23/09/2026
#2487
By a girl
Mn 29 year ki female hon...
Last year April mein meri shadi hui aur shadi ke baad pata chala ke husband ko OCD hai—ye ek psychological bimari hai jismein insan ko ye khof rehta hai ke wo saaf suthra rahe, kisi ko touch na kare warna germs lag jayenge aur wo marr jayega. Wo 4 behno ka ek hi bhai hai. Wo 4-4 ghante washroom mein nahate hi rehte the, khana pina is liye nahi khate the ke washroom jana padega, kamate nahi the aur apni family par depend the. Jab meri family ka ana jana hua to wo ziada der sath nahi baithte the. Meri family ko ye sab normal laga ke ho sakta hai shy hon, waqt ke sath milna julna hoga to sab theek ho jayega. But unhein is had tak tha ke wo kisi se hath bhi milate to 20 minute tak hath dhote rehte the.
Ye sab cheezein shadi ke pehle week tak na wo admi mujhe samajh aya na us ki ye harkatein, mere liye sab kuch itna shocking tha. Mein ek achi company mein job karti hoon aur 5 years se hoon, meri monthly salary 130k plus hai Alhamdulillah, aur is baat ka mere sasural walon ko koi issue nahi tha. Start mein mein apni sab cheezein khud karti rahi. Wo insan kahin bahar nahi ata jata tha mere sath. Mein subah office jati wo soya hota, mein shaam ko wapis ati wo usi halat mein soya hota. Ghar mein us ke parents ke ilawa ek choti behan hoti thi. Un sab ke khandan mein ye nafsiyati OCD ka issue tha aur wo bohot fakhar karte the is baat par. Un ki nazar mein wo sab normal the but mein nahi, kyun ke mein normal thi. Mere aur mere husband ke darmiyan mian-biwi ka rishta kam aur jhagde fasad ziada the.
Shadi ke 1 month ke andar wo mujh se paise mangne laga ke kam nahi theek mera, paise de do. Un ka property ka business tha jis mein taya, chachou, un ke bachay, mere susar sab involved the aur stable the, bas yahi log the jin ke halat theek nahi the. Darmiyan mein ek aisa time aya jab mein sare ghar ki grocery wagaira aur electric bill tak pay karne lagi. Un ka treatment start karwaya, bohot ache doctor ke paas le kar jati rahi jis ki fees aur medicine ka kharcha mein karti rahi, is umeed par ke ye admi theek ho jayega to mujhe sambhal lega. Even office se wapsi par us ke liye cigarette tak le kar jati thi kyun ke wo kehta tha khatam ho gaye hain. Unhein infection hua to un ke paon wash karti, medicine khud un ke paon par lagati. Us time par mein ne maan liya tha ke ye meri kismat hai aur yahi sab karna hai mujhe. Mein ne sari umeed is baat par laga di thi ke ye theek ho jayein, bas 1 baar to sab theek ho jayega... lekin mein galat thi.
Shadi ke 7th month mein un mein improvement aane lagti hai aur wo rides lena shuru karte hain. Lekin jab bhi koi ride mere office ke paas se hoti to wo mujhe bhi pick kar lete, par is baat ka lihaz na karte ke apni biwi ko kisi male passenger ke sath bitha ke ja rahe hain. Sometimes aisa hone laga ke mujhe ghar jate jate 10 bajne lage aur mein un ke passengers ke sath baithi hoti, kabhi front seat par kabhi back seat par. Is cheez se mein bohot pareshan ho gayi aur 1st time ye baat apni Mama se share ki. Unhon ne samjhaaya ke ye galat hai, aisa nahi hona chahiye, par wo mujh se lade ke kyun bataya tum ne ye sab.
Mein ne ye sab 1 month bardasht kiya. Shadi ke 8th month mein suddenly wo Lahore ke 3 chakar lagate hain weekly jo ke mujhe ajeeb laga, aur wahan ja ke mujh se 50k ki demand karte hain. Mein ne inkar kiya to wo meri gold ke chain chori kar lete hain aur bolte hain ke wapis kar doonga (gold mere parents ka diya hua tha). Accept to kar lete hain ke unhon ne uthaya hai par wapis nahi karte. Apni mother aur sister ke samne mera munh zor se pakad ke diwar ke sath laga dete hain aur cheekh ke kehte hain "nahi deta jao jisay bulana hai bulao". Ye sab us ki family dekh rahi thi aur koi usy rokta ya poochta nahi tha. Mein hairan thi, mera saans rukne laga aur mein kaampne lagi, to wo sab aise hi chor ke apne room mein chale gaye. Raat ke 12 baje mujhe neeche wale portion mein hansne ki awaz ati hai, mein dekhne gayi to wahan pizza pasta chal raha hota hai aur sab khush hote hain.
