obviously they'll get zero time for all of this mess. We need to rethink...

I know there are too much more effective points and facts about this and it's a long debate as well but this is the little side of this subject which I thought.

STAGE OF OVERCOMING AFTER DIVORCE:
• An act, after which no one can overcome and who can overcomes out of it, it takes months years and very sadly sometimes “life’s too.
• A role of society.

So, what I was trying to explain to through my very first point of the topic that an act, after which no one can overcome and those who can overcomes out of it, it takes months years and very sadly sometimes “life’s too. If I specifically talk about the Pakistani society there are a lot of barriers which are the hurdles for individual to overcome starting from his or her own family one more thing an act of divorce is more terrible thing for the female it’s not like that I’m a feminist or a motivational speaker that’s why I’m pointing it down in fact these are the issues on which we women’s are fighting with society as very sadly with ourselves too. What happened when someone get divorced a person get into depression, avoiding the gatherings, sleepovers they became introvert stop taking care of them avoiding friends even their own families, what’s left behind?
I don’t know what reality is what society said and in someone’s divorced who is right and who is wrong but I know the one thing that divorce is the worst and last situation of the marital relation that’s why do negotiate, do negotiate, do negotiate for your family, for your peace for your partner. It’s very hard to survive after divorce especially for the females in Pakistani society I’m not saying that males are cruel or anything like that obviously every situation is the result of mutual conflict but final decisions are the worst sometimes.
Now come to the society, it’s a public or society who make us and who can break us, act of divorce is more worst for the lady who is a public figure or if she’s working lady or she has an interaction with the massive people, every sadly but it is true that some group of people have a mindset that divorced lady is a piece of cake which is actually a devastating thinking.
For male it is very easy to gave divorce because she’s a lady who did argument every time or you might not like her or whatever you have the problems with her but it’s my suggestion that please think before doing. Someone’s life and mental health is more than 100 times important from your ego and anger.

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hain talkh bohat banda-e-mazdor kay aukat

01-05-2021✨

"RAQS-E-BISMIL" a Pakistani drama of hum.tv, now a days it's included in top watching daramas all over the country i'm also watching this, today i'm gonna highlight some aspects of the drama. the issue which has been raised in the drama is very true, the cast syestem is very distrubing in every culture, they show two characters which are different from one another one is from Syed's and a 2nd character belongs from Bazar-e-husan and there is a coflict between families and individuals that these two characters can't marry each other just because they're from different cast, i mean this is the very high level of conflict now a days what people actually says that "hum sunni hain hum wahabi mein shadi nhi karty- hum shah hain toh we are looking for the same cast and same is the case with other casts and so on, so we can see through this pltform that now the war is in between the same religion, sadly (MUSLIMS VS MUSLIMS), another aspect which is my thinking that whenever major powers or anyother contry or comunity said that the muslims are terrorist we gave such powefull and genuine statements and we do our best to realize them that we muslims aren't terrorists and we want peace and much more, but honestly speaking as a youth of Pakistan and a muslim girl who is too much in media things whenever i thought about the terrorist i close my eyes just to make an image of terrorist, sadly i saw kameez shalwar, topi, darhi, parna and a gun, but wait it isn't my fault because from the begining since i used to watch movies dramas whenever i saw terrorisim scenes i always saw a man in kameez shalwar and topi etc we pakistani media we muslims we are showing this image by ourselves to the world i think me a muslim a pakistani, that terrorist look like that wich i described before than you can imagine that how the non-bilevers can think, now i'll link the darama with this story in the darama the hero the leading character MUSA he is from Syeds family he is very pious, religious n all that but and the same time they showed him just like Ajmal Qasab i mean everytime whenever he is in anger he just put it out his gun and said "CHAL TU KALMA PARHLAY|" and he is always ready to do mara mari zero intreset in nagosiation, toh istrha hota yeh hai k people who are against of muslims , islam and pakistan they says "YEH MUSLY TOH HOTY HI JUNONI HAIN" "MUSLIMS ARE TERRORIST" ETC ETC or why they said that kion kay apnay abhi khudi toh btaya drama mn k ap sab nay musa sy darna hai..... i hope you could understand the aspect which i tried to show, if we'll be stuck in this culture things then there will be no difference between Muslims and in others... picture : https://www.google.com/search?q=raqs+e+bismil+wallpaper&rlz=1C1CHBD_enPK934PK934&sxsrf

Allah Miyan do rehem on us, RAMADAN-2021