Remarkable Minds

New episode!

Your brain runs like a Ferrari. But even a Ferrari needs a service.

This week we're talking about why rest feels so hard for neurodivergent people, the guilt that comes with stopping, and what actually helps.

Episode 8: The Ferrari Needs a Service, out now on Spotify and YouTube.

Have a listen now
https://youtu.be/C1MmTczol-I

Are you joining us for our free Webinar tomorrow lunchtime?

We'd love to see you there. If you haven't registered there is still time.

We'll be looking at why the narrative you may have had running internally most of your life is just plain wrong - you aren't lazy, or disorganised and it's definitely not that you just aren't trying.

You are trying extremely hard. Possibly harder than anyone around you. The problem is that a significant proportion of that effort is going into things that don't show up as output.

Managing how you come across, tracking the energy in the room, replaying the conversation you had this morning to see if you said the wrong thing, checking for signs that someone might be disappointed in you and running the mental simulation of every possible way the next interaction could go.

That is cognitive work and it takes real energy.

When so much energy is being taken up internally by the time you get to the actual task, you're already depleted.

Not because you've been doing nothing. Because you've been so much internally.

We are going to be talking about this tomorrow - come and join us.

The link to register is here: https://join.remarkableminds.org/rm-free-webinars-registration

Hey! Did we tell you we are running a free webinar next week?

When we work with our clients, one of the biggest challenges they experience is how they interact and relate to other people. Because when your brain works a little differently to your friends, your colleagues and your partner, well it can be a bit tricky to navigate relationships.

When you are in a relationship of any kind, as a neurodivergent adult, and things feel a bit rocky - it's easy to feel like you are the problem. Most of our clients do.

But, is that really case? Are you really to blame for all the awkward conversations the feeling of letting people down, the exhaustion from trying to be someone you're not in all of your relationships?

Come and join us for this free 30 minute online webinar on 28th May at 12:00 and we'll help you understand what's really going on, and how you can have much better, more fulfilling relationships in your life.

See you there

Register at this link: https://join.remarkableminds.org/rm-free-webinars-registration

New episode out now - and this one's a good one.

We're talking hyperfocus. If you're neurodivergent, you probably know exactly what we mean. That state where you are completely locked in, time disappears, your bladder ceases to exist, and somehow you produce your best work at 11pm when everyone else has gone to bed.

But hyperfocus isn't always the hero of the story.

When it doesn't show up, it can leave you questioning yourself. When it points at the wrong thing, it causes chaos. And if nobody around you understands what's happening, it can look a lot like selfishness - which does real damage to relationships.

In this episode Vanessa and Becky talk through both sides honestly. The brilliant and the messy.

Real stories included - a pandemic plant-based standoff, a son who ignored every school checkpoint and still nailed it, and Vanessa's now-legendary bathroom moment from a Wellington stage.

If you're neurodivergent, this will feel very familiar. If you love, work with, or manage someone who is - this might be the most useful 25 minutes of your week.

Go have a listen. And if someone in your life needs to hear this, send it their way.

🔗 https://open.spotify.com/show/02vMVizni69B7V9ldTt1Iw

Let's talk about some of the self care myths that need to go.
The idea that you should want to meditate every morning. That if you were doing it "right," you wouldn't feel this tired. That self care is something you earn after a good week.
None of that is true.
Swipe to bust a few myths - and find a better way to start looking after yourself.

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Self care doesn't have to be a whole thing.
Sometimes the most supportive thing you can do for yourself takes less than five minutes - and looks nothing like a spa day.
Swipe for a handful of tiny, real ideas you can actually use today. And save this one - you'll want to come back to it.

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Self-care isn’t just about what you do. It’s about how you feel about doing it.

Because for a lot of women there’s a constant pull to just keep going, pushing through and holding everything together for everyone.
So that, even when you know you need to recharge or step away, it doesn't feel that simple.

There’s a voice that says, "I'll get round to it later" or "there so many more important things to do"

So self-care becomes something you think about, but don’t quite give yourself permission to do.

Real self-care isn’t about adding more pressure to your "to do" list.

It’s about giving yourself permission to pause, step back or make a decision that supports you as much as other people, without feeling guilty.

Learn more at:
bio.site/remarkableminds