Coaching.by.Lux

At Coaching by Lux we offer Kink coaching for individuals and couples.

Kink coaching for individuals and couples: Coaching by Lux offers a safe, supportive, and judgment free space for individuals and couples who wish to explore kink in a conscious, healthy, and meaningful way. As a coach, therapist, and experienced practitioner (for 20 years), I see both the complexity and the transformative potential that kink can hold within personal growth, identity, intimacy, and relationships.

Lux has studied a range of subjects in the past and is a certified (C)PTSD counsellor, grief and bereavement and relationship counsellor. And has completed her study in body language, EMDR and psychotherapy for LGBTQIA+ individuals.

In addition to these qualifications, I bring lived experience as an expert in religious trauma. Coaching by Lux also offers sexuological counseling and Kink coaching for couples and individuals.

Don’t take the same steps when your nervous system warns you. The same emotional pain and fear you once promised yourself you would never accept again.

Do not revisit the scene of the crime by taking the exact same steps and hoping this time the ending will be different.

Your past experiences are not there to make you fearful, but to make you wiser.

Pay attention to what feels unsafe, draining, or emotionally damaging.
Listen to the discomfort you keep trying to silence.
Those feelings are often your boundaries asking to be respected.

Healthy relationships should not require you to scream in fear before you are seen and heard.

Protect your peace.
Set boundaries early.
And remember: recognizing patterns and saying NO more, I deserve change and a place that is safe to grow in! is self respect.

Unhappy Mother’s Day
to the women who carry children only in memory now,
who wake to a silence that never stopped echoing.
To the mothers with empty arms and hearts stitched together by grief,
this day does not bloom gently for you.
It aches. It reminds. It reopens.
Unhappy Mother’s Day
to those who no longer have a mother to call,
to those who longed to become one,
to those who were promised motherhood by hope
and met only loss, waiting, or goodbye. For some, this day is not wrapped in flowers and laughter,
but in absence,quiet, heavy, and deeply human. So today, for all who are grieving,
for all who feel forgotten while the world celebrates,
know this: your sorrow is real.
Your love is real.
And the depth of your grief speaks only to the depth of your love. I see you.
I understand the ache that lives beneath this day.
And I hope you are met with tenderness with gentle hands, patient hearts,
and the kind of love and support that helps you survive the hours.
If today hurts,
you are not alone in that pain.

In case you need to hear this..you are not broken, you are responding to what you’ve been through.

What you feel, how you react, the patterns you notice… they all have a reason.
And understanding that is where healing begins.

You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
With the right guidance, you can learn to feel safe again, trust yourself, and move forward with more clarity and calm.

If you feel ready for support, feel free to contact me to book a coaching session.

Red flags..part three 🚩. I’ve been sharing more real talk lately..honest reflections about life, grief, domestic violence, and the things we often feel but don’t always name.

This series is a continuation of that.

As a counselor, and certified relationship therapist, I want to bring awareness to some of the red flags that can quietly shape our relationships. Not to judge, not to label..but to help you notice, reflect, and better understand what you’re experiencing.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t what’s happening… it’s realizing that it matters.

If something resonates, take a moment with it. Awareness is often the first step toward change.

And if you feel like you’d like support in navigating your situation, you’re welcome to reach out to me for a coaching session. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

I’ve been sharing more real talk lately..honest reflections about life, grief, domestic violence, and the things we often feel but don’t always name.

This series is a continuation of that.

As a counselor, and certified relationship therapist, I want to bring awareness to some of the red flags that can quietly shape our relationships. Not to judge, not to label..but to help you notice, reflect, and better understand what you’re experiencing. I often hear from clients that they feel they can’t be their authentic selves especially when it comes to gender expression, needs, and desires. If you can’t truly be yourself with your partner, it may not be the right match.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t what’s happening… it’s realizing that it matters.

If something resonates, take a moment with it. Awareness is often the first step toward change.

And if you feel like you’d like support in navigating your situation, you’re welcome to reach out to me for a coaching session. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. often hear from clients that they feel they can’t be their authentic selves—especially when it comes to gender expression, needs, and desires. If you can’t truly be yourself with your partner, it may not be the right match.

Red flags..part one 🚩. I’ve been sharing more real talk lately..honest reflections about life, grief, domestic violence, and the things we often feel but don’t always name.

This series is a continuation of that.

As a counselor, and certified relationship therapist, I want to bring awareness to some of the red flags that can quietly shape our relationships. Not to judge, not to label..but to help you notice, reflect, and better understand what you’re experiencing.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t what’s happening… it’s realizing that it matters.

If something resonates, take a moment with it. Awareness is often the first step toward change.

And if you feel like you’d like support in navigating your situation, you’re welcome to reach out to me for a coaching session. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

Real talk: Survival mode kept you going, but it was never meant to be your permanent state. Always being alert, always pushing, always holding it together… that wasn’t who you are, it was what you had to do.

And while it protected you, it can also keep you stuck in a cycle of tension and exhaustion.

Healing is learning that you are allowed to feel safe again.
To slow down.
To breathe without bracing for what’s next.

As a certified (C)PTSD counselor and experience expert, I support individuals in moving out of survival mode and back into a state of safety and balance.
I offer different forms of therapy, including EMDR, tailored to your personal journey and needs.

You are not weak for needing rest.
You are human for wanting peace.

If you feel ready for support, you’re welcome to book a session.

Real talk: Abuse doesn’t always leave visible marks, but the impact is real.

What isn’t seen is often what lingers the longest..
the selfdoubt, the anxiety, the constant feeling of walking on edge.

As a certified trauma informed coach, (c-ptsd counselor and experience expert), I want you to know that emotional and psychological wounds deserve the same care, attention, and healing.

Healing is possible and it begins with being heard, believed, and supported.

Abuse often hides behind words, promises, and moments of kindness, but harm is still harm. Confusion, fear, and selfdoubt can make it difficult to see clearly, especially when it comes from someone you care about. If you feel ready for support, you’re welcome to book a session.

Real talk: Mourning isn’t something you “get over,” it’s something you learn to live with.

Grief doesn’t follow a straight path.
It moves through you in waves, sometimes quietly, sometimes all at once.

As a certified grief and bereavement counselor, I hold space for those moments where words are hard to find and emotions feel overwhelming.
There is no rush, no right way..only your process, at your pace.

With the right support, grief can become something you learn to carry with more softness, more understanding, and less loneliness.

If you feel you need support on your journey, you’re welcome to book a session.