The Empty Space-Nadia Jamil's Imaginarium

The Pakistan society for the rehabilitation of the disabled is a place full of happiness, empowerment, inspiration and love. The children here love each other and support each other. Their teachers and administration love and support them. It has a school, a vocational training centre, an out patient hospital, a state of the art prosthetics lab, a physical therapy centre and it rocks! Every child and teacher here rocks. They take the dis out disabled to prove to be the most enabled, remarkable children in the nation. Without any govt support or help the PSRD continues to shine year after year.
Please support it!
https://www.psrd.org.pk/
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For it is in your power to retire into yourself whenever you choose.

Marcus Aurelius
, , , , -assurance, -awareness, -containment, -determination, -esteem, -reliance, -respect, -sufficiency, -trust,

Loving the soft hair growing back but loving the freedom of having it this short.

Ma thanks for the head 😊

thanks for the mask

Another day winding down...

Love you all! What topics do you suggest for this weekends live chat?

Children love stories. Their minds are incredible, imaginative, scientific, curious, passionate! Every child deserves her/his mind 2 be nurtured & their body & mind protected from physical or emotional abuse.

Our children suffer & we remain silent.

I have been suggesting that perhaps we create small manageable grids all over Pakistan, urban & rural areas.
Each grid should have it's own data base, its own social service worker, w a team to keep an eye on the well being of children,
a clinic & at least a primary school. It should have trained mental health counselors, who specialise in working with children, a park or play area & police personal keeping an eye on things & suspicious people, activities.

The Government should learn from groups like





and people like Sarah Ahmad of Punjab Protection Bureau
Who have succeeded in running large enterprises to nurture and protect children.
They should hire men like Instructor James Justin and his sons who can teach large groups of children physical fitness.

The media should invest in huge public awareness campaigns 2 warn predators & teach awareness 2 children & adults on how 2 keep children safe.

I have worked w many children who have been r***d by their own uncles, brothers, cousins, father's or staff members. Many. Good touch bad touch is an important & sensitive talk that every child needs to learn.

No teacher, child protection worker or tutor should be hired without a proper data base check.
even religious teachers need checking.

No child should be alone w an adult male from outside the immediate family.

Children need 2 be taught how to speak out, share abuse & not be scared of the consequences.

The concept of Shame and Izzat lootna needs 2 be eradicated around child abuse or any abuse. The abused child's shame has not been compromised, it is the abuser who has none! Don't shame abused children or male them feel shame. Focus on counselling & a healthy future.

Child brothels, labourers, beggers, Kasur, Zainab, Marwah...

No more! Please speak now

I will dance through the storms life hits me with.
I will stand tall in the sun, in pouring rain, through hails and freezing winters. Time might bend me, but my roots are deep in the ground, I will nourish myself from their strength. As long as I live I will live to love and nurture, myself and those around me. I shall take the blessed sunlight sent to me, even the carbon dioxide around me and I will change it to oxygen for others. I will be a shade, a home, bear fruit, and when winter tears at my arms, dries my leaves and freezes the soil I stand on, I will wait, and have Faith in the knowledge, Spring is to come again, my branches will come to life again, I will blossom, bloom, ripen and burst alive with colours and fruits, flowers and be a green heaven...again.
My trunk holds a million secrets, my leaves speak to you in breezes.
Squirrels, spiders, ants, birds have a home in me. So do you.
I am always here to listen to you.
You make me happy.

Let's us live together in this mutual respect and love ...

Dear ones...
Let us learn from a tree.

My boys are my life.

But should they be ALL of my life?

I left my career, home, family, comfortzone and identity to provide them a better life and education.
I would do it again. I've had some quality memories with my beautiful boys.

Parenting is not an easy job. It affects us as people, it affects the little people we are raising and it affects our relationships.

I've always wanted to be a mom.

It was easy when they were small. Their needs were food, attention, laughter, stories, play time. I was good at that. I was good at birthdays and play dates, organising sports and extra curricular.

It's great if you have a partner who is also invested in the children's day to day development. Some are too busy. Some simply not interested. We can leave books by their side tables, beg and plead but work, work, work with the odd holiday booked for family time is their idea of family life. But whichever it is, it's all doable, alone or with a partner.

My real challenges as a mum arose when they became teens. Independent blinded, forming friendships that made me nervous or answering back. I heard myself becoming my own mother.ibheard my voice raising, my frustration building up.

In this journey self parenting has helped me a lot. Realising that I need to take care of me before anyone else.

Some accounts that have helped me and continue bro guide me, a lot, are

holistic.psychologist



Amazing women with amazing insight into health and parenting, both ones Self or ones children.

Happy Nurturing! Take care of YOU...

Love you,

Your Nado

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Uff the amount of women getting beaten up, slapped, abused and dragged around in Pakistani TV plays, by men they are still desperate to stay with. What kind of message do these stories project?!
Why would you stand outside your room all night in your wedding night, because he three you outbid the room and then profess your weepy, undying love in the next scene. Why why why? Why would you get slapped, smacked and cussed then sit weeping mascara over your face as you burn in love for your abuser?!

Makes me physically ill.

Too many TV plays wanting to see women as a victim and men their hero's.
We are not victims. We are Alhamdolillah blessed by Allah with the capacity to respect our self. Can we see some of that self respect on TV please.

Ugh 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🙄

Wow! Received this in the mail today! A beautiful key chain and necklace with a loving note!

The giver has not mentioned a name!

I'm so excited and overwhelmed by it! The handiwork is so delicate and beautiful! Uff. Thaaaaank you!

Please tell me who you are so I can thank you in person.

Love you right back!

Your Nado!

There is an army inside each one of us, that will save our lives..over and over.

Shukar Alhamdolillah. I thank the Creator for the gift of myself. I will take care of my self. I will feed my self healthy, nurturing foods like I feed my children. In fact I will take care of myself first.

As mothers we consume ourselves with what our children are eating, doing, are they happy, healthy? We sometimes forget ourselves. Self parenting is such an important journey! Post my cancer the resurrected version of myself keeps reminding Nado she needs taking care of by her self. The adult self kicks in and takes over one's self narrative, takes care of the little child within me that gets anxious, scared, angry, triggered. I slow me down. I investigate the triggers, accept them, avoid them as much as possible. The grown up me is in charge now. Although the child still loves to play, snuggle, smile, love and trust....

It's important we all take those steps for ourselves.

A really helpful account towards that journey is .holistic.psychologist

I've learned a lot from her posts.

All my love to all of of you...

Your Nado