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FATHER FORGETS
W. Livingston Larned
Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw
crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on
your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a
few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling
wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.
There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to
you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you
gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not
cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of
your things on the floor.
At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread
butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and
I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called,
‘Goodbye, Daddy!’ and I frowned, and said in reply, ‘Hold your
shoulders back!’
Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came
up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles.
There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your
boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings
were expensive – and if you had to buy them you would be more
careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!
Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library,
how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes?
When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption,
you hesitated at the door. ‘What is it you want?’I snapped.
You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge,
and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your
small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming
in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then
you were gone, pattering up the stairs.
Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped
from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What
has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of
reprimanding – this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was
not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of
youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.
And there was so much that was good and fine and true in
your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself
over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse
to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight,
son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt
there, ashamed!
It is a feeble atonement; I know you would not understand
these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But
tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer
when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue
when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a
ritual: ‘He is nothing but a boy – a little boy!’
I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you
now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a
baby. Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms, your head on her
shoulder. I have asked too much, too much.

FATHER FORGETSby
W. Livingston Larned
Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw
crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on
your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a
few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling
wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.
There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to
you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you
gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not
cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of
your things on the floor.
At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread
butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and
I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called,
‘Goodbye, Daddy!’ and I frowned, and said in reply, ‘Hold your
shoulders back!’
Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came
up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles.
There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your
boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings
were expensive – and if you had to buy them you would be more
careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!
Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library,
how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes?
When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption,
you hesitated at the door. ‘What is it you want?’I snapped.
You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge,
and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your
small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming
in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then
you were gone, pattering up the stairs.
Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped
from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What
has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of
reprimanding – this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was
not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of
youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.
And there was so much that was good and fine and true in
your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself
over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse
to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight,
son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt
there, ashamed!
It is a feeble atonement; I know you would not understand
these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But
tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer
when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue
when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a
ritual: ‘He is nothing but a boy – a little boy!’
I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you
now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a
baby. Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms, your head on her
shoulder. I have asked too much, too much.

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"Dear Fathers and Mothers,

Please, stop teaching your daughter that it's her job to fix her man! Who will fix her, when she is busy fixing another?

Mummy, stop telling her that she's the home builder! Tell her that she will work hand in hand with her husband to build her home.

Our society today is littered with over-burdened wives, mothers, sisters and daughters. They are wearied, they are stressed and drained, from having to
fix themselves and as well fix an adult who ought to be fixing himself and fixing things around the house.

Look around you, you've succeeded in raising strong daughters and weak sons.... Sons who grew to become nonchalant men, men who rather feast while the women work.

Ma'am, teach your son that it's his job to provide for his family, totally, exclusively, that way, he won't expect his woman to share family responsibilities with him. When such expectations aren't there, he will very much appreciate any input she makes.

Teach your son that he's the sole protector of his home, that will make him not run off to chase pleasure with the idea that "my wife will handle it".

Mama, teach your son that loving his wife is a daily affair, and he must make her feel loved, in every sense of the word....

Dad, make your son understand that he's not done anything for his children, until he loves their mother fully.

Papa, raise your son, by loving his mother purely... When he sees you doing it right, he will do it more right in his marriage.

Daddie, teach your son never to depend on a woman. That way, he will never look at a woman as his support, he will put in all his best to be there for his family.

Mom and Dad, raise your sons, to be the picture of the husbands you desire for your daughters!

Please parents, please push this post to all parents on your what's app forum and other social media.. make them hear loud and clear that the change we so desire in our children starts now. Thank You.

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Welcome to July amiable parents.
Welcome to the 2nd Half of the year.
We love you.

Dear Parents, due to *increase of children S*xual assault* we implore that our children should be *educated and enlightened from home* and it will be *concretize in school.*
Our children are *dieing in silence and experiencing emotional trauma*

*Children's Counselling : Follow-up Guide on S*xual Abuse*
------------------------------
kindly ask your children these questions regularly:👇

1. Mention the two types of body parts.

Ans: 👉 Public parts & Private parts.

2. What are private parts

Ans: 👉Your *personal body parts*.( Your own) That no one should touch, look at or play with.

