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*‎12 Ways Parents Kill Their Children’s Confidence without Knowing*
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‎One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is confidence, the courage to face life with boldness, to believe in themselves, and to rise even after failing. Unfortunately, many well-meaning parents unknowingly destroy this gift with their words, actions, or silence.
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‎Confidence is not something children stumble upon; it is nurtured in the home. If you notice your child becoming timid, withdrawn, or overly dependent, it may be a signal that something in your parenting style needs adjusting.
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‎Here are 12 subtle ways parents kill their children’s confidence without even realizing it:
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‎1. Constant Criticism
‎When every mistake is met with harsh words “Can’t you ever do anything right?” a child begins to believe they are a failure. Correct with love, not condemnation. Children need guidance, not a running commentary of their flaws.
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‎2. Comparing Them to Others
‎“Look at your cousin… why can’t you be like her?” These words may sound innocent, but they crush self-worth. Every child is unique. Comparison tells your child they are not good enough, planting seeds of insecurity.
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‎3. Overprotection
‎Parents who never allow their children to try, fail, and learn on their own unknowingly raise fearful adults. Shielding them from every risk whispers, “You cannot handle life on your own.” Confidence grows when children are trusted with responsibility.
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‎4. Lack of Encouragement
‎When children do something well, be it a drawing, a school recital, or helping with chores, they crave affirmation. Silence at such moments can be as damaging as negative words. Encouragement is the fuel that powers self-esteem.
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‎5. Excessive Punishment
‎Discipline is necessary, but punishment without explanation breeds fear. A child who grows up afraid of their parents may obey on the outside but feel worthless on the inside. Discipline should correct, not crush.
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‎6. Ignoring Their Voice
‎When a child speaks and you wave them off—“Keep quiet, what do you know?” you teach them their opinions don’t matter. Soon, they stop talking, even when their input could make a difference in the future.
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‎7. Withholding Love
‎Some parents only show love when a child succeeds. But children must know they are loved unconditionally. Love that is earned destroys confidence; love that is given builds it.
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‎8. Public Shaming
‎Scolding a child in front of others, neighbors, siblings, or classmates may correct behavior but damages dignity. Shame makes children want to disappear instead of grow. Correction is best done privately.
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‎9. Unrealistic Expectations
‎Demanding perfection, straight A’s, first position, or flawless performance, pressures children into anxiety. When they inevitably fall short, they feel like disappointments. Encourage progress, not perfection.
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‎10. Neglecting Quality Time
‎Children equate attention with value. When you are always too busy with work, phone, or TV, they begin to feel unimportant. Confidence grows when children know they matter enough to be listened to and spent time with.
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‎11. Negative Labeling
‎Words like “stubborn,” “lazy,” “stupid,” stick longer than you think. Labels shape identity. Over time, children begin to live out the negative names they are called. Speak life, not curses, over your children.
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‎12. Not Believing in Them
‎When parents doubt their children’s abilities “You can’t do it” they are planting seeds of failure. Confidence flourishes when a child knows their parents believe in them, even when they struggle.
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‎Final Word
‎Dear parents, confidence is like a fragile plant. It can be watered with love, encouragement, and patience, or it can be trampled under harsh words and neglect. If you want your children to grow into bold, secure, and successful adults, be intentional. Correct wisely, love deeply, and affirm constantly.
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‎Remember this: every child deserves a home that builds them up, not one that tears them down.
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*INDEED NO ONE HAS IT ALL*

*AJARAT* a mad woman, sleeps under the bridge, but in her hands are twin handsome boys she gave birth to some weeks ago.

*AISHA*, living in a posh house, drives posh cars, went to the best hospital in town for ante-natal care, but see her crying for she has another miscarriage.

*HALIMA*, beautiful, good job, good house, good husband yet her pillow *suffers* every night with wetness of her *tears*, because she is yet to *conceive*.

Hmmmmmmmmmm!

*Life* is deep, who can *understand* it?

*FRANCIS*, lives with his parents, his father is a poor *carpenter*, he goes to school on foot every morning with empty stomach, yet he is exceptionally *brilliant*.

*TONY*, a son of a wealthy *politician*, goes to school, with escorts and assorted food and drinks, yet he cannot *assimilate* what he is being *taught*.

*PETER*, son of a medical *doctor*, *crippled*, he cannot help himself, his *father* cannot help him yet he *treats* others and they get *healed*.

