01/08/2022
Consider the following two sentences about a parent talking to their child at the time of their result:
“This is good but had you studied a bit harder, you could have achieved 90% marks”.
“This is very good and the next time, with a little more effort, you can achieve 90% marks.”
There’s a complete shift in psychology in terms of both of these sentences. One of them discredits the achievement of the child which would most definitely result in demotivation in striving for better results in the next exams. The other motivates the child into performing better in the next exam without discrediting their current achievement. This results in a boost in morale.
The use of the words “and” & “but” seems quite insignificant at first but these words can make a world of difference in terms of motivation for us. The same can be applied to all walks of life including employer/employee interactions.