Realm of Reflection by Raina Siraj

Mainstream media has always been blind eye on serious issues of Sindh and now it is misreporting this issue by labeling the "forced conversion" as normal revert story .In Quran Allah says
لَا إِكْرَاهَ فِي الدِّينِ

There is no compulsion in religion

(Surah 2. Al Baqarah: 256)

Further,why it is very rare of a man accepting Islam? Why always young and underage girls escape from the home and then release the video of acceptance of Islam only to get married to somebody. I ask, accepting Islam only to get married is justified in any sense? In case of divorce or separation,would the girl convert to her former religion?

Think of parents for a moment, who see their kids happy at home and a day after they get news of their kids seeking protection from them . If you think you are going to heaven by converting someone to Islam forcefully or decisively,then my friend you deserve the bottom of hell .

Right now ,I can only wish and pray for the positive reconstruction of our bigoted society.
ڊاڪٽر رينا سراج 🖋️

Yesterday, when everyone in the house was packing shoppers of meat for distribution, meanwhile my Ama asked me to cook white rice for my bua who was not well. I put the rice pot on the stove and went inside the room because I couldn't stand in the kitchen, and everyone was communicating in loud voices that surely would have given me a headache. I literally forgot about the rice and stepped into the kitchen… boom! The bottom of the rice got burnt, and my sister looked at me with furious eyes, and Ama taunted me a little bit " jab tumhe pata tha k new chawal 5 min m ban jaate to tumhe andar nahi jana chahiye tha!"I admitted my mistake, and thankfully,no one exaggerated the matter.

It may seem like an ordinary daily event to everyone, including me, but there are hundreds of women in our society who are verbally, physically, or emotionally abused over the tiniest things—like putting too little or too much salt in dishes, adding more spices, and the list goes on...

Women spend hours in the kitchen to make food, but when it turns out a little tasteless, they have to listen to taunts from in-laws, and sometimes from their sons and brothers too.

Being a Desi Amma, my Amialso panics or starts blaming herself if something goes wrong from her side, and my calmest Abbu Jaan—the greenest forest—calms her by saying, "You can't reverse the situation no matter how much you cry or blame yourself," but still, Amma is Amma!!

I clearly remember the first time I cooked a dish. It was a green gravy-type chicken recipe which I read in a magazine when I was in class 7 (vo ek alag kahani h k Ammi ko kaise manaya k mujhe pakane do). It turned out good and everyone liked it, including my Abbu Jaan, but he doesn't eat chicken, so I tried again to make it for him in beef—but it turned out to be a disaster. I made it too spicy with a combination of all masalas without proper measurements (bht pagal aurat thi main). But salute to my Abba and Chachus who didn’t say a single word against it.

I can recall many incidents like that. Cooking roti in the initial days in class 9—which used to turn hard like a rock after 5 minutes—but my Abbu used to eat that roti. Baking a cake for the first time (class 11th or 12th) on high flame, so it burnt from the sides and remained unbaked from the inside. Thank God Ami was not at home; otherwise, that would have been my last day! And then Abu suggested me to give that cake to crows. And last but not the least, I once spilled a whole big bowl of yogurt and started crying, but Abbu came to the rescue me and repeated the same words he always says to Ami"khair hai... cheez hai jaani thi to chale gaye... rone se wapas thori aegi".

It was the softness of my father that I can admit my biggest mistakes in front of him—and now with my Ami too—and I tease her by saying, “Chill Ami, chill.”

Believe me, cooking becomes super easy when you are cooking with love—but it needs a little patience and tolerance—when you know that no one is going to point out flaws in it.

I loved cooking since my high school days, and no one in this house ever pressurized me for it. That only became possible because my people supported me. Otherwise, I would have never made anything again for someone ungrateful. (My brother knows that well because he once made such a mistake, so now he eats quietly.) I solely did it for myself. Also the reason , I do not have to rely on someone else—and it helped me a lot in my hostel life. (Hostel k blunders pr phr kbhi sahi 😂)

This beautiful 17-year-old girl was shot by someone in her flat in Islamabad. Her only "crime" was that she used to make TikTok videos and upload them publicly.

My humble question to all men is: if making TikTok videos is considered haram, then it should be equally haram for both men and women. We live in an Islamic country where women are expected to uphold the dignity of the family, while men are often given unrestricted freedom to live as they please—right or wrong—and are even defended by their parents when they do wrong, dismissing their actions as mere childishness.

Unfortunately, such news is no longer new to us. As a nation, we have become desensitized to these tragedies. Not long ago, a young woman who had just started working as a teacher was killed by a man she had refused to marry. Qandeel Baloch, Noor Mukadam, and thousands of unreported cases—women brutally murdered and silenced.

The irony is that on social media, many sick-minded men are justifying this heinous act by using religion as a shield. The seed of extremism planted by Zia, and later nourished by Musharraf and Nawaz, has now grown such deep roots that its shadow offers shelter to patriarchal and anti-feminist minds—all in the name of religion.

