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The Ones Worth Having Are Usually Built, Not Found

In today’s world, everyone wants ready-made success, including relationships. Many women dream of a man who already has it all: the money, the house, the car, the "Odogwu" status. But here's the truth no one tells enough; the men truly worth having are usually built, not found.

That man you're overlooking because he’s still figuring things out? He might just become the man everyone respects tomorrow. But only if he has the right support. And sometimes, that support is you

Love isn’t just about taking selfies and going on vacations. It’s also about building. It's about being there during the grind, encouraging him when the world doubts him, helping him think clearly, and occasionally surprising him with a gesture that shows you believe in him.

You want loyalty? Respect? A man who never forgets you? Be the woman who stood by him before he became "Odogwu". Because once he rises, he’ll never forget the one who believed in him when he had nothing.

So no, you won’t die if you invest in your man. You might actually build something that lasts.

Cheating is not only having s*x with another person who is not your wife/husband, it also includes:

1. Receiving money from a man without the knowledge of your husband

2. Giving money to a woman without the knowledge of your wife.

3. Sharing s*x jokes with a person who is not your spouse

4. Deleting messages which you dont want your spouse to read

5. Avoiding answering a call from that other in presence of your spouse or stepping aside to answer that call

6. Avoiding answering a call from a spouse when that other person is around or stepping aside to answer that call.

7. Saving contacts of those other persons with different names so that your spouse fails to recognise

8. Lying about your location to your spouse when you are with that other person or vice versa

9. Having office husbands and wives

10. Piling unresolved issues with your spouse is another highest type of cheating which will in turn ruin your body, soul and spirit.

𝐁𝐄 𝐓𝐑𝐔𝐄 𝐓𝐎 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐆𝐎𝐃 𝐖𝐇𝐎 𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐖𝐒 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐈𝐍 𝐇𝐈𝐃𝐃𝐄𝐍 𝐏𝐋𝐀𝐂𝐄𝐒.

May you not fall into a trap that will ruin your Marriage

Honestly, there are places you will be as a single man or woman you will be afraid of marriage because all you are seeing around you are couples who are just in marriage for play.
I have seen things but in my case what I am still seeing today is a challenge that I have to suppress. I have been challenged to be a good father to my unborn children and a father figure to every child that is close to me.
Marriage indeed is not a bed of roses but we have to be conscious of what we encouraged or bring into our home.
The story of my neighbor and his family is a very worrisome issue to me that I have been having a deep thinking on how the future will look like. Right now, I have come to realization and decided to just strive to be a good father wherever or whenever I become a father

🚦⚠️Young Men, Avoid these types of women🚦 part 2

Materialistic Women: If she values material possessions over meaningful connections, she will never be satisfied with what you provide. Her insatiable desire for luxury and status can lead to financial strain and emotional disconnect. She’s more likely to leave you the moment someone with deeper pockets comes along.

Women with a Bad Past: A history filled with problematic behaviors and poor choices can be a red flag for future issues. These women carry emotional baggage and unresolved issues that will negatively impact your relationship. You don’t need someone else’s drama in your life.

Unsubmissive and Reprobate Women: Women who refuse to be cooperative or show respect will only bring conflict and strife. A harmonious relationship requires mutual respect and understanding, which these women lack. They will constantly challenge your authority and undermine your leadership.

Violent Women/Women with Anger Issues: These women can be unpredictable and potentially dangerous. Their inability to manage their emotions can lead to frequent conflicts and even physical altercations. They are a liability you can’t afford.

Women Obsessed with Social Media, Male Attention, and Validation: They crave constant external validation, which can undermine the stability of your relationship. Their need for attention can lead to jealousy, insecurity, and infidelity. They are never satisfied with what you give them.

Women Obsessed with Celebrities: If she idolizes celebrities, she may be living in a fantasy and have unrealistic expectations for your relationship. This obsession creates a disconnect between her expectations and reality, leading to dissatisfaction and conflict. You can never compete with her fantasy world.

Avoid these types of women when it comes to marriage and serious relationships. Be wise and make choices that align with a stable and respectful partnership. Your peace of mind and future happiness depend on it.
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🚦⚠️Young Men, Avoid these types of women🚦 part 1

As a man, it’s never your duty to protect your woman from other men coming to toast her, flirt with her, or even sleep with her. It’s 100% your woman’s responsibility to create boundaries against men who want to encroach on her space. The moment your woman begins to entertain these external male figures, your job is not to protect her from them, start questioning her, begging, or trying to stop her. No, absolutely not.

There is nothing you can do about a woman whose eyes are outside. You will only hurt yourself if you try to caution her. As a man, you have failed if you try to talk her into leaving other men just for you. When a woman disrespects you by flirting with another man or giving another man access to her life, like the way that young man’s girlfriend left him only to be used by Omalay on stage, your best reaction is to abandon her and dump her back to the streets where you picked her from.

Women who act like this have no place being a wife to any wise man. She’s for the streets and will forever belong to the streets. The boyfriend should be happy that she revealed her true nature before marrying her. These are the types of women that are 100% destined to cheat on their men. As a man, avoid these types:

Promiscuous Women: These women are constantly seeking attention and validation from different men, making it nearly impossible to maintain a stable, trustworthy relationship. They lack loyalty and will bring nothing but heartache.

Party Girls: Women who prioritize partying and nightlife over a stable relationship are not fit for a serious commitment. Their reckless behavior and poor decision-making lead to turmoil and instability, dragging you down with them.

Materialistic Women: If she values material possessions over meaningful connections, she will never be satisfied with what you provide. Her insatiable desire for luxury and status can lead to financial strain and emotional disconnect.