*What* *is* *in* *this* *life* *self*?

*We* all have it in *bits*, that is the irony of life. So why the *bitterness*, the *envy* , the *anger*, let's learn to *manage* our bit and see how we can make it *better*.

*FUNMI*, *virgin*, focused, *intelligent*, but she was *r***d* on her way to school, she became *pregnant*, and life was on hold for a *moment*. *Life* ! *Life* !!! *Life* !!!

*JANE* a pr******te, nothing to write home about, *married* to a *good* man, have *four* lovely kids and doing *great*.

*TEMITOPE*, rich *family*, *beautiful*, good *job*, *humble*, but yet have no *man* to call her *own*.

*No* one should *think* he is *better* than the next *person* because we have it in *bits*, as we try to *manage* our bit, let us also *try* to be a *support* *system*.

*No* one is *more*, no one is *less*, we are all *unique* in our *own* *way*.

* It is so *funny* and indeed *pitiable* to see *someone* acting so *proud* and *inhumane* just because he or she has a *slight* *advantage* over *others* in a particular *area* of *life*. *Someday* when *death* beckons, *you* will *respond* with all your cluttering *material* *possessions*.

*We* live by *His* *Grace*. So be *thankful* to *God* and remember your salary is someone's tithe.

*LEARN TO BE HUMBLE AND KIND. MORE IMPORTANTLY, DEEPEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD*

*Life has nothing good to offer, but if you have GOD, all good things will be yours, if you trust Him*.

Have a pleasant day ahead.

*WHEN YOUR CHILDREN ERR.* —Rethinking children mistakes.

When your child makes a mistake, what's your first reaction? Frustration? Disappointment?

It's easy to see their missteps as defiance or a personal failing, but what if we reframed these moments entirely?

What if every error was actually a valuable piece of feedback, a signal, or even an "error code" guiding us to a deeper understanding?

Children, like adults, aren't perfect; they're learning to navigate an imperfect world.

Psychologists assert children are born *tabula rasa*—a clear slate without prior knowledge. We are the ones who write their programming code.

God has given us our children as a *clean slate*; like a computer, we install the operating system by which they function.

As we guide them, they will learn throughout their lives.

While learning, they'll miss the mark. This can stem from being too young to comprehend, or from *curiosity, short attention spans, childish irresponsibility, youthful exuberance, or outright ignorance.* Sometimes, they're simply trying to *solidify their own convictions.*

*Erring is part of the learning curve.* Don't expect them to grasp everything instantly, or even the first time.
When they err, it signals a gap in their learning process—something they haven't yet comprehended or figured out.

Don't interpret it as defiance or rebellious. Even rebellion is feedback that there's something that we as parents aren't doing correctly.

Their errors create a *teachable moment* for you—an opportunity to discover what's missing in their learning, to bond, and to *rewrite the error code*.

When a program malfunctions, we repair it. The engineer detects and corrects the issue; sometimes, it's just an *app update* for proper function.

The error code you're receiving might stem from your initial installation process. Your approach is key."
Sometimes, our parenting 'app' is simply obsolete. Why use analog skills in a digital age? *Upgrade your parenting skills* to give your best to your children.

Parents, God has entrusted us with His greatest resource on Earth; we must handle them mindfully to avoid ruining them.

Remember, we are programmers; our children are clean slates. Installation demands patience and skill.

Parents often view their children as miniature adults. They forget that despite sharing human components, children are underdeveloped.........................

*FUN FACTS ABOUT LEARNING* 😎

✨ *The brain loves novelty*: Your brain craves new information and thrives on surprises. Novelty activates the reward centers in your brain, making learning more enjoyable and effective.

✨ *Learning changes brain structure*: Every time you learn something new, your brain physically changes. Neurons form new connections, making learning a dynamic process that reshapes your mind.

✨ *Multisensory learning is more powerful*: When you engage multiple senses—like seeing, hearing, and touching—while learning, it significantly improves memory retention. This is why hands-on activities or visual aids are so effective.

✨ *Sleep improves learning*: Your brain continues to process information while you sleep, consolidating memories. Napping after learning something new can actually improve recall and understanding.

✨ *Learning stimulates happiness*: The act of learning releases dopamine, the "feel-good" chemical in the brain. So, the more you learn, the more your brain rewards you with a sense of pleasure and accomplishment.

✨ *Chunking boosts memory*: Your brain can only hold a few pieces of information at once, but you can "chunk" data into larger, meaningful groups to remember more. This is how phone numbers are often split into sections for easier recall.