Ye baat mujhe bohot shock karti hai aur 1st time mein apni sister se sab share karti hoon. Us ka reaction bohot shocking tha ke new new shadi ko kuch month hue hain aur ye sab. Mein apni sister ko ja ke apna jo baki gold tha wo rakhwa deti hoon. Sister mere father se share karti hai sari baat, aur wo mujhe aake apne ghar le jati hai. Yahan se wo admi aur us ke ghar wale aur bhi ziada mujh se nafrat karne lagte hain aur koi rabta nahi karte, na mujh se na mere parents se. Ulta wo admi kehta hai ke tum ne sab apne ghar bataya hi kyun, tum galat ho. Abusive language use ki, mery ghar walo ko kaha k ni darta tum logo sy jo krna hy kr lo, ye to har bv krti hy, meri maa ny bi kiya tha meri behnain bi kryi hn,.....
Shadi ke 8 months tak meri zat par us admi ka 1 rupee bhi haram tha. One day he said ke "agar 250 roz ke doon to guzara kar logi???" Ya kabhi kabhi jab mein bohot pareshan hoti to kehta "sochti to hogi ke tumhare sath dhoka ho gaya" aur aage se hansta tha. Jab ke mein us ke shoe, kapde, jurabein, cigarette sab kuch karti rahi, ilaj karwati rahi is umeed se ke 1 din sab theek ho jayega aur sab bardasht karti rahi.
Ab situation ye hai ke abhi isi month mein 29 ki hui hoon. Un ki taraf se koi response nahi hai. Mein apne parents ke ghar hoon, mera case file hai aur 3 hearings ho gayi hain par un ki taraf se koi nahi aya. Apni sari savings us admi ko de di... aur badle mein ye sab mila, it's really heartbreaking for me.
Mein bohot ziada loving, caring family se taluq rakhti hoon jahan mein ne ye imagine kiya tha ke mere husband mujh se mujh se ziada pyar, izzat aur laad se rahenge. Jaise "mera bacha", "meri jaan", "meri zindagi" jaise lafz bolenge, cutely, lovely, caringly meri life hogi. Jase movies mn hota, sab kuch wesa imagine kiya tha, new dresses pehno gi husband mery diwany hon gy or pata ni kiya kiya,,,,,,,,mn bhot childish thi, lekin mn ny ye sab bhot maturity k sath face kiya, mery parents kehty hn k hmati beti ka bachpana khaa gaya wo insan,
Jab ye sab hota raha to ek ke baad ek cheez na-qabil-e-bardasht hoti gayi. Bohot ziada mushkil time guzara aur guzar raha hai. Aaj kal ke waqt mein nikah wale rishte par bhi bharosa nahi raha, anxiety aur depression ki pills leti rahi hoon.
But ab mein ne khud ko sambhalna seekh liya hai. Allah se dosti kar li hai, Tahajjud shuru kar di hai, aur dua karti hoon ke jaise mein chahti hoon wesa hamsafar mere naseeb mein kar de... warna ye sab jo mein ne face kiya hai, mujhe mardo se ab khof ata hai ke pata nahi koi kaisa ho, kya kare kya nahi...
Aysa bi ni hy k mn dekhny mn piari ni hun, na koi kami hy, mujhe pehnny ohrny ki tameez hy, educated hn, achi job krti hn, hmesha sab sy compliments milty hn k mn bhit gracefull hn,
Lekin ayse gracefull hony ka kia krna jb naseeb aysa ho
Mujhe apne parents ke ghar aye 10 month ho gaye hain. Bas khud ko kisi tarhan sambhala hua hai ke mein theek rahun taky mere parents meri waja se pareshan na hon. Mein roti hoon to sab ke sab bohot pareshan ho jaty hain, isi liye bas khud ko sambhala hua hai. Apne dil ka bojh kam karna chahti thi ke logo ko bataon ke aise aise ghatiya families bhi hain duniya mein.
Aap sab mere liye Dua kijiye ga mere ache naseeb ke liye. Dua hai Allah har beti ka naseeb acha kare, sukh wali zindagi naseeb kare, Ameen...