07/07/2026
Har Waqt Daantna Tarbiyat Nahi… Mohabbat Aur Guftagu Se Bachon Ki Shakhsiyat Nikhar Ti Hai
Har parent ka maqsad hota hai ke us ka bacha achi aadatein ikhtiyar kare, tameez se baat kare, zimmedar bane aur zindagi mein kamyab ho. Lekin aksar hum tarbiyat aur tanqeed ke darmiyan ka farq bhool jate hain. Jab bhi bacha koi ghalti karta hai, foran daantna, cheekhna ya us ki har baat mein kami nikalna aam baat ban jati hai. Humein lagta hai ke is tarah bacha sudhar jayega, lekin asal mein baar baar ki tanqeed bachon ke confidence ko kamzor kar sakti hai.
Yaad rakhiye, bacha sirf aap ki baat nahi sunta...
Woh aap ka lehja, rawayya aur reaction bhi seekhta hai.
Agar ghar ka mahol hamesha tanqeed, cheekh aur narazgi se bhara ho, to bacha ya to baghawat karna shuru kar deta hai ya phir itna khamosh ho jata hai ke apni feelings bhi share karna chhor deta hai.
Is ka matlab yeh nahi ke bachon ki ghaltiyon ko nazarandaz kar diya jaye.
Bilkul nahi.
Tarbiyat zaroori hai...
Lekin tarbiyat ka behtareen tareeqa samjhana hai, sirf daantna nahi.
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke har ghalti ke peeche koi na koi wajah hoti hai. Kabhi bacha thaka hota hai, kabhi usay tawajju chahiye hoti hai, kabhi woh kisi baat se pareshan hota hai aur kabhi usay sirf yeh nahi pata hota ke sahi tareeqa kya hai.
Isi liye reaction dene se pehle reason samajhna zaroori hai.
Agar bacha koi ghalti kare to foran gusse mein bolne ke bajaye kuch seconds ruk jaiye.
Normal tone mein us se poochiye:
"Tum ne aisa kyun kiya?"
"Tumhare khayal mein is ka behtar tareeqa kya ho sakta tha?"
Jab bacha apni baat karta hai to aksar parents ko asal wajah samajh aa jati hai.
Aik aur bohat practical formula hai...
Pause – Listen – Explain – Encourage
Pause: Gusse mein foran react na karein.
Listen: Pehle bache ki baat mukammal sunein.
Explain: Aaram se samjhaiye ke ghalti kya thi aur sahi tareeqa kya hai.
Encourage: Aakhir mein usay yaqeen dilaiye ke woh agali dafa behtar kar sakta hai.
Yeh chaar qadam bachon ki personality par bohat positive asar chhorte hain.
Parents ko criticism aur correction ka farq bhi samajhna chahiye.
❌ "Tum hamesha ghalat kaam karte ho."
âś… "Yeh kaam ghalat hua hai, lekin hum isay mil kar behtar kar sakte hain."
❌ "Tum bohat sust ho."
âś… "Agar tum thori planning karo to aur bhi acha perform kar sakte ho."
Jab hum bache ki personality ko target karte hain to us ka confidence toot ta hai.
Lekin jab sirf us ke behavior ko improve karne ki baat karte hain to woh seekhne ke liye tayyar rehta hai.
Rozana apne bachon ki kam az kam 3 achi baaton ki tareef zaroor kijiye.
Shayad us ne apna school bag khud arrange kiya ho.
Shayad us ne behan bhai ki madad ki ho.
Shayad us ne sach bola ho.
Positive appreciation un aadaton ko mazboot banati hai jo aap dekhna chahte hain.
Aik aur behtareen activity yeh hai ke har raat sone se pehle 5 Minutes Reflection Time rakhein.
Un se poochiye:
Aaj tum ne sab se acha kaam kya kiya?
Aaj kis baat par tumhein fakhr mehsoos hua?
Aaj tum kis cheez ko behtar kar sakte the?
Kal tum kya naya try karoge?
Yeh chhoti si guftagu bachon ko self-awareness aur self-improvement ki aadat sikhati hai.
Parents ko yeh bhi yaad rakhna chahiye ke bachay perfect nahi hote...
Aur na hi parents.
Har ghar mein ghaltiyan hoti hain.
Agar kabhi aap se bhi gusse mein koi sakht baat nikal jaye to apne bache se "Sorry" kehne se hichkichaiye mat. Is se aap ki izzat kam nahi hoti, balkeh bacha bhi maafi maangna aur apni ghalti tasleem karna seekhta hai.
Research bhi yeh batati hai ke jin bachon ko mohabbat, izzat aur constructive feedback milta hai, unmein self-confidence, emotional intelligence aur communication skills zyada mazboot hoti hain. Woh apni ghaltiyon se bhaagne ke bajaye unse seekhna shuru kar dete hain.
Is Parents Awareness Series ka asal paigham bhi yahi hai...
Bachon ki shakhsiyat daant se nahi, rehnumai se banti hai.
Unhein sirf ghaltiyan mat batayiye...
Unhein sahi raasta bhi dikhaiye.
Kyun ke aaj aap ke alfaaz unke dil mein utarte hain...
Aur kal wahi alfaaz unki soch, unke faislay aur unki poori zindagi ka hissa ban jate hain.