وقت کے ساتھ ساتھ انسان کی ترجیحات کتنی بدل سے جاتی ہیں!؟
وہ لوگ وہ چیزیں جن کے بغیر ہم جینے کا تصور بھی نہیں کر سکتے تھے آج ان کے بغیر بھی ہماری زندگی کے دن کٹ رہے ہیں ۔

گزرے ہوئے وقت میں جو ہماری سب سے اولین ترجیح تھیں وہ باتیں آج حماقت سی لگتی ہیں کہ جیسے زندگی ایک اور موقع دے تو ہم جا کر اُن غلطیوں کو سدھار سکیں پر پھر اپنے ہی اس احمقانہ بات پر دل میں خود پے ہنستی ہوں ۔

وقت بڑا استاد ہے وہ سبق سکھا دیتا ہے جو شاید کوئی کتاب نہ سکھا سکے ۔
اور یہ وقت ہی سب سے بڑا مرہم ہے جو ملے ہوئے سارے زخموں کو بھر دیتا ہے ۔

When a person comes to you and tells you about his problems and worries it means he considers you a person with whom he can share of his heart .

Please don't start crying Infront of him about your problems and make him feel that you are already in worse state than him !

No bro , he found you as a person who could listen to his worries and problems he didn't come to you to get more depressed .

Sometimes when you patiently listen to someone's problem it may not solve his problems but at least he feel relaxed by having someone by his side who is there for him 💕

Penned by Raina Siraj
Realm of Reflection by Raina Siraj

کیا کبھی دیکھا ہے اس شخص کو جو حرام کھاتا ہے پر وہ خوش باش ہے اپنے گھر میں ؟

کیا کبھی دیکھا اس کو جو دوسروں کی زندگیوں میں فساد پھیلاتا ہے پر اُس کی اپنی زندگی میں امن ہے؟

یا اس شخص کو جو دوسروں پے ظلم کرتا ہے پر خود آزاد پرندے کی طرح گھوم رہا ہے؟

یا پھر ایسے کو جو ہر وقت گناہ کرتا ہے پر دل میں ندامت تک محسوس نہیں ہوتی ؟

اس وقت دل ایک شکوہ کرتا ہے نہ کہ کیا اللہ ایسے لوگوں کو اُن کے اعمال پے سزا نہیں دیگا ؟ کیا وو یونہی ہمیشہ دوسروں پے ظلم ڈھاتے پھریں گے لیکن سماج میں پھر بھی عزت دار کہلائے جائیںگے؟

پر پتہ ہے وو جو اوپر ہے نا اسے سب پتا ہے وو ایسے لوگوں کو مزید لمبی رسی دیتا ہے کہ دیکھوں کہ یے اور کتنا گر سکتا ہے.
پر اللہ جب ایسے لوگوں کی رسی کو کھینچتا ہے نہ تو اُن کو ذلیل و خوار کر دیتا ہے اُس وقت اُن کو اللّٰہ کی پکڑ سے کوئی بھی نہیں بچا سکتی۔ بس بات صرف یے ہے کہ کچھ کی رسی اللّٰہ دنیا میں ہی کھینچ لیتا ہے اور کچھ کو اگلے دنیا تک مہلت دیتا ہے ۔

وو جن کو اللہ نے طاقت اور حکومت دی پر وہ اُس کا ناجائز استعمال کرتے ہیں اور وو جو اپنے اولاد کی خوشیوں کے خاطر کسی اور کے بچے کا حق چھینتے ھیں اُس وقت اللّٰہ کی قرآن میں کہی ایک آیت ذہن میں آتی ہے جس کا مفہوم یے ہے کہ " یے مال اور اولاد اس دنیا کی حیاتی کی زینت(سینگار) ہے "

~رینا سراج 🖋️

If you can't fly ,Run

If you can't run ,Walk

If you can't walk ,Crawl

But by all meanings keep moving because the world is not going to stop for you !!

"Mothers deserve all the luxuries and happiness in the world "🥺❤️❤️❤️

It's been more than a week I m at home due to vacation and see my Ami from cooking to washing dishes to cleaning home and never ending house chores in this scorching heat and not getting a minute to rest .

I usually wake up late around 10 at that time she is done with cleaning and will not allow me to cook the meal beacause she know I have back pain ,severe acne problem and can't bear the sunlight

I just enter the kitchen and start sweating that's why my Ami can't see me in the situation (though I love the colking)

But the day I wake up early and do any house chores in the morning , she will not call me for the rest of the day for any other work Instead will do herself or ask my sister .

I mean she works whole day but we never appreciate or say any good words that's the system of every desi house hold but when I do little she would tell everyone that my daughter has done this ,this and this ❤️❤️

I have developed a habit of saying little dua to her when I m unable to help her like "Allah tawhan ly asani kare " or "Allah tawhan khe in jo ajar binhi jahanan m de "

Mother's love is unconditional 🥺❤️she is the one who knows of your heart even without uttering a word .

May Allah bless the all mothers in whole world and make us able to give them all the happiness they truly deserve 🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️

~Raina Siraj ✒️

“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished??”
― Rumi🖤

وسائل پر قابض لوگ،
غریبوں کو بتاتے ہیں کہ بھوک خدا کی طرف سے آزمائش ہے۔۔۔۔۔😥 💔

When you intentionally or unintentionally hurt someone and though you are justified with your behavior but your heart become uncomfortable and guilty !!

Congratulations !!! you are blessed human whose heart is so pure that even you still felt guilty despite being right and that person deserved that behavior ..

There are very few people who think before speaking something because their words may hurt someone ..

Such people are gems if you have one of them in ur life hold them 💖

By RAINA SIRAJ 🖤

Realm of Reflection by Raina Siraj

میری زندگی کے کانٹوں میں پھول کی طرح ہو تم🖤

کسی بنجر ریگستان میں بارش کی طرح ہو تم 🖤


~رینا سراج 🌹🌼

#اردوشاعری #شاعری
Realm of Reflection by Raina Siraj