Spirit and You NZ

When I do a reading for someone I always ask if the person speaks to their loved ones in spirit themselves.

Often people say they sometimes talk to a particular loved one and get signs from them but they don’t really ask them questions and receive an answer.

If you are one of people who would like to speak to your loved one’s in spirit, here are a few tips:

Set your boundaries…
Tell spirit who you are willing to speak to. You can also let them know if there is someone (or many people you don’t want to speak to). When I started speaking with spirit I had one loved come through, then a few weeks later another came through, then after a couple of months I had many of my spirit family come through. It got overwhelming at that stage so I asked them to understand that I only wanted to speak to 2 of them until I was ready to speak to the rest of them. 6 months went by and I remembered what I had said and realised they had obliged and stayed away. I told them it was ok if they came to visit and they did.
Remember - you are in control. You say who can connect with you and who can’t. Ask for the connections to be for your highest good and to be positive, with no negative experiences and add any other boundaries you want to put in place.

Keep it simple…
You don’t need to move straight into asking big questions, though feel free to do so if you want to.
For example you can ask what the weather is going be tomorrow, where you lost keys are or ask them to give you a memory that you shared together but that you had forgotten.

Expect an answer…
If you are learning to speak to spirit, then learning how they answer you or believing what you hear can take time, but know they will answer.

Listen, look and Feel…
Spirit answers can come in different forms, such as a feeling, a ‘knowing’, images in your mind or getting an answer without physically hearing it, among others. Getting in tune with these feelings is the key to understanding messages from spirit.
You can also ask for validation to check if an answer or sign is really from spirit. This is a great way to practice your spirit connection and get to know what it feels like to get a ‘yes’, a ‘no’ or any other answer.

Fi 🌻

Sometimes our minds get into a routine and we can miss subtle messages that our intuition wants us to see.

Making small, simple changes can help take us out of that 'automatic' mode.
Things like:
- changing the image on your phone homescreen
- moving the app buttons around on your phone, tablet or laptop (shock, horror!)
- sitting down for a few minutes before you rush out the door and mindfully thinking about the day ahead
- taking a different route when driving to a usual location
- making some small changes to your rooms at home
- decluttering a crowded space, locker or car boot
- going to a different supermarket than usual or parking in a different area than you normally would
- if you wear the same clothes week after week while others are tucked away and never used, swap them around for a day, a week or a month - you might find some surprises
You get the idea?

Making simple changes on a regular basis can help to create new pathways in the brain and are great way to reignite your awareness and alertness 👀 - great companions to your intiition.

F 🌻

Do you know who is on your spirit team?
We often think of our close family and friends being on our spirit team, but can forget our ancestors, old friends, school mates or workmates that are in spirit too.

From my chats with spirit I believe we are all part of the collective conscious of the spirit world and the universe, and that we can tap into that if or when we need support or comfort, or if we want to communicate with them for whatever reason.

I’ve had some unexpected visits from spirits on my team who come through to say hello or pass on timely messages.

The first time I realised just how wide my spirit team was, was when I went to a medium before I was communicating with spirit myself.
The medium described a lady in spirit who I said I didn’t recognise. If fact, after thinking about it for a few minutes I did recognise the physicality and personality of the spirit, and the events that the medium was telling me about, I just couldn’t relate it to the people I thought she would bring through.
It was a lovely lady who I had cared for when I had worked in a rest home 20 years before. I adored her. She was a sweetheart, and the reason she came through via the medium that day was to remind me what a difference we can make in peoples lives, even if we only know them for a short time.

The fact that the message wasn’t from someone closer to me really struck me. I would have expected that message from my closer family but never would have thought someone I had known 20 years ago, for a few months, would have popped in like that ❤️

So, who is on your spirit team?

Remember, you are in control of any connections with spirit. You can control whether you want contact or not at any time simply by saying “Go away, don’t contact me” or “I’ll tell you when you can come and see me but not now”

F x

How do you know if a sign from spirit is a sign?
Are you missing signs that they are trying to show you?
Here's a few tips:
• Think about what sign you want to ask for
• Have the intention that you want your spirit loved one to give you a sign
• Take a purposeful, calming breath
• Ask your question - don't be afraid to be specific. Don't forgot to say please and thank you 😊
• Be prepared for the sign to show up and believe it will
• Depending on what you have asked, be open to how the sign shows up - It may be an obvious sign that you would expect to see or it may be a place, time or format that you weren't expecting

If you doubt a sign or aren't sure if it's a sign, that's ok. Don't be afraid to ask them again to confirm it.
They love the fact that you can still be in contact and this is a great way to build up your communication with them.

F x

I'm surprised by how many people believe that they can't communicate directly with their loved ones in spirit even though they can feel them or they get clear signs from them.

For some people it may be uncomfortable or the fear of the unknown if they do start 'talking' to them.

For others, perhaps it's a matter of learning how to feel the energy of their loved one or 'hear' what want to say to us.

Wherever you are on that spectrum, know that you have the ability to control that relationship and communication to make it whatever you want it to be.

F x

Is our intution always right? Should we always trust our gut feeling?

In my experience it took me many years to work out the subtle difference between my first intuitive reaction and the thoughts that would jump into my head a split second later, already altered by my experiences and emotions.

That's how communicating with spirit works for me too - identifying that 'split second' thought and being able to hold that space for spirit and their loved one in order for spirit to clearly communicate what they want to share with you.