✨ *You never stop learning*: The adult brain retains plasticity, meaning it can continue to form new neural connections throughout life. So it’s possible to learn new skills, languages, or information no matter your age!

✨ *Teaching others enhances your own learning*: When you explain a concept to someone else, it reinforces your own understanding. This is called the “Protégé Effect.”

Which one of these fascinates you the most?

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*WHAT WILL IT TAKE FOR ME TO IMPROVE?*

Growth must be intentional— nobody improves by accident.

The poet Robert Browning wrote, “Why to stay we on the earth except to grow?” Just about anyone would agree that growth is a good thing, but relatively few people dedicate themselves to the process.

Why? Because it requires change, and most people are reluctant to change. But the truth is that without change, growth is impossible. Author Gail Sheehy asserted:

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living. Growth demands a temporary surrender of security. It may mean giving up familiar but limiting patterns, safe but unrewarding work, and values no longer believed in, that have lost their meaning. As Dostoevsky put it, “taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what most people fear most.” The real fear should be the opposite course.

I can’t think of anything worse than living a stagnant life, devoid of change and improvement.

*GROWTH IS A CHOICE*

Most people fight against change, especially when it affects them personally. As novelist Leo Tolstoy said, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” The ironic thing is that change is inevitable. Everybody has to deal with it. On the other hand, growth is optional.

You can choose to grow or fight it. But know this: people unwilling to grow will never reach their potential. In one of his books, my friend Howard Hendricks asks the question, “How have you changed . . . lately?

In the last week, let’s say? Or the last month? The last year? Can you be very specific?” He knows how people tend to get into a rut when it comes to growth and change. Growth is a choice, a decision that can really make a difference in a person’s life.

Most people don’t realize that unsuccessful and successful people do not differ substantially in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential. And nothing is more effective when it comes to reaching potential than the commitment to personal growth.

*PRINCIPLES FOR SELF-IMPROVEMENT*

Making the change from being an occasional learner to becoming someone dedicated to personal growth goes against the grain of the way most people live.

If you asked one hundred people how many books they have read on their own since leaving school (college or high school), I bet only a handful would say they have read more than one or two books.

If you asked how many listen to audio lessons and voluntarily attend conferences and seminars to grow personally, there would be even fewer. Most people celebrate when they receive their diplomas or degrees and say to themselves, “Thank goodness that’s over. Just let me have a good job.

I’m finished with studying.” But such thinking doesn’t take you any higher than average. If you want to be successful, you have to keep growing. As someone who has dedicated his life to personal growth and development, I’d like to help you make the leap to becoming a dedicated self-developer.

It’s the way you need to go if you want to reach your potential. Besides that, it also has another benefit: it brings contentment. The happiest people I know are growing every day. Take a look at the following eight principles. They’ll help you develop into a person dedicated to personal growth:

*1. CHOOSE A LIFE OF GROWTH*
It’s said that when Spanish composer-cellist Pablo Casals was in the final years of his life, a young reporter asked him, “Mr. Casals, you are ninety-five years old and the greatest cellist that ever lived. Why do you still practice for six hours a day?”What was Casals’s answer?

“Because I think I’m making progress.” That’s the kind of dedication to continual growth that you should have. The people who reach their potential, no matter what their profession or background, think in terms of improvement. If you think you can “hold your ground” and still make a successful journey, you are mistaken. You need to have an attitude like that of General George Patton.

It’s said that he told his troops, “There is one thing I want you to remember. I don’t want to get any messages saying we are holding our position. We are advancing constantly.” Patton’s motto was, “Always take the offensive. Never dig in.” The only way to improve the quality of your life is to improve yourself.

If you want to grow your organization, you must grow a leader. If you want better children, you must become a better person. If you want others to treat you more kindly, you must develop better people skills. There is no sure way to make other people in your environment improve.

The only thing you truly can improve is yourself. And the amazing thing is that when you do, everything else around you suddenly gets better. So the bottom line is that if you want to take the success journey, you must live a life of growth. And the only way you will grow is if you choose to grow.

*2. START GROWING TODAY*
Napoleon Hill said, “It’s not what you are going to do, but it’s what you are doing now that counts.” Many unsuccessful people have what I call “someday sickness” because they could do some things to bring value to their lives right now. But they put them off and say they’ll do them someday.

