03/02/2026
I ONCE THOUGHT THAT NOBODY WOULD MARRY ME — REV. FUNKE FELIX-ADEJUMO
I once thought that nobody would marry me because someone told me I was too thin for any man to love. I genuinely believed it. I carried that word in my heart, and it affected my confidence.
But when I met my husband, he told me, “Don’t get fat.” Imagine! What one person hated was exactly what my husband was looking for.
That is why you must be careful what you accept as truth about yourself. Not everybody’s opinion is your destiny. Not everybody’s insult is a prophecy. Some people will speak from their ignorance, their preferences, or even their bitterness. But God will always connect you to the person who sees your value, not your flaws.
The Bible says, “Love your wife, and do not be bitter against her.” That means we wives can do things that may provoke bitterness, so husbands must be intentional. If you follow everything that comes out of a woman’s mouth, you may end up hurting her emotionally, and even destroy the peace of your home. Bear with us; don’t be bitter.
Teach us. Help us. Correct us with love, not with anger. Don’t love another woman more than you love your wife because, as women, naturally, we have the ministry of suspicion. Even when there is nothing, it’s our ministry! But please, bear with us.
Bear with us according to knowledge so that your prayers will not be hindered. That is how powerful we are.
Let me conclude by saying this: never allow the wrong voice define your worth. What someone mocked in you may be what another person will cherish for the rest of their life. God did not make mistakes when He made you. The one who is meant for you will not see you as “too much” or “not enough”, they will see you as a gift.
And to every husband, remember: love is not just a feeling; love is a decision. Love your wife deliberately. Don’t be bitter. Don’t weaponize her weaknesses. Cover her, guide her, and honour her, because your marriage is not only for companionship, it is also spiritual. When there is peace in your home, heaven responds to your prayers.