DOSElf Development

GROUP 5
Being mindful with the Self or Mindfulness is awareness that arises through paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.”
This is the off-cited definition from Jon Kabat-Zinn, well-known author and founder of the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts (who is careful to add that it is an operational definition and leaves out some aspects of mindfulness).
A similar definition comes from psychologist Scott Bishop, who describes mindfulness as a “nonelaborative, nonjudgmental, present-centered awareness in which each thought, feeling, sensation that arises ... is acknowledged and accepted as it is.” Simple as it may sound, mindfulness transforms how we relate to events and experiences. It creates a more spacious way of being in the world that is less reactive and generally happier.

Developing a steady and non-reactive attention is often radically different from the way we are in the world.
Many of us spend large parts of our lives on auto pilot, not aware of what we are experiencing, missing out on all the sights and sounds and smells and connections and joys we could appreciate. Some of that time our minds seem "switched off," and other times caught in thoughts from the past (often regrets) or plans for the future, much of which is repetitive.
When we do notice something in the present, our habit is often to judge instantly and react quickly, often working from a faulty or limited perspective that restricts our options or creates issues.

Mindfulness helps us be present in our lives and gives us some control over our reactions and repetitive thought patterns. It helps us pause, get a clearer picture of a situation, and respond more skillfully.
There are many different practices that can support the development of mindfulness, including different types of sitting meditation, movement, or even simply being in nature. This site describes some of these mindfulness meditation techniques. In general, they seek to develop three key characteristics of mindfulness: Intention to cultivate awareness (and return to it again and again)
Attention to what is occurring in the present moment (simply observing thoughts, feelings, sensations as they arise)
Attitude that is non-judgmental, curious, and kind.

Mindfulness is not always easy because other experiences (thoughts, feelings, physical discomfort) naturally arise and can pull our attention away. But with practice, our skill increases, and we can pay attention to our chosen object without getting lost in other experiences. And we find that we can also simultaneously notice any underlying reactivity, such as annoyance or frustration.
Mindfulness for some people, mindfulness is primarily a way to enhance health or performance. For others, mindfulness is a tool for self-exploration. And for yet others, mindfulness is part of a spiritual path, a way to develop insight into the human condition and freedom from suffering.
Regardless of the motivation, scientists find that practicing mindfulness is associated with changes in the structure and function of the brain as well as changes in our physiological responses to stress, suggesting that this practice has important impacts on our physical and emotional health that are worth exploring.

Growing numbers of studies and reports of clinical practice have suggested that mindfulness meditation practices bring about positive significant effects in reducing physical and psychological symptoms, and in improving active growth and well-being, as well as changing self-knowledge and the mode of self-referential processing.

GROUP 2
PEER SOCIAL COMPARISON

All developmental tasks are expected responsibilities to be fulfilled by an adolescent to be able to prepare us for our interactions with other adults, and also in establishing your place in your community as a responsible adult. People who make social comparisons may be more likely to experience specific destructive emotions and behaviors. One of which is the social comparison, this form of sociological self-esteem, where derive our sense of self through comparing ourselves with others. There are three changes why adolescents compare. The physical, cognitive and socio-emotional changes. During the middle and late adolescence that’s the time that we encountered on what we called physical changes, often start to grow more quickly. It also begin notice other body changes, including hair growth under the arms and near the ge****ls, breast development in females and enlargement of the testicles for males. The cognitive changes it is processes become more logical and organized when dealing with concrete information. middle and late adolescence at this age understand concepts such as past, present, and future, giving them the ability to plan and work toward goals. Lastly, the Socio-emotional changes this time the adolescents construct a sense of self and identity, an understanding of who they are. Adolescents encountered the self-definition and discovery are influenced by their relationships with parents and peers.

