26/10/2022
*My Child is not Doing Well*
I cannot count the number of times I’ve heard parents say this – in the school, at home and on the streets. Sometimes, they say it directly to me. Other times, I overheard them complaining to other parents.
I notice the sincere concern in the eyes of most parents. Every parent wants their child to be the best, to be at the top of the list.
The truth some parents fail to see is that children are wired differently. That your child did not come first in class does not mean he/she is not doing well. That your child fails mathematics does not make him/her a colossal failure.
Find your child’s gift. Help them to harness it to the fullest. Take pride in the things they can do well and let them know that you can support them.
Nothing kills a child’s self-worth faster than knowing their parents do not believe in them.
Here are some practical steps to take to improve:
1. Make more time for your child.
2. Learn Sign Language to be their close friend.
3. Check your child’s notes regularly.
4. Guide the child patiently to do their homework, not doing it yourself.
5. Correct your child with love.
6. Buy more books than clothes, toys and gadgets for your child to study with.
7. Spend money on a home teacher if you can.
8. Reduce your child’s TV time, and allow them to watch only educational channels or programs.
9. Celebrate all your child’s wins, big or small.
10. Show up in your child’s school events always.
11. Ensure your child has breakfast before going to school.
12. Never use the expression “You don’t know anything” before your child.
13. Pray for your child consistently, and read God's word with them regularly. There is Sign Language Bible for those who are hearing impaired.
14. Follow up your child’s progress and give moderate incentives.
Finally, place your right hand on your chest and affirm: _*“My child is doing well, and I believe he/she can do better.”*