3. What parts of the body make up each ?
Ans👉 Boys: P***s, sc***um, a**s, lap, buttocks....lips
Girls : Vaginal, breast, lap, buttocks, a**s..lips

4. Mention the two types of touches.

Ans: 👉Good touch & Bad touch

5. What is a good touch?

Ans: 👉 A Touch on any of the public parts.

6. What is a bad touch?

Ans: 👉A touch on any of the private parts (or areas around them)

7. If someone is trying to touch or play with your private parts, it is called what?

Ans: 👉S*xual Abuse

8. Who are those that can abuse you?

Ans: 👉 Anybody.
(Mention)

9. Say something about your lips.

Ans: 👉 No one must kiss me on my lips not even my mum & dad.

10. Where can s*xual abuse take place.

Ans: 👉 Anywhere
(Mention)

11. What do abusers tell their victims & are those things true?

Ans: 👉 " I will kill you,'
'Your mummy and your daddy will die'
' You will die if you tell anyone about it'
'Your parents will not believe you.....'
"They will blame you and beat you'.

*Parents, at this point, I want you all to note that some children don't tell when someone is s*xually abusing them because some parents can be very 'TOUGH' and the children - extremely scared of the backlash from the parents. This is indeed a very delicate issue which must be addressed with the utmost self-restraint, maturity and caution!*

7. What will happen to you if someone is trying to abuse you and you don't tell?.

Ans: 👉

- The abuser will continue to abuse you and threaten you the more.
- It will affect your studies because you won't be able to concentrate.
- You will be unhappy/depressed.
- You could be physically harmed and your life could be in danger
- You could contract diseases- HIV/AIDS, *please ,kindly explain more on this to them.*

8. What are the things you should & should not do to avoid been s*xually abused?

Ans👉 Don't go anywhere without your parent's consent.

Don't talk to strangers.

Don't allow anyone lie on you.

Don't allow anyone tell you to put off your clothes/pants.

No one must ever touch or play with your private parts.

You must tell at any attempt by anyone.

SCREAM, RUN, REPORT........and so on

Here are some rhymes on S*x education

Hints : 👉
* My body belongs to me......
* My head, my shoulder, my private parts.......
* When you go to the bathroom anytime.....
* If you touch my private parts ,I will........

AN IMPORTANT NOTICE
kindly take note of the following actions which these young ones accused some parents of ...👇

👉Watching films where kissing & other intimate action occurs ......
👉Dressing up in their presence.
👉Bathing them together in the bathroom, either same s*x or opposite s*x ( very wrong)
👉 Sometimes leaving them naked in front of other siblings.
👉Entrusting them with people.

...and so on.

Please, take note of all these and avoid them and other similar unhelpful practices.

Conclusively, 🙏🙏🙏🙏, please let everyone be vigilant in looking after our kids.

We must never be negligent regarding them and also know that *No one*, may be absolutely trusted with our kids. But, since you cannot always be with them all the time, please do *review the session with them at least every month.*

This will immunize them against becoming victims of terrible predators waiting out there to prey on little innocent ones.
May the Almighty God protect us all and our families from evils.

Thank you all and come God Bless.

☝pls🙏 let's teach our pupils\students and children all this.

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1.Breastfeeding your newborn- what to expect in the early weeks.
2.Baby's Second Night
3. Common Questions in the Early Weeks
4. When will my milk come in?
5. Frequent Nursing
6. Hunger Cues- when do I feed baby?
7. Is baby getting enough milk?
8. Breastfeeding Logs
9. Breastfeeding Multiples (Resources)
10. Dad's and breastfeeding (Resources)
11. Hand expressing your breast milk
12. How does milk production work?
13. Importance of Responsive Feeding
14. Latching and Positioning Resources
15. Lactation Yoga..... side-lying nursing without getting to switch sides
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"1. If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
2. If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
3. If your children have poor self-esteem, it is because you advise them more than you encourage them.
4. If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
5. If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.
6. If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
7. If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.
8. If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.
9. If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it.
10. If your children intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
11. If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
12. If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.
13. If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.
14. If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions.
15. If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right."

What to avoid by educating your child

1-avoid giving your child everything he asks. He'll grow up thinking he has the right to get everything he wants.

2-avoid laughing when your child pronounces insulting words. He'll grow up thinking that disrespect is entertainment.

3-avoid being insensitive to bad behavior that he can display without scolding him for his bad behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.

