28/08/2023
FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT
In 2019, Notre Dame de Paris, a French heritage site and one of Catholic Church's most treasured and historic edifices got burnt. The fire destroyed iconic artworks that were, at worst, priceless. Within a week of the incident, more than a billion dollars was raised for the restoration of the Cathedral dedicated to the honor of the Virgin Mary.
The speed at which the money was raised elicited the astonishing indignation of Africans who made sure to use their Chinese-made phones to criticize, in English and French languages, the West for responding in a snap to restore a “building” (and no life was lost in the fire incident) but would take ages to donate money for us to combat female anopheles mosquitoes and plasmodium parasites (I could have just written malaria).
Personally, I don't understand why Africans feel we have the right to tell individuals of the West how and on what to spend their money. I know most of us just view the Notre Dame as another Canaan Land or Dunamis Auditorium or just another Catholic parish.
It is not. It's history in concrete.
But let's even imagine that it is a mere building in Paris. Humans spend and relate with what or who they consider valuable, now how more valuable are Africans to Westerners than their place of worship? Asides the fact that proximity, history, etc, makes Notre Dame, more than a sick African child, more likely to get money from Western donors, know the truth that generally, people only want to relate with people or things they will benefit from.
People, generally, are more likely to help that person who doesn't really look like he needs that help but they will help him anyway because he looks like one that may help them when their turn comes. That's human nature.
The USA, by the grace of God, is the richest country on Earth, yet, it borrows the most and lenders queue to lend them more. Somalia can't get such help. Cottage industries and SMEs struggle to obtain loans from Nigerian banks but those same banks would lend Capital Oil and Dangote billions of Naira.
“But it makes economic and financial sense”, you are tempted to say. Say it, it actually does. USA is more likely to pay back than Somalia, so is Ifeanyi Ubah likely to pay back than one tech guy at Yaba. But newsflash! It's easier to get your money back from a poor man than from a rich man. Banks always call upon us lawyers to help them get their loans or collaterals from small borrowers but the big guns hold on to their billions and even go to the Senate with it.
These situations apply to your relationship with people around you. If people perceive you as a liability, they run away from you. If you emit negative energy, people will avoid you. If you don't look like who they can be proud of, people won't roll with you.
If you don't have people, how can you be successful?
Money, wealth, and power are people.
People are money, wealth, and power.
How do you then get people to invite you to their homes, parties, to meet their parents, friends, family, and be in their circle? Or how do you even get people to come to your own circle, party, home, etc?
Now, rich people don't move with poor people. Poor people don't like fellow poor people.
For people to roll with you, you have to be successful or look successful or behave successful (you can replace "successful" with "rich". This is because money is the most objective metric measure of success). So, What are the characteristics of successful people? Positivity, smiles, high spirits, brightness, colour, happiness, etc.
How do people assess whether you possess such qualities? First impression!
What is the metric measure of first impression? Appearance. Your outfit.
Without you speaking, that's the only thing they can judge you with. Beyond that, they could judge you with your car, house, neighborhood, school, etc.
Now try as much as possible to look rich at the most affordable rate. It is an art. Do this in such a way that you do not appear like you are doing it. Subtlety is the greatest form of art.
In "Annie", Quvenzhane Wallis asked Jamie Foxx what would she do if the world didn’t play her any cards at all. “Bluff” he replied. So you may ask, what if you don't have money at all to look rich. Bluff with your smiles. You are in pains, I know, I am sorry but wear those smiles. You feel burdened, act positive. Dance. You may not be happy but look happy. It will get people to you. They would want to know why and they'd like to share in your happiness. No one wants to share sadness. We have our own demons already.
When they ask, positively tell them you need help in a manner they'd be happy to help. People are strange, aren't they? Positively tell them you are sad; positively tell them whatever. But first things first, let them get attracted to you. Stay positive. Look positive until your life really becomes positive.
- Obi Emeka
11/08/2023
03/08/2023
26/05/2018
26/05/2018
25/05/2018
25/05/2018
25/05/2018
25/05/2018
25/05/2018
24/05/2018
24/05/2018