Lowise

05/10/2021

Focus - it's all (well, a lot) about focus.
Do you look back or forward?
What is keeping you glued to the rear view mirror?
I had to learn to turn to the windshield, to let go of past hurts and beliefs, but oh, how much more happiness it brings!

23/09/2021

Where do you come from and how did that place influence you?
I grew up close to the Baltic Sea. We went there almost every weekend, for walks along sandy beaches, high cliffs, wind-bent pine trees, lush hills or stony fields.
This month I was able to go back to some of these places. It's early autumn. The wind is chilly (therefore the jacket), the water warm enough for bare feet - and I am happy.

13/09/2021

Change your mindset - change your life.
We are all somewhere between Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset:
How much of a Growth Mindset do you live at the moment?
Dare to make it grow?

Here are 5 hacks that change fixed mindsets into growth mindsets.

08/09/2021

How many green flags do you practice?
Are the people around you green flag people?

04/09/2021

Did you know that the 4th of September is the World S*xual Health Day?
I'd like to switch the words a bit and ask you: what do you think is Healthy S*xuality? Is your sexuality something you enjoy? Is it caring, playful, safe, arousing and mutually desired? Does it include C.E.R.T.S. (Consent, Equality, Respect, Trust and Safety)?
Many people have been introduced to sexuality in ways that express only a few or even none of these qualities. And the way we got to know sexuality often stays with us unless we make an effort to relearn more satisfying approaches.
Check out the list of Qualities of Healthy S*x by Wendy Maltz here:
https://healthysex.com/healthy-sexuality/part-one-understanding/qualities-of-healthy-sex-exercise/
If you are longing for more of these qualities in your life - let's talk or find other good places for support. There are many resources to try out. You deserve safe and enjoyable sexuality.

01/09/2021

Repeat every day. As often as necessary, until you believe in you.

The words you say to yourself are the most important words in the world. 🤗

Thank you Marisa Peer for the powerful message.

25/08/2021

How is your marriage going?

24/08/2021

Last week I attended a funeral for a friend. We had become closer in Covid times and spent lovely times on walks and (a few) other outings, phone calls and messages.
What surprised me, was my reaction after the funeral. I got home and fell asleep. I was tired and sad and could not muster any energy to make dinner or go for a walk. I ended up reading a book (about insects!) while eating chocolate and ice cream.
Basically the whole week I was not my best self. I got irritated with myself and started to condemn myself - until I realized that I had forgotten what I tell clients so many times:
"Grief takes time and energy. Grief is physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually exhausting. It's important to take time to grief, to find comfort and rest."
I am grieving, and it's ok. I miss her. I have to make peace with the thought of never again going together to the Chinese Buffet in town or for a walk in the Gardens. I miss her excitement about life, her joy in small things and her encouragement and understanding.
It's ok to grieve.