4-avoid picking up everything your child messes with. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his responsibilities.
5-avoid letting him follow any program on TV. He'll grow up thinking there's no difference between being a child and being an adult.

6-avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He'll grow up thinking that getting money is easy and won't hesitate to fly to get it.

7-avoid always getting on his side when he's wrong against neighbors, his teachers, the police. He'll grow up thinking that everything he does is correct, the others are wrong.

8-avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exist.

Following these tips, we hope your child will be a model for society and will make your pride as parents!🙏🙏🙏

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Hello parents.

*10 THINGS PARENTS CAN DO DURING THIS LOCK DOWN WITH Your CHILDREN (no matter how old they are)* - Fela Durotoye

Hey Parents, we are on lockdown with our children ... and whilst this may be tougher on some parents than others, please remember that the lockdown restrictions are probably tougher on your kids.

However, please remember that in your lifetime, you probably will never again have another ‘opportunity’ to give them your undivided attention so seize this lifetime opportunity to BOND with your family and create UNFORGETTABLE MEMORIES with your words and your actions.

This is the time to:
1. EAT together and PLAY together ... exercises, card games, board games, soccer.

2. CHAT with them ... ASK questions that will get them to talk, not just answer “Yes, No, Fine etc” . Create TRUST & a safe space for them to have open and honest conversations with you. Ask (not interrogate) with the genuine intent to learn more about them and LISTEN attentively.

3. Do HOUSE CHORES with them. Show them how to sweep, mop, wash, arrange properly. Doing house chores with them will give them a sense of dignity of labour.

4. Help out with their SCHOOL WORK online.

5. Tell them STORIES about your childhood.

6. Talk about THEIR DREAMS and reinforce it.

7. CORRECT their misbehavior with love, patience & kindness (not anger) and explain consequences of actions on the family especially at this time.

8. Establish the FAMILY VALUES and NORMS and the GROUND RULES that will help your family get through this season with LOVE, PEACE and JOY.

9. Explain what you do (at your WORKPLACE) and why it is important.

10. PRAY together and study GOD’S WORD together. Have a REGULAR time and place for your family prayer time.

So, let’s try to SEIZE EVERY MOMENT of this lockdown to create MAGICAL MEMORIES that you want them to remember for the rest of their lives.

Keep safe everyone, but more importantly ... love, laugh and keep hope alive.

*Please SHARE with a parent that you think this will help.*

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Since many kids are/will be home from school, sharing an awesome list of ideas from a parent who homeschools.

Online resources:
- BrainPop
- Curiosity Stream
- Tynker
- Outschool
- Udemy
- iReady
- Beast Academy (Math)
- Khan Academy
- Creative Bug
- Discovery Education

YouTube Channels:
- Crash Course Kids
- Science Channel
- SciShow Kids
- National Geographic Kids
- Free School
- Geography Focus
- TheBrainScoop
- SciShow
- Kids Learning Tube
- Geeek Gurl Diaries
- Mike Likes Science
- Science Max
- SoulPancake

Lots of board games, library books (and Kindle), tinkering/upcycling with household junk, etc.
Some resources to help with kids at home:

*Scholastic has created a free learn-from-home site with 20+ days of learning and activities.

https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html

*Pretend to travel the world..Go on a virtual tour of these 12 famous museums.

https://www.travelandleisure.com/attractions/museums-galleries/museums-with-virtual-tours

*This is the awesome free curriculum that we use. Everything from preschool activities to 12th grade is here!

https://allinonehomeschool.com/

*List of thinking games by grade: https://allinonehomeschool.com/thinking/

**More awesome free learning websites that we like to use**

https://www.starfall.com/h/

https://www.abcya.com/

https://www.funbrain.com/

https://www.splashlearn.com/

https://www.storylineonline.net/

https://pbskids.org/

https://www.highlightskids.com/

https://kids.nationalgeographic.com/

https://www.coolmath4kids.com/

http://www.mathgametime.com/

https://www.uniteforliteracy.com/

http://www.literactive.com/Home/index.asp

http://www.sciencekids.co.nz/

https://www.switchzoo.com/

https://www.seussville.com/

https://www.turtlediary.com/

https://www.e-learningforkids.org/

Please feel free to share this with anyone who you think may benefit from this.

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