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Many adults think praise is always helpful. It is not.

When children only hear “good job” or “you are so smart”, they can start to rely on approval instead of learning how to cope, try again, and improve. Over time, this can make them give up more easily, avoid challenges, or feel pressure to always be “the best”.

What children actually need is to feel seen. Not judged. Not labelled.

They need adults to notice effort, small progress, and the behaviours they can repeat. That is what builds real confidence and resilience - not empty praise.

This is a small shift, but it changes how children see themselves for life.

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Not only does your child feel your energy, they will also mirror your energy.
We can’t be responsible for how our children behave in every situation but we can recognize that our children feel our energy deeply, so deeply that they will mirror it back to us.

The question is, do we own what they mirror back?

Are we aware of what is being mirrored back?

I often speak about a parent’s emotional energy as the weather that dominates the home and frankly, it dominates whoever we are around.

If our emotional energy is grumpy or mad, we can’t be surprised if our child is grumpy and mad. Our energy is quickly reflected in our child’s behavior and what you might find surprising is that they cannot help but absorb our energy and then send it back out.

So even when we try to force ourselves to act in a way that is inauthentic, believe me when I say that our emotional energy is what our children feel.

What we can do is become aware of this energy and the messages that it’s giving our children (as well as everyone else around us) and one way we can do this is to notice what our children are reflecting back to us.
What do you see in what’s being mirrored back to you?

If we make an angry face when we’re frustrated or annoyed with our child, we can’t be surprised by their angry face or frustrated expressions when they are annoyed.

If we yell when we are annoyed or overwhelmed, we can’t be surprised when our child yell for similar reasons.

If we are rough with our children, we can’t be surprised by their aggressive behavior.

We truly are the example for our children and our energy shows up in all our interactions.

We all want children who are emotionally healthy but here lies the challenge - an emotionally healthy child needs a parent who is emotionally healthy because our children cannot learn from us if we don’t have ii to give.

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Love and respect must be experienced to be fully felt and this is why embodying love and modeling respect is important for your child to see, hear, and experience.

Unconditional love says to a child that they are worthy of respect even in their most challenging times.

Unconditional love opens hearts and expands our ability to be more empathetic and compassionate.

Respect deepens the relationship between parent and child.

Unconditional love is powerful. Respect uplifts your child. When your child receives both love and respect, they will not only give this to themselves but to you and others.

Respect towards your child in both thoughts and words is one of the most loving, nurturing things you can do.

When you show love with the words you speak, you’ll find that you’re inviting more positivity into your heart and your home.

When you stop to listen to what your child wants to say, you model respectful listening.

Remember, it starts with you.

Please be loving and respectful to yourself, when you do you develop capacities that help you become a more loving, respectful parent.

Offer yourself unconditional love and respect that’s full of grace even in your most difficult moments and this will make it more possible for you to give love to your child that is also respectful even in their most challenging moments.

One thing’s for certain, the more you Love and Respect your child, the more they will love and respect themselves and others. more on this topic in my Award Winning book - The Little Book of Parenting

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There are healthy ways to discipline—and they don’t involve fear.

Discipline is about teaching, not hurting.
Set clear boundaries, stay calm, and guide your child with respect.

Children learn better from connection than correction.

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“If the children are free, we can see how they have this great desire, not only to eat and play, but for something elevating. Right from the beginning they have this marvelous wish.”
— Maria Montessori
The 1946 London Lectures, p. 72

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