Singles With A Testimony SWAT

27/07/2026

Not everyone is a 'friend'. Some are just classmates. Some are just colleagues. Some are just people you know. Let's stop overlabeling every connection as 'friendship'. Friendship comes with trust, effort, and shared values, not just shared selfies or group works.

Be kind to everyone, but be wise with your labels. Cause not everyone who smiles at you, roots for you. And that's not bitterness. That's maturity.☺️

18/07/2025

Watch and be blessed

26/05/2025

29/11/2024

PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES!!!

1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something

2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweetie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone

3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone

4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile

5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner

6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored

7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner

8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken

9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back

10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other

11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception

12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time

13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text

14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease

15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked

16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face

17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse. Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand

18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying

19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other

20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts

21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online

22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust

23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two

24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner

25. Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone...

27/10/2024

Your own wedding will soon be announce here 💍👰💞

26/10/2024

I See You Getting Married
I See You Celebrating 🤍💍

04/10/2024

THINGS A MAN MUST NEVER DO TO A GOOD WOMAN!

My brothers, when a good woman loves you, she gives the whole of herself to you. She loves you with her whole heart and soul. Don't make her regret her decision of loving.

This is what you must never do to such a woman;

1. Don’t Break Her Heart:
Breaking a woman's heart is deeper than we realize. It affects her emotionally, destroys her outlook on love and can affect her future relationship.
Love is never supposed to hurt. Love is supposed to heal, to be your haven from misery, to make living worthwhile.

2. Don’t Pretend You Love Her.
If you don't truly love her, let her know and stop wasting her time. It's better She knows than you making it look she's safe

3. Never Tell Her She Is Ugly.
This is the worst thing you will ever say to a lady. Every lady deserves to be called beautiful. So to the females reading this, You Are Beautiful.

4. Don’t Compare Her To Your Ex:
That's unfair to her and a disaster waiting to happen. She is not your Ex. Every woman is unique. Never make her feel she's not match to your ex. If your ex is better than her, then make her to your taste not compare her. Love her unconditionally

5. Don’t Take Her Love For Granted:
She'll love you. When a lady accepts you into her life, she loves with everything in her. She loves with her heart. Please appreciate it.

6. Don’t Shout at Her:
Screaming and yelling at your lady is oppression. Argument is common in any relationship but yelling should not. When you are shouting at your lady, then you are damaging the bond to the core. Lovers don't shout at each other. They talk as friends.

7. Never EVER Lay your hands on her:
NEVER! It is only a f@ol who beats a woman. Real men don't beat women. They protect them.

8. Never Cheat On Her.
Relationship is never for the unfaithful people. If you can't be faithful to one person for the rest of your life, don't go into a relationship. A real man chooses to honor, love, respect, adore and be faithful to one woman

9. Don’t Disrespect Her:
I know she can be silly sometimes, but show maturity by correcting in love.

10. Don’t Waste Her Time If You Will Not Marry Her. If you are NOT sure that you will marry the lady you are courting right now and you know very well that she is very serious with you in the relationship and wants to marry you and has sincerely given her everything to stay by your side; please tell her now that you will not marry her so that she will not waste her golden time on you. Never waste a lady's time.

11. Don’t insult her

12. Don’t Make Her Feel Unloved:
Love her wholeheartedly.

13. Never R-ape Her.
Real men are not r-apists. R-ape is a crime.
R-ape can cause life-long emotional and physical effects on its victims. R-ape is a crime and a human rights violation. No r-ape is justifiable.

14. Never Fail To Say She Is Beautiful.
Learn to say beautiful words to her. Women are moved by what they hear.

15. Don’t Mock Her In The Public.
In private, lovers can softly poke fun at one another in a way that is safe and gentle. In public, it’s not as easy. A man must be very careful about using his lady for a cheap laugh. While it’s okay to laugh about events, it’s dangerous to make any joke which can be taken as demeaning

16. Don’t impregnate Her And Deny it.
One of the basic reasons of s£x is that it is meant for procreation. Anybody who opts for s£x must be ready to accept the consequences of s£x namely, procreation. That is one of the reasons why God does not allow it to be done wrongly.

17. Don’t Expose Her Secrets To Your Friends And Family. Those private revelations should never be made public by you.

18. Don’t Lie To Her.
Be faithful, loyal and honest.

19. Don’t Correct Her In The Public.
She will feel embarrassed. Let any correction be done between both of you. And let it be done in love.

20. Don’t Hate Her Family.

21. Don’t Treat Her Like A Nonentity.
Value her. Celebrate her uniqueness. She is a treasure

22. Don’t Make Promises You Can’t Keep.
Be a man of his Word.

23. Never Dupe or Scam Her.

Be a MAN OF Maturity, Strength and Wisdom.

Be a man she'll Thank God she has

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27/09/2024

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE:

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.
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23/09/2024

TYPES OF DATES EVERY
COUPLE SHOULD TRY

1. PICNIC DATE
There is something special and free about the outdoors. Pack up some food and drinks and a leso, find a spot and have fun.

2. WALK DATE
Make time to just take a walk as you bond. Walk for long as you hold hands, laugh, bump shoulder to shoulder. You need no money for this.

3. ELEGANT DATE
Go all out. Gentleman, ask her out to an expensive, classy venue. Give her a chance to dress up. She will feel special, smiling as you romance her; she wearing her fashionable dress.

4. DANCE DATE
Find a place where good music is played or dance is taught and go there as a couple. Salsa, lingala, afro, twist, benga; go to a place where you will sweat, groove and get down.

5. IMPROMPTU DATE
Dates don't have to be pre-planned. Be spontenous sometimes, drop everything and go somewhere as a couple for some quality time.

6. MOVIE DATE
Go to the cinema. Movies bring out emotions.

7. DOUBLE DATE
Go out on a date with another couple close to you. This will give you a chance to celebrate love and talk couple to couple. Your love will grow stronger.

8. COMPASSION DATE
There are many people in society to bless. You and your partner, find a children's home, an elderly home, a hospital or someone in need and together go spend time with them. God will bless your love.

9. CANDLE-LIGHT DINNER DATE
There is something romantic about looking into each other's eyes in dim candle light. Make it special. Romance is sweet.

10. SPECIAL MOMENT DATE
This is when you celebrate big as a couple a special moment like Birthday, Anniversary, Graduation or Promotion. Never forget these moments.

11. MAKE-UP DATE
If things between you two haven't been going well. Make effort to save your love by planning a good date. A date provides a good setting to allow you two to talk and get back to deep love.

12. LUNCH DATE
Since you work at different jobs, sometimes meet up and have a couple's lunch for an hour or so.

13. OLD LOVE DATE
Dates are not for young love only. Sadly, as lovers stay in a relationship/marriage, the dates become fewer as they go through the motions. No matter how long you've been together, step outside your everyday responsibilities and go for a date to rekindle and sustain the excitement.

14. SPORTS DATE
Is your favorite football club, rugby team, basketball team, golfer playing? Is it the safari rally, athletics? Go out for dates as a couple where you can scream, cheer and go wild. You two will connect more.

15. FRIENDS DATE
Have a barbeque, hook up with friends, throw a party. Organize something as a couple where your love will be celebrated in the presence of close friends.

16. TRAVEL DATE
Pack your bags and travel. Break the monotony and as a couple drive, fly, sail to a place you've never been. Experience new attractions together. Your love will never be boring this way.

16. STAY AT HOME DATE
Lock yourself in the house. Not to work or do chores. But to switch off everything including phones and concentrate on each other. Cook together, eat together, bath together, make memories for two.