Their motto is “One of these days.” But as the old English proverb says, “One of these days means none of these days.” The best way to ensure success is to start growing today. No matter where you may be starting from, don’t be discouraged; everyone who got where he is started where he was.

Why do you need to determine to start growing today? There are several reasons: Growth is not automatic. In a book that I read "Breakthrough Parenting", it's mentioned there that you can be young only once, but you can be immature indefinitely. That is because growth is not automatic.

Just because you grow older doesn’t mean you keep growing. That’s how it is with some creatures, such as crustaceans. As a crab or a lobster ages, it grows and has to shed its shell. But that’s not the trend for people. The road to the next level is uphill, and it takes effort to keep growing. The sooner you start, the closer to reaching your potential you’ll be.

Growth today will provide a better tomorrow. Everything you do today builds on what you did yesterday. And altogether, those things determine what will happen tomorrow. That’s especially true regarding growth. Oliver Wendell Holmes offered this insight: “Man’s mind, once stretched by new ideas, never regains its original dimensions.”

Growth today is an investment for tomorrow. Growth is your responsibility. When you were a small child, your parents were responsible for you—even for your growth and education. But as an adult, you bear that responsibility entirely.

If you don’t make growth your responsibility, it will never happen. There is no time like right now to get started. Recognize the importance that personal growth plays in success, and commit yourself to developing your potential today.

*3. FOCUS ON SELF-DEVELOPMENT, NOT SELF-FULFILLMENT*
There has been a change in focus over the last thirty years in the area of personal growth. Beginning in the late sixties and early seventies, people began talking about “finding themselves,” meaning that they were searching for a way to become self-fulfilled. It’s like making happiness a goal because self-fulfilment is about feeling good.

But self-development is different. Sure, much of the time it will make you feel good, but that’s a by-product, not the goal. Self-development is a higher calling; it is the development of your potential so that you can attain the purpose for which you were created. There are times when that’s fulfilling, but other times it's not.

But no matter how it makes you feel, self-development always has one effect: It draws you toward your destiny. Rabbi Samuel M. Silver taught that “the greatest of all miracles is that we need not be tomorrow what we are today, but we can improve if we make use of the potential implanted in us by God.”

*4. NEVER STAY SATISFIED WITH CURRENT ACCOMPLISHMENTS*
My friend Rick Warren says, “The greatest enemy of tomorrow’s success is today’s success.” And he is right. Thinking that you have “arrived” when you accomplish a goal has the same effect as believing you know it all. It takes away your desire to learn. It’s another characteristic of destination disease. But successful people don’t sit back and rest on their laurels.

They know that wins— like losses—are temporary, and they have to keep growing if they want to continue being successful. Charles Handy remarked, “It is one of the paradoxes of success that the things and ways which got you there are seldom those things that keep you there.”

No matter how successful you are today, don’t get complacent. Stay hungry. Sydney Harris insisted that “a winner knows how much he still has to learn, even when he is considered an expert by others; a loser wants to be considered an expert by others before he has learned enough to know how little he knows.” Don’t settle into a comfort zone, and don’t let success go to your head. Enjoy your success briefly, and then move on to greater growth.

*5. BE A CONTINUAL LEARNER*
The best way to keep from becoming satisfied with your current achievements is to make yourself a continual learner. That kind of commitment may be rarer than you realize. For example, a study performed by the University of Michigan several years ago found that one-third of all physicians in the United States are so busy working that they’re two years behind the breakthroughs in their own fields.

If you want to be a continual learner and keep growing throughout your life, you’ll have to carve out the time to do it. You’ll have to do what you can wherever you are. As Henry Ford said, “It’s been my observation that most successful people get ahead during the time other people waste.”

That’s one reason I carry books and magazines with me whenever I travel. During the downtimes, such as waiting for a connection in an airport, I can go through a stack of magazines, reading and cutting out articles. Or I can skim through a book, learning the major concepts and pulling out quotes I’ll be able to use later.

And when I’m in town, I maximize my learning time by continually listening to instructive tapes in the car. Frank A. Clark stated, “Most of us must learn a great deal every day to keep ahead of what we forget.”

Learning something every day is the essence of being a continual learner. You must keep improving yourself, not only acquiring knowledge to replace what you forget or what’s out-of-date but also building on what you learned yesterday.

