19/03/2024
LONG READ
So, I saw this post and the following conversation attacked the woman as wicked and so on....people were angry and had the right to but I came with a reply saying...
"I don't think a DNA test is the solution. We are losing our humanity and a DNA test will further make us less human. How did we become this deep manipulative liar if a system did not enable it?
While more attacks came a simple bullseye question was asked: What system are we talking about here?
My response was...
The system is the HOME. Every child was raised in a home. The basic values that our lives are built on are from the home. There are many other contributing factors as well.
Children learn to lie from their parents. I have seen that in my house. Their inability to process information as adults makes them adopt whatever behavior they see as a habit or lifestyle.
My wife got a call and was at home saying "I am almost at the gate..." I wondered which gate was in the living room. Everyone laughed but I scolded her immediately that it was a lie and she should return the call telling when she would get there if she didn't want to disclose her location.
Oh yes, small lie right? The children had learned something BIG
Most times we aren't conscious of these and make passes. Her foundation for expressing truth will be based on relativity and not necessarily fact. That small lie grows many other branches such as deceit and manipulation.
Growing up, my mum told us that anyone who lies can also be a thief and a witch. Fear catch us ehn cos if you catch thief he will lie and say that is his first time or he wasn't among like many of una don confess that year 🤣
As we grow, lies gradually eat the fabric of our existence that even when people tell you things you have to first confirm. In Japan, their word is their bond and if you can't keep it, you honorably kill yourself.
Today, we lie for a living, in our offices, churches, and media and even make jokes about it. THE SYSTEM ENABLES IT! The system grows from the house to the society, where friends will even encourage you to hide the truth.
This same lie is what feeds relationships that break trust. Yes, I have lied before and learned that the TRUTH sets the heart free regardless of consequences. I have learned that truth creates trust and trust fortifies any entity being built.
Personally, I WILL NEVER DO A DNA to test my children's paternity. All children are God's gift and I will be responsible to those he has given me. If their "real father" comes, yes I will be emotionally down but grateful I was able to raise a generation. Anywhere he sees me, he will call me Dad.
After all some people de find pikin and some pikin de find papa. Who twisted our minds about some realities in this ephemeral life? Let's live in fullness everyday