There are two ways of comparing the Upward and downward comparison, the upwards comparison occurs when people compare themselves to someone better. Whereas the downward comparison is defined by making a comparison with someone worse. Also there are three positive and negative effects of peers social comparison, the body image, Outlook in life and social media. The body Image, this time we can see changes on ourselves, we can do improvement to our physical appearance through make a self discipline, eating healthy foods, exercising and practice good hygiene are just few ways to improve ourselves better. But there’s also a negative effects on out body image, we can distracted by the others and we can feel dissatisfaction because some of us are not happy and contented this may lead to a eating disorder and a lot of harmful ways of treating our body. Next is the outlook in life, adolescent may choose to use the comparison as a motivation to thrive more without competing to others. Some of us might encountered insecurities and self doubt, others will getting envy because of what society he/she has, but if we have a determination to do better we can achieved whatever we want to be. Lastly is the social media, In this digital age social media are the platform to connect to our companions. There are advantages and disadvantages of social media on of which is through social media we can enjoy and make fun to the other world. But there’s a negative effect of social media, jealousy is the main reason why people encountered insecurities because what they saw in social media there might tend to imitate but because of life’s difficulties they do negative thing to achieve what they want to be.
Instead of comparing others why we start embracing ourself. Be inspired and don’t compete yourself to others wait for your time to come and always put into our minds that comparing oneself against others may be healthy or unhealthy for an adolescent. It can be a source of inspiration or motivation to better oneself; or it can be a source of insecurity and low self-worth.

GROUP 6
Unit 4: Dealing with the challenges of the adolescence stage
Adolescence is a challenging time for most people since various issues, such as financial, family, school, anxiety, puberty, and many more, will be dealt with differently during this stage. Adolescence is a difficult time, especially for teens who are trying new things in their new surroundings. Adolescence is a tough time since it brings about a lot of physical and mental changes, as well as feelings of sadness, joy, hurt, anxiety, fear, and other issues. There are three stages of adolescence, but the late adolescent period is the most worrisome for me since many young teenagers suffer from sadness and anxiety, which can lead to su***de.
The majority of teens rebel throughout this era, and our children will desire freedom as a result. One of the primary reasons why teens are prone to rebel against their parents is because they have a high expectation of us, and many teenagers want to pay attention to their parents, especially if they are working or running a business. Today's teens encounter a variety of issues, such as teen pregnancy, academic worries, alcohol, parent-child interactions, and self-determination, which is why parents should not only educate their children on how to open up in the family, but also listen to them.
Parents need to listen to their children and be cautious of them during adolescence since they have sensitive sentiments as they are going through adolescence. Many children and teens are exhausted in their daily lives, which is why many teenagers believe that they are always right, which is why it is very important to provide parental advice to our children because if we make a mistake, they will believe that we are creating them enemies. . Many adults won't believe us if we say we're just overacting, but they don't realize that puberty isn't always easy for us. All we need is to be able to understand one other, and the most essential thing is to be able to love each other

GROUP 1

GETTING TO KNOW ONE’S SELF

Knowing yourself is an important step to achieving happiness and peace. I remember this one quote from J. Paulsen "Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is the true power. If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich." To learn your true self, identify the qualities that make you unique.

It is helpful to know and understand yourself. It has a lot of benefits that will make you grow as a person. Knowing yourself will be able to help you on how to handle such challenges in life. It will make you stronger and can make you easily adapt to your surroundings.

There are other people who do not know themselves very well and instead of putting themselves first, they put others first. We have different qualities and personalities and this differences make us unique in our own way but knowing ourselves is a different kind of feeling. They say the beginning of all wisdom is knowing yourself . It takes time spent in conscious reflection but when you realize that it is more important to know yourself you will never be swayed on what other people say about you because you are you.

Getting to know yourself is more important yet challenging. Knowing yourself is a journey since it involves figuring out who you are as a person. It captivates you and forces you to challenge your deepest fears, thoughts, weaknesses, and insecurities. Knowing yourself entails understanding one’s own actions, thoughts, and perceptions of our environment. Knowing yourself entails getting to know the actual you, not simply the one you show to the rest of the world.

