02/07/2026
Pastor Ezekiel, a Kenyan pastor, has stirred conversation after revealing in a church sermon that his daughter came out as a le***an while in high school.
He said the revelation deeply affected him as a father, prompting him to seek guidance through prayer and spiritual counsel. Rather than turning away from her, he chose to support her throughout the experience.
I’ve been reflecting on Pastor Ezekiel’s testimony — that his daughter came out as a le***an while in high school, and that it broke him as a father. Instead of rejecting her, he chose prayer, counsel, and to stay present with her.
From an African standpoint,
In many of our homes, ubuntusays, “I am because we are.” Family is covenant. When storms hit, African culture doesn’t abandon its own. You fight for your child, not against them. Silence, shame, and cutting off is not our highest tradition.
From a Christian standpoint,
The Bible is clear that God’s design for sexuality is within marriage between a man and woman (Genesis 2:24). At the same time, the Bible is equally clear: “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” Romans 5:8. Jesus never told broken people “go away first, then come back.” He said, “Come to me…” (Matt 11:28).
So what do we do in such situations?
⚡ Tell the truth in love (Eph 4:15)
We don’t call sin righteousness, but we also don’t call people “outcasts.” It's important to be honest and seek help.
⚡ Keep the door open
Pastor Ezekiel modeled a father who prays first, listens, and does not sever relationship. That’s Christ-like. Many parents will send their daughter packing into the wild. This won't help the child.
⚡ Trust God with outcomes
We are responsible for faithfulness, not for forcing change. Only the Spirit transforms. That's why Evangelism is defined as sharing Christ in the power of the Holy Spirit and leaving the results to God.
To parents reading this;
You can hold Scripture and hold your child. You can grieve, pray, counsel, and still love fiercely.
To children: Your father’s love is not God’s approval of every choice. But it may be God’s invitation back to the table.
“To the law and to the testimony!” Isaiah 8:20
Let’s measure every response by Scripture, and every relationship by grace.
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Dr. Nyowikeh Snr