*6. DEVELOP A PLAN FOR GROWTH*
The key to a life of continual learning and improvement lies in developing a specific plan for growth and following through with it. I recommend a plan that requires an hour a day, five days a week. I use that as the pattern because of a statement by Earl Nightingale, which says,

“If a person will spend one hour a day on the same subject for five years, that person will be an expert on that subject.” Isn’t that an incredible promise? It shows how far we are capable of going when we have the discipline to make growth in our daily practice. When I teach leadership conferences,

I recommend the following growth plan to participants:

MONDAY: Spend one hour with a devotional to develop your spiritual life.

TUESDAY: Spend one hour listening to a leadership podcast or audio lesson.

WEDNESDAY: Spend one-hour filing quotes and reflecting on the content of Tuesday’s tape.

THURSDAY: Spend one hour reading a book on leadership.

Friday: Spend half the hour reading the book and the other half filling and reflecting. As you develop your growth plan, start by identifying the three to five areas in which you desire to grow. Then look for useful materials—books, magazines, audiotapes, videos—and incorporate them into your plan.

I recommend that you make it your goal to read twelve books and listen to fifty-two tapes (or read fifty-two articles) each year. Exactly how you go about it doesn’t matter, but do it daily. That way you’re more likely to follow through and get it done than if you periodically put it off and then try to catch up.

*7. PAY THE PRICE*
I mentioned before that self-fulfilment focuses on making a person happy, whereas self-development proposes helping a person reach potential. A trade-off of growth is that it is sometimes uncomfortable. It requires discipline. It takes time that you could spend on leisure activities.

It costs money to buy materials. You have to face constant change and take risks. And sometimes it’s just plain lonely. That’s why many people stop growing when the price gets high. But growth is always worth the price you pay because the alternative is a limited life with unfulfilled potential.

Success takes effort, and you can’t make the journey if you’re sitting back waiting for life to come along and improve you. President Theodore Roosevelt boldly stated, “There has not yet been a person in our history who led a life of ease whose name is worth remembering.” Those words were true when he spoke them almost a century ago, and they still apply today.

*8. FIND A WAY TO APPLY WHAT YOU LEARN*
Jim Rohn urged, “Don’t let your learning lead to knowledge. Let your learning lead to action.” The bottom line when it comes to personal development is action. If your life doesn’t begin to change as a result of what you’re learning, you’re experiencing one of these problems:

You’re not giving your growth plan enough time and attention; you’re focusing too much time on the wrong areas, or you’re not applying what you learn. Successful people develop positive daily habits that help them to grow and learn.

One of the things I do to make sure I don’t lose what I learn is to file it. In my office, I have more than twelve hundred files full of articles and information, and I have thousands upon thousands of quotes. But I also make an effort to apply information as soon as I learn it. I do that by asking myself these questions anytime I learn something new:

Where can I use it?

When can I use it?

Who else needs to know it?

These questions take my focus off simply acquiring knowledge and put it onto applying what I learn to my life.

Try using them. I think they’ll do the same for you. Author and leadership expert Fred Smith made a statement that summarizes what committing to personal growth is really all about. He said: Something in human nature tempts us to stay where we’re comfortable.

We try to find a plateau, a resting place, where we have comfortable stress and adequate finances. Where we have comfortable associations with people, without the intimidation of meeting new people and entering strange situations. Of course, all of us need to plateau for a time.

We climb and then plateau for assimilation. But once we’ve assimilated what we’ve learned, we climb again. It’s unfortunate when we’ve done our last climb. When we have made our last climb, we are old, whether forty or eighty. Whatever you do, don’t allow yourself to stay on a plateau.

Commit yourself to climbing the mountain of personal potential—a little at a time—throughout your life. It’s one journey you’ll never regret having made. According to novelist George Eliot, “It is never too late to be what you might have become.”

*Thanks ©️™️✍️*

PARENTING DURING HOLIDAYS


A Guide to Engaging Your Child, another security caution on its own..

The holiday season is upon us, and our children are finally taking a well-deserved break from school.
As parents, it's essential to ensure that our kids stay engaged and make the most of their free time.
If left unchecked, they may find themselves in undesirable situations or befriending individuals who can lead them astray.

_The Risks of Idle Time_

When children are left with too much free time, they may:

1. _Get into mischief_: Engage in unproductive or even harmful activities.
2. _Form unhealthy relationships_: Befriend individuals who can influence them negatively.
3. _Develop bad habits_: Pick up habits that can harm their physical, emotional, or mental well-being.

