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SEEING THE UNSEEN | A Guide to Conscious Caregiving.
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Seeing the Unseen A Guide to Conscious Caregiving Too often caregivers of children with challenging behaviours feel that the solution to the problem lies outside of them. Yet we all bring past wounding into ...

We are pleased to announce the launch of 'Seeing the Unseen: A Guide to Conscious Caregiving'. This is a follow-up to 'Seeing the Unseen: A Handbook for Caregivers of Children with Attachment Wounds'.

Available now!

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Wisdom from The Honestly Adoption Co.:

“Sometimes, the most effective response to escalating moments with your child, is to ask yourself a simple question: ‘Is this a hill I need to die on?’
Follow up questions: ‘What's really at stake if I choose to not respond to this behavior, or words?’ ‘Does this matter in the context of the big picture of parenting, and connecting with, this child?’
Choose your battles, and your hills, carefully.”

Want to learn more? Check out thehonestlyadoptioncompany.com.

Wisdom from The Soul Journey with Sarah Moussa:

WHEN A HEALTHY MAN COMES INTO YOUR LIFE.

You will be confused, at first it will seem disinterested or not very intense. You will believe that there is something strange with him, or that you are not the center of his attention.

When a healthy man comes to you, he is not going to put you in a place of delirium and demand, he is not going to demand attention and he is not going to harass and control you.

When you attract a healthy man, they will have some things in common, but he is not going to make an effort to like you and be nice all the time, he is going to show himself as he is.

When a healthy man comes to you, he will share his peace and calm with you, he will include you in his life without dragging you down and he will be respectful of your times. He won't mind showing you

He will show you who he is instantly, masks will not fall after a few months that will baffle you.

They won't lose spaces, he will listen to your silences and know about your cycles.

When you attract a healthy man, only then will you know that you cut the repetitive pattern of attracting toxicity and violence as well as you will know that you healed what was broken in you.

I wish you everything you deserve

~Bali Bali
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Wisdom from Robert Ohotto:

"The greatest way a person can gain power over another is to control their emotional truth."

Want to learn more? Take a look at Robert's online course, "Evolve or Repeat", available via www.ohotto.com.

Psychologist reveals six traits all manipulators have in common Dr Carmen Harra, American author of Committed: Finding Love and Loyalty Through the Seven Archetypes, told FEMAIL the 'warning signs you should heed for your own sake'.

Wisdom from Matthew Fox:

“The fatherly heart is so important that we must all learn to embody it, whether male or female, young or old, parents or grandparents....a fatherly heart brings hope, promise and possibility into one's life, while the lack of a fatherly heart often brings hopelessness and despair and the violence that follows.
A fatherly heart gives us wings, providing us with ambition, empowerment, and strength. The fatherly heart also provides boundaries and contains us, grounding us like Green Man. A good father encourages personal and individual responsibility. A fatherly heart does not foster dependency or co-dependency but healthy individuality.
An authentic fatherly heart is in love with life, and is a nourisher and supporter of (this love of life)...
An authentic father is a caretaker for Mother Earth, working to make sure her creatures, soil, water, air and forests are healthy. A fatherly heart goes out of its way to foster mutual communication within a family and a community: a communication that flows both ways, listening and speaking, teaching and learning...”

Want to learn more? Check out Matthew’s book ‘The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine’.

Wisdom from Robert Holden:

"Sometimes in order to be happy in the present moment you have to give up hope of a better past."

He goes on to say you cannot be happy and carry grievances, you cannot be happy and be resentful, you cannot be happy and be a victim. "Happiness is not the absence of sadness or the opposite of suffering. This is about cultivating joy so we can someway meet our sadness and suffering in such a way we can navigate our way through it. It is a letting go, a forgiveness of sorts."

Want to learn more? Hop on over to robertholden.com.

Wisdom from Terry Real:

"When an inner child kicks up, you want to put them on your lap, put your arms around them, hear what they have to say, love them up, and take their sticky hands off the steering wheel. You want to hear them, love them, and demote them."

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Being Well Podcast: True Intimacy, Toxic Individuality, and Breaking the Trauma Cycle with Terry Real Forrest and I are joined by author and therapist Terry Real to talk about how to successfully metabolize our trauma and experience real intimacy in our relationships.

Wisdom from Judith Blackstone:

“Although most relational trauma occurs in childhood when we have less perspective with which to assimilate events and less freedom to leave traumatic circumstances, as adults, we can also be traumatised by ongoing abusive relationships or by overwhelmingly painful events. Someone who is consistently denigrated, for example, by a spouse or a boss at work may react in the same way as a child does to an abusive sibling or adult, by forming lasting beliefs about themselves and others and creating chronic bodily patterns of constriction that express these negative beliefs or that protect against the full impact of the abuse.”

Want to learn more? Grab a copy of 'Trauma and the Unbound Body'.

Wisdom from Mary Frances O'Connor (via The Marginalian):

"[...]studied under fMRI, the brain of a person who has lost a loved one to 'ghosting' behaves much the same way as the brain of a person who has lost a loved one to death, the mental map suddenly crumbled and torn to pieces."

Your Brain on Grief, Your Heart on Healing “Grief is a heart-wrenchingly painful problem for the brain to solve… to live in the world with the absence of someone… ingrained in your understanding of the world… For the brain, [they are]…