07/11/2018
S*X BEFORE MARRIAGE 03
But the first scenario for many people seem easierâŚ
Fulfilling physical needs is easy; any creature can do
that â even those who are below us in rank and are not gifted with intellect or ability to purify and discipline their beings and desires.
Itâs easy to submit to the basic physical needs. But what Allah and Islam are calling us for is to elevate above the physical and explore meanings that are much deeper, richer and more everlasting than that.
Marriage in Islam is more than fulfilment of physical
urges. It is peace, mercy and tranquillity to the
heart, mind and soul. It is meant to be a journey of intellectual, emotional, spiritual and physical growth and elevation.
It is considered an act of worship! It follows the path that the Creator has revealed to His Messengers to teach humanity.
It is a completion of oneâs faith. Faith in marriage is a language and a deep bond between the couple. Those who are connected through their love for their Creator, their gratitude towards Him, their desire for His Closeness, their pursuit of
His KnowledgeâŚ.. All of this creates a major
common ground brought into the relationship between
the partners. Itâs like they bring an eternal bond
that connects them with their Eternal Creator, and
they hope and pray to remain connected for eternity in the afterlife.
This is whatâs meant to go on between believing
partners. When we pray for partners, we ask for
someone who could help us get closer to our Creator,
help us learn more about Him, fall more in love with Him and be persistent on our journey towards Him.
The bond between spouses is beautifully described in the Qurâan by Allah who says about spouses:â[âŚ] They are your garment and you are their garmentâ, â [âŚ] They are clothing for you and
you are clothing for themâ (Qurâan 2: 187).
Meaning theyâre so close to you, they cover you,
they fulfill your every need and you fulfill themâŚ
Even more significantly, marriage is described in the
Qurâan as a sign of the Creator:âAnd of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in
them; and He placed between you affection and
mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thoughtâ (Qurâan 30: 21)
A sign leads to a destination. He said that this relationship is one of His signs. This is because when we experience mercy, we get reminded that Allahâs Name/Attribute is The Most Merciful, The Source of
Mercy⌠any mercy we experience is a fraction of His Infinite Mercy. This helps us long for Him. When we experience deep affection (or wud in Arabic), we remember that His Name is Al Wadud, The Source of Ultimate Pure Affection. When we love our partners, we also fall deeply in love and gratitude to The One Who created them. A husband and wife smiling at each other is an act of worship that is rewarded by Him. There are so many experiences we go through and they are a reflection of His Presence, His Names and His GiftsâŚ