_The Importance of Engagement_

To avoid these risks, it's crucial to engage your child in meaningful activities during the holidays. This can include:

1. _Family bonding_: Spend quality time with your child, doing activities that promote bonding and togetherness.
2. _Skill-building_: Encourage your child to learn a new skill or hobby, such as cooking, painting, or playing a musical instrument.
3. _Volunteering_: Engage your child in community service or volunteer work, teaching them the value of giving back.
4. _Outdoor activities_: Organize outdoor games, sports, or excursions that promote physical activity and exploration.

_The Consequences of Evil Association_

As the saying goes, "evil association corrupts good manners." When children befriend individuals with negative influences, they may adopt harmful behaviors or attitudes. To prevent this:

1. _Monitor their friendships_: Keep an eye on the company your child keeps.
2. _Set clear boundaries_: Establish guidelines for acceptable behavior and friendships.
3. _Encourage positive relationships_: Foster relationships with positive role models, such as family friends or mentors.

By engaging your child during the holidays and monitoring their activities, you can help them make the most of their break while ensuring their safety and well-being.

Remember, parenting is an ongoing responsibility, and the holidays are no exception.

DEAR PARENTS ...

1. If you don't love each other right as husband and wife, your children might grow up with a warped view of marriage and make some bad romantic choices. You are their reference point

2. If you don't intentionally mentor your child, someone out there will mentor him/her and your child will want to grow up to be like them, not like you

3. If you don't take time to parent your children, don't blame the devil when they don't turn out right. Stop using the devil as a scapegoat, some grown adults are bad, not because of the devil's work but because the parents failed to do their work

4. If you don't go out of your way to sharpen your children's skills and talents, your children will go into careers and jobs they hate, feeling unhappy crying why you were not supportive. Your role as a parent is to help your children identify and fulfil their purpose at an early age

5. If you won't solve your own personal issues and sort matters in your marriage quickly, you will have no energy and time to dedicate to your children. Some parents are busy fighting instead of parenting

6. If you don't create an environment where your children can come to talk to you about anything; your children might go through abuse, depression, doubt, fear and suffer in silence. What are you in their lives for if they can't run to you?

7. If you keep dishing out gadgets and technology to your children but you fail to be attentive in your children's lives; don't be shocked when your children are raised by screens, socialites, social media influences, the dark web and p**n

8. If you don't talk candidly with your children about s*x, and all your approach to s*x is based on fear; don't be shocked when your children make bad s*xual choices

9. If you don't express and affirm love to your children at home, don't be shocked when your children fall prey to people who lure them with a fall sense of love, especially romantic love. Your young one is only looking for the affection and attention you did not give

10. If you don't take time to celebrate your child's accomplishments and gifts no matter how small but you are quick to complain, someone out there will and that someone out there will have a bigger influence over your child than you

11. If you don't make your children feel part of a family, your teenage children will find outsiders who will be more accepting and maybe ruin their lives. That is how most young ones join gangs. We all look for a place to belong

12. If you don't stop shouting and fighting each other as a couple, don't get surprised when your children do poorly in school. It is difficult for a child to focus when the parents are at war

13. If you keep running away from parenthood claiming you are not ready, no one prepared you, you were not raised well either or the child was an unwanted pregnancy; your cowardice will cost an innocent life. The child is here! Accept it, equip yourself and be the best parent you can be

14. If you don't create a home full of love and warmth, don't get shocked when your child hates being at home. Who likes staying in a toxic environment? When your child is young he/she will be phyiscally present but escaping home in their mind by locking themselves in the room, watching a lot of TV or keeping silent. And then when your child becomes a teenager, he/she will find excuses to leave the house and come home late no matter how much you complain. And when your child becomes an adult he/she will jump into freedom by going wild in campus, at work, in the neighbourhood and online because they have been emancipated from your home full of darkness and oppression

It is easy to neglect the needs of children when they are young and all you do is tell them is "Stop crying", "Stop being ungrateful", "You will do as I say in my house". Children rarely speak because they are at your mercy, but soon, they will rebel and act out if you put them through a home of abandonment, fear, lack of love and coldness.

Dear parents, it better dawn on you how much you positively or negatively affect your children and how when you two don't get marriage right, you might fail to get parenthood right. So many of the pain and mess in the lives of adults today and in their marriages stems from how those adults were raised or not raised. You have the power to shape your children's destiny, world view, self image, social life, wealth, decisions, well being and future.

Don't fail them!