THE 14 NEEDS OF A WIFE

1. THE NEED TO BE PURSUED
She needs her husband to desire her, to miss her, to look for her, to hunt for her, to make advances towards her. It makes her feel treasured

2. THE NEED FOR INFORMATION
She would love for him to voluntarily give information, to be accountable to her. This gives her clarity and makes her feel involved

3. THE NEED FOR SECURITY
Security is about being certain that he is committed to her, that he has a vision that involves her. The confidence that what they have is long term

4. THE NEED FOR COMPANIONSHIP
She doesn't just want the husband-wife title, she needs a companion, a best friend. Someone to talk to about anything. Someone emotionally present

5. THE SEXUAL NEED
Yes, women have s*xual desires too. She doesn't want to be starved, to train her body to do without s*x. She needs sweet love making that services her good

6. THE NEED FOR COMPLIMENTS
She needs her beauty and attractiveness noticed and crowned by her man. It celebrates her femininity

7. THE NEED TO BE SUPPORTED
As she is his helper, she needs her dreams supported too. She needs his support in raising the children, handling challenges and finding solutions

8. THE NEED TO BE STUDIED
She loves it when he shows interest in her, when he asks loving questions to find her out. "How was your day?", "Are you OK Love?", "What happened to your arm, I notice you have a mark?", "I see these days you are learning a lot about economics, good stuff". It makes her feel important

9. THE NEED TO BE TREATED SPECIAL
She needs him to keep her as his priority. To be faithful. To call her by special names, to show honour to her, to take care of her in public and private

10. THE NEED TO BE TREATED WITH GENTLENESS
She needs him not to handle her as if she is a fellow man, but to speak to her with care

11. THE NEED TO BE THOUGHT OF
She loves it when he considers her in making decisions, when he sees something along his path and buys for her, when he does something she likes even when it is not his cup of tea

12. THE NEED TO BE PAMPERED
She loves it when she is soothed, when she is showered with affection, when she is having a bad day and he makes her smile, when she acts a bit stubborn and he wins her over with his charm

13. THE NEED TO BE ASSURED
She will have moments of doubt, of insecurities, of feeling low. She needs him to assure her how much she means to him

14. THE NEED TO BE APPRECIATED
For all the good she does, she needs him to appreciate her. It inspires her to do more and sacrifice more.

If she wants to stay, she will bury her feet in the sand and never put you in the position to fight for her.

If she wants to be with you, she will fix herself rather than expect you to accept or tolerate her poor character.

Accepting or tolerating a woman’s poor character to prove you really care about her is not a sign of love, That is slavery.

When a woman loves you, she wants you to ENJOY her not ENDURE her. A woman’s biggest flex is being enjoyed by her man.

A girl who chose you does everything within her power to become your peace not another battle you need to fight.

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Most us endure rubbish in relationship because we are too scared to walk away. We are not comfortable being alone, so we prefer to keep enduring the excesses of our lovers.

When your partner sees that you won't break a sweat walking away from him/her if they misbehave, they will always compote themself.

The strength to walk away from a partner who is treating you with disdain is an asset. Nurture it till it becomes a part of you.

A partner should be conscious of the fact that they are dispensable. That consciousness will make them never to misbehave or try rubbish with you.

Relationship :

People always talk about break ups, betrayals, deceptions, appropriating blames but nobody points to the fact that feelings fade.

There are things our partners do, minor errors that may seem like nothing but it plants a seed of doubt in our hearts.

This seed is watered by negligence and nurtured by repetition of these minor errors in our lifestyle and character.

Some of us believe our partners are kind and forgiving so we always act recklessly knowing they will work things out.

But one day, the forgiver becomes a grudge holder and the ever understanding partner becomes irrational.

You wake up one day to realise feelings have faded. No one planned it, No one saw it coming, It just happened.

You can blame people for leading you on, deceiving you, using you whatever but in the end, it was their love for you that failed them.

It just died!!!

To be the best for someone, You must first be the best of yourself. Being observant and intentional about everything.

Tracking down your soul mate will require patience; so do not feel frustrated or hopeless if you do not find him or her in a certain amount of time. Good things take time to be brought together and you will come together when the time is right. The time becomes right when you look out for the right signs.

Thank you heavenly father for the privilege to see today.
May your will be made manifest in our lives today and always.
Good morning 🌄🌄

7 LIES WE tell ourselves as men 👇😉

1. We are working because of our wives & children

Debunk (not true because man was created primarily with an inalienable trait to work so with or without your wife, you will still WORK).

2. As the head of the home, we are in control!

Debunk (every head stands on the neck. Your wife is your neck, you can't be in control without her. Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship).

3. Our wives and children cannot do without us.

Debunk (well, die first & find out. They can! While you're on earth, do the most for them but please take care of yourself too, take care of your mental health as well).

4. Our wives cannot handle the truths about our dark side.

Debunked (A lie from the pit of hell. Please give women some credit. Women are more capable of handle emotional stress than most men. Open up & be truthful to her & trust God to grant her the grace for forgiveness & healing. Covering up your acts will lead to more dark acts).

5. Money answers everything about marriage
Debunked (Lie, lie, lie. Money answers things but no everything! Your time is important, your care is important, security, protection & their likes)

6. We can mold our wives into any shape we want.

Debunked (lol. Brother, please leave this table alone. You know what & who you married when you married her so why try to change her now? No be so dem dey do things).

7. We can cheat on our wives and get away with it every time.

Debunked (No! You may think she doesn’t know but I bet you, women have a high level of intuition and discernment you cannot phantom. Come clean, confess your sins & repent. Seek Counselling, go see a counselor with your wife & come out of that mess!).

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