The Truth About Lovers

All men and women are not the same, so as u get set for marriage, don't try to paint a picture of ur spouse that does not exist and don't use someone else's picture as ur own learn how she/he operates and adjust urself accordingly to him/her. A good understanding of this will eliminate any frustrations. Be a student of ur spouse. Where she may have a weakness, the time u may use to nag and complain about her may be better spent discovering how u can help her become better!
No womder we are told it is by understanding that a house is established (proverbs 24:3).
Understanding helps u remain calm in some challenging situations whereby in actual fact, u should naturally be screaming at the top of ur lungs. It is a man or woman who has a cool spirit that has understanding (proverbs 17:27).
Take no pleasure in rating and raving but getting the understanding required to establish ur home.
May God give us the understanding of our potential pouse IJN.

God above all

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My husband and I were having a fight.. So we were not talking.. He was giving me the silent treatment.. I also ignored him and we went on like that for the whole day.. After work that day.. I returned home.. Made dinner and we ate.. He went in to sleep while I stayed to watch my programs.. Later I joined him i n bed.. I couldn't sleep.. I kept turning and tossing.. I was restless.. I went to drink cold water and returned.. He was fast asleep already..

I was so h***y but we were fighting so.. I had to suppress my urges.. Early morning I got up to p*e. When I returned he was still sleeping but he had a strong er****on. This made me even more h***y.. I looked at it for a while and wondered but this thing is mine nau.. Why am I making shakara.. That's how I slowly took it out and grabbed it in my mouth oo..

Someone that was sleeping suddenly woke up and said wat are you doing.. I didn't even answer him.. He said stoppppppp.. He said stoooooooooopppppp... I stopped sucking, shifted pants and sat on it jeje... I was still beefing him of course but the beef did not reach that side please.. I started rolling and whining and flipping and thrusting.. Someone that was mad at me suddenly started moaning.. Baby stop this.. Stop*eeeet.. Stooop ahh stoop...

I was just giving him side eye.. That's how we both came crumbling and collapsing with so much passion.. After that I went to shower and dress up for work.. He said where are you going.. I said work of course.. He said do you realise you just used and dumped me??? And that was how we burst out laughing.. We had breakfast and both left for work..

Then he sent me sweet messages later.. Baby i want us to fight more often. This our cute little fight was so adorable and you totally knocked me off this morning.. Because you hardly initiate s*x.. So keep it up.. Love you and have a nice day... Since I received this text I've been smiling.. Love is beautiful.. Marriage is wonderful..

A prisoner was sentenced to death by hanging, but a group of scientists wanted to test the limits of human belief and the power of the mind. They told him that instead of a hanging, he would be killed by a venomous snakebite.

To make it more convincing, they showed him a large, terrifying cobra. The prisoner, filled with fear, was then blindfolded. Unbeknownst to him, the scientists used a sharp needle to prick his hand in the same spot where a snake's fangs would strike, simulating a snakebite.

As they watched from a distance, the prisoner, believing he was poisoned by the snake, began to feel the effects of venom coursing through his body.

Despite there being no actual venom, the man’s belief in the snakebite led to his rapid physical decline. Within minutes, the man collapsed and died.

This phenomenon, though shocking, is known as the placebo effect where belief and expectation can bring about real physical outcomes. It illustrates just how powerful the mind can be.

The mind can shape our reality, either for better or for worse. In this case, the prisoner’s belief in his fate was so strong that it caused his body to react as though the bite had truly occurred, even though it had not.

This story teaches us a crucial lesson: our thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions have a profound impact on our well-being. What we believe about ourselves and our lives can either uplift us or tear us down.

Therefore, it’s essential to maintain a positive outlook, as our minds have the potential to shape our realities. Never underestimate the power of your thoughts. Choose to believe in your strength and potential, for your mind can be your greatest ally in overcoming challenges.

Bob Marley was once asked if there was a perfect woman. He replies:

“Who cares about perfection?
Even the moon is not perfect, it is full of craters.

The sea is incredibly beautiful, but salty and dark in the depths.

The sky is always infinite, but often cloudy.

So, everything that is beautiful isn't perfect, it's special.

Therefore, every woman can be special to someone.

Stop being "perfect", but try to be free and live, doing what you love, not wanting to impress others”

Keep resting legend 💚💚💚

Few days after our wedding, we had settled into our home and trying to adjust, adapt and bond with each other. I decided to cook for My Amazing Husband as the one zillion yard wife material that I am..

Uncle was anticipating for this food because mehn, the aroma was giving premium contents 😂

Finally, food is ready and I served my man like the King that he is.

Few minutes into the food, uncle was not happy and one thing about my husband is the fact that he doesn't know how to hide his disapproval about something so it was very obvious that something was wrong somewhere.

I tried to find out what was wrong and guess what it was?🙄😔😏

That the orishirishi a.k.a gallops was too much and that he didn't have space to dip his swallow to eat especially considering how hungry he was.

Chineke nnam😯🤭

I couldn't believe my ears, like seriously!

Anyway, I simply apologized and promised not to put so much distractions next time.

Las Las, peace has to reign.

Fast forward to the next time, I intentionally ensured that I kept my promise by putting very little distractions and more soup. You needed to see how my husband was looking at my soup up and down. At a point, he couldn't hide it anymore and declared how that his plate was more or less empty compared to my own.

But you complained the last time about having little space to dip your swallow na. He said he didn't mean it that way. Na so argument start o!

Finally, he ended up eating with me.

Have you seen why I said that the things that breaks marriages are not big things at all?

But then I need you to understand that:

📌 My husband and I had different upbringing and our differences included how food was made. I was brought up in a home where my mum was lavish with food and my husband was brought up by step mums where he had to make do with whatever was available for him to eat and stay alive.

So to my husband, it was a way of money putting too many proteins in a meal meanwhile it was something I was used to growing up.

We brought this differences into our marriage and that tiny difference was the cause of our first misunderstandings as a couple.

Now while dating, we took time to explore and took notes of our differences but how come we didn't talk about this one? Did we intentionally overlook it? No! We didn't consider it to be important. It didn't even come to mind that this was something we needed to talk about.

What am I trying to say?

📌 While dating and courtship is the very important phase of getting to know and understand yourselves as an intending couple, you need to understand that you cannot completely get to know everything about your partner no matter how long the courtship lasts.

📌 Do not be deceived to think that you completely know yourself as an individual. There are so many aspects of your life that will be revealed by marriage and you will be required to accept, adjust and work on this newly discovered side of you. Same as your spouse.

📌 Building a friendship relationship while dating, will greatly enhance your marriage as it will make certain things easily bearable. So it is always advisable that you begin as friends and then grow from there.

📌 Intentionally build shock absorbers so that you will not have heart attack because once in a while, you will have the shock of your life. With the right shock absorbers, you will be able to scale through it.

📌 Apply wisdom. It is not everything you should take overly serious. Sometimes just be casual and joke around some things as it occurs from time to time. Life is not that serious o!

In my best selling E-book: The Realities Of Marriage, I took out time to explain the different areas of differences in marriage along with very detailed action plans on how to cope and adjust to those differences without loosing the love and spark that you have for your partner. If you need a copy, kindly indicate.

In summary, marriage is the coming together of two different and imperfect people who are and will be willing to work towards perfection and that perfection is a personality called Christ. So Las Las, we cannot be successful in marriage without Him.

When you consciously partner with Christ to build your home in a flexible way, every other thing will align

Is it really possible? Yes it is!

And you can do it.

Be Intentional!

The Truth About Lovers

Resting is not quitting self care is powerful

To God be all the glory