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This year, 2025, shall bring us more love, hope, peace, joy, and favour.

Happy New Year!

As the year comes to a close, I want to take a moment to express my deepest gratitude to each and every one of you for being part of my journey.

To my amazing Facebook community, thank you for trusting me with your concerns, questions, and stories. It's been an honor to offer guidance, support, and counsel on family matters, academic, character education, morality, among others. Your engagement, calls, and chats to acknowledge the value of my content in this space have made my heart full. They have motivated me to continue doing what I love.

To my incredible clients, thank you for believing in me and my writing/editing services. It's been a privilege to help you bring your book ideas to life and share your stories with the world. Your trust and satisfaction mean everything to me.

As we bid farewell to this year and welcome a new one in a few hours from now, I want to assure you that I'm committed to doing more. By God's grace, more valuable content that will help you navigate the ups and downs of the family matters will roll here in 2025. This time around, I will be much available for both online and physical speaking engagement in seminars, workshops, webinars, and conferences as the year will offer. It's a calling that must be lived out!

If you've benefited from any of my content, teachings, or services, I'd be forever grateful if you could:

👉🏻 Recommend my page, MumSussy Initiative, to your friends and family who might need guidance or support on family matters.

👉🏻 Consider hiring me for your writing/editing needs or referring me to someone who might need my services.

Your support will continue to mean the world to me, as I'm excited to continue serving and supporting you in the years ahead.

Wishing you and your loved ones a joyous, peaceful, and prosperous 2025!

Mumsussy loves you!💕

If the family is always in chaos, the effect is mostly seen on children. Parents, be wise!

A well nurtured family is medicinal to the body.

Nothing makes a family stable like creating a STRUCTURE AND SYSTEM. When parents create a structure and system at home, many things happen as desired.

The easiest way to know that something is wrong somewhere in a family or amongst the children is when the structure or system collapses in the absence of the parents that created it. Simply put, every time the parents' absence creates a vacuum in their children's lives behaviourally, something is wrong with the system; it has to be checked for better results.

If anything should be missing in the absence of the parents at home, it should be their unique voice of instructions and expressions of life experiences, and not otherwise.

𝐓𝐈𝐓𝐋𝐄: 𝐖𝐇𝐄𝐍 𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐆𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐖𝐑𝐎𝐍𝐆

Do you know that some homes are prison of fear?

Have you ever noticed some children, especially teenagers, who see outside home as a place for freedom?

Any teenager who sees leaving home into a university or for apprenticeship as freedom, is a product of failed parents. It's clear sign that parenting has gone wrong somewhere.

When a child dreads the presence of his or her parents but behaves bizarrely in their absence, it's an obvious sign that the parents have failed.

Many parents, often with the best of intentions, create an environment at home that resembles a prison. The parents want to be parents by all means, so every instruction or correction they give, comes harshly. Self-expression from children is seen as disrespect, rudeness, or unnecessary. Children have no clue or opinion of what goes on in the family. Such homes are prisons in disguise for the children, and any opportunity they get to leave such a home becomes a freedom for them.

Solution:

Strict rules and harsh punishment don't make you a real parent, but practising empathy and understanding, setting clear boundaries, and using positive reinforcement do.

In addition, seeking knowledge when and where necessary, makes the difference.

Accumulating wealth for your children is good but the values you'd instill in them would be more profitable.

There is this thing that has become a trend in many young homes. I don't know if you've noticed it.

The worrisome part of it is that the young mummies and daddies take pride in it. It's like a show of their wealth, care, responsibility, and love to their children. No dear, it's not; you're rather risking the future of your children. You're damaging their brains and of course, their sights.

What exactly is that?

It's the introduction of an iPad to children. Recently, I was travelling on a bus, and a boy of about 4 years brought it out from their bag. "My mummy bought it for me," he told another little boy he met on the bus as he switched it on to watch.

Of course, it may sound cool, but, have you ever done research to understand the negative effects of an iPad on children? Many people claim that it's educational and all that, but they don't remember that the contents therein are mostly westerner's, and African parents are always busy; they may not have the time to supervise what their children watch and do with what they watch from the iPad.

It would interest you to know that even the World Health Organisation has meticulously outlined the dangers of exposing children to the iPad. It include:

👉 brain damage,
👉 developing eye problem,
👉 adopting the westerner's lifestyles or another family's lifestyles instead of your own family's values, etc.

Obviously, these dangers outweigh the benefits.

Meanwhile, it's more preferable to expose children at an early age to fine motor skills than exposing them to the iPad. With fine motor skills, they will improve their dexterity, hand-eye coordination, and creativity, while also enhancing their ability to perform daily tasks, academic skills, and artistic pursuits with confidence and independence.

So henceforth, take away that iPad from those innocent kids; it's doing more harm on them than good. If they must use it, make sure that you're with them to supervise what they watch, and the watching shouldn't be every time.