Defining who you really are as well as what you stood for in daily existence might help you gain self-assurance. Once you understand what drives you to break negative behaviors and build new ones, you have a better understanding of yourself. You'll be able to recognize that both goals and aspirations energize your strength. Patience and empathy for others. We can sympathize with people if you are aware of your own flaws and challenges.

It has always been more important to keep in mind who or what you are than if it were for anyone else to recognize who you really are. And since their pride won't allow them, most individuals can never get it. The biggest obstacle to self-awareness is ego, which is the antagonist in your heroic tale. You begin to be at peace after depriving oneself of egos through mindful meditation.

We can waste a lot of time as humans worrying about our interpersonal relationships. The only relationship that matters in life, though, is the one you have with yourself. You are the only one who goes with you throughout your life. From birth to your grave, it's all about you. Self-awareness frees you from the influence of others' opinions. It doesn't matter what others say or advise you if you know what works for you - what is beneficial for you and, hence, what isn't. Confidence is also linked to independence and self-awareness. Knowing who you are and what you stand for in life might help you feel more confident in yourself.As we all know, knowledge brings insight and confidence, which can make decision-making (for both basic and complex options) much easier. Once you have that complete understanding, there isn't much room for uncertainty.

Knowing yourself means giving yourself permission to not knowing whilst unraveling the deeper truth of who you are. If you feel that no one is proud of achievements, at least be proud of yourself. Knowing yourself is a journey. It is about discovering who you are as a human being. Yes, the journey around knowing yourself can be challenging and scary at the same time but you should believe in your own strength, we know that you can do it. Whatever things that you will discover about yourself, don't be afraid, accept and embrace it because it's part of you.

GROUP 4
Adolescence is a turbulent period for most people. Understandably so you are saddled with decisions about career, lifestyle and As a male child, it is even more difficult you also have to make decisions about drugs, alcohol, family etc. You are under a lot of pressure to live up to society’s definition of ‘a man’. Planning life directions can be especially difficult if you are ill-equipped on how to deal with situations that you face.
In order to enjoy a crisis-free adolescence and emerge a responsible adult, it is paramount that you possess skills such as decision-making, assertiveness and goal-setting skills. You also need to be able to take charge of your life.

Above all, believe in yourself. Many successful people are where they are today, because of the confidence they have in their abilities. Talking and thinking positively about yourself helps to achieve your goals faster. Believe you can rise above every difficult situation and make a success of them. Do not let negative comment from people set you back. Growing up is all about making decisions some good, some bad. However, do not let bad decisions discourage you.

GROUP 3
KNOWING YOURSELF
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ~ Aristotle
The above saying is a very ancient one, but its meaning has not lost its value. The wisdom it conveys can find application in each one of us, in every activity of our everyday life, for every human being, no matter who they are, what social class they belong to, their gender, the professions they have, or their different skills, without excluding anyone. Even in our modern era, it can find application in everyday life and activities such as education, mental health, or the relationship we build with one another.
Learning to know yourself is a long journey. It consists of delving into your past and reflecting on how your life has evolved. The choices and decisions you have made, and what affected you to make those decisions. It means knowing and reflecting on the traits of your character and personality. Knowing yourself means knowing the real you, not just the one you present to the world. Living your life to the fullest cannot happen unless you know yourself and the position you deserve, or more appropriately, what you can achieve. Your character and values you have, your passions and fears, your strengths and weaknesses. During the journey of knowing yourself, you will find the true meaning of your life, you will learn the true wisdom which serves to live a successful and meaningful life.
The most important enterprise in your life is to be able to discover who you truly are. Many people live their lives without knowing or hearing the inner critic that gives wrong ideas about themselves. To find yourself might seem like an inherently self-centered goal, but in fact, it is the most decent process which is the root of everyday life activity. In our interactions with the people and the world, we have to know first our values and what we have to offer. It is a journey worth taking for all of us. It is a process that involves understanding and breaking down your defects that do not represent who you actually are, and recognizing who you want to be in order to fulfill your destiny. It means to recognize your values and skills, but without closing your eyes on your flaws. Finding yourself should not be something to fear.