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10 powerful lessons from the book "The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris

1. The pursuit of happiness can often lead to unhappiness
The book emphasizes that constantly striving for happiness and avoiding negative emotions can actually perpetuate feelings of dissatisfaction and distress. It teaches us to accept and embrace all emotions, both positive and negative, as a natural part of life.

2. The importance of mindfulness
Mindfulness is a key concept in the book, as it encourages individuals to be fully present in the moment and to observe their thoughts and emotions without judgment. By practicing mindfulness, we can reduce our attachment to negative thoughts and create a greater sense of inner peace.

3. The role of values in creating a meaningful life
The book highlights the significance of identifying and living according to our personal values. It teaches us that true happiness comes from aligning our actions with our values, rather than constantly seeking external validation or pleasure.

4. The power of defusion
Defusion refers to the process of separating ourselves from our thoughts and recognizing them as mere mental events, rather than absolute truths. The book offers various techniques to help individuals defuse from unhelpful thoughts and beliefs, allowing them to respond more effectively to challenging situations.

5. The value of taking committed action
The Happiness Trap emphasizes the importance of taking action towards our values, even when faced with discomfort or fear. It teaches us that by stepping outside our comfort zones and engaging in meaningful activities, we can create a sense of purpose and fulfillment in our lives.

6. The dangers of the happiness myth
The book challenges the societal notion that happiness is the ultimate goal in life. It argues that constantly chasing happiness can lead to a never-ending cycle of dissatisfaction and disappointment. Instead, it encourages individuals to focus on living a rich and meaningful life, regardless of the presence or absence of happiness.

7. The importance of self-compassion
The Happiness Trap emphasizes the need for self-compassion, as it teaches individuals to treat themselves with kindness and understanding, especially in times of struggle or failure. It encourages individuals to practice self-care and to cultivate a sense of self-worth that is not dependent on external achievements or circumstances.

8. The significance of acceptance
The book highlights the power of accepting difficult emotions and experiences, rather than trying to avoid or suppress them. It teaches individuals to embrace discomfort and to approach life's challenges with openness and curiosity, ultimately leading to greater resilience and psychological well-being.

9. The impact of experiential avoidance
The Happiness Trap explores the negative consequences of avoiding or trying to escape from difficult thoughts, emotions, or sensations. It teaches individuals to face their fears and discomforts head-on, rather than engaging in avoidance strategies that can ultimately limit their growth and happiness.

10. The need for ongoing practice
The book emphasizes that the principles and techniques discussed require ongoing practice and commitment. It encourages individuals to incorporate the lessons into their daily lives and to cultivate a mindset of curiosity, flexibility, and self-compassion.

ALWAYS BE SMART

In the jungle:
1. The Elephant is the biggest;
2. The Giraffe is the tallest;
3. The Fox is the wisest;?
4. The Cheetah is the fastest;

Yet, the Lion is the KING of the jungle even without ANY of these qualities.

Why?

Because:
1. The Lion is courageous, is bold, walks with confidence, dares anything and is never afraid.
2. The Lion believes it is unstoppable.
3. The Lion is a risk taker.
4. The Lion believes any animal is food for him.
5. The Lion believes any opportunity is worth giving a trial and never lets it slip from its hands.

So...
1. You don't need to be the fastest.
2. You don't need to be the wisest.
3. You don't need to be the smartest.
4. You don't need to be the most brilliant.
5. All you need is .. "courage"
6. All you need is the .."will to try"
7. All you need is the .."faith " to believe it " is possible "
8. All you need is to believe in yourself, that.. " you can do it "!!

The Lion sleeps for 20 hours & works for 4 hours & yet eats meat.., But the elephant works for 24 hours & eats grass.Your life's strategy matters most in your approach to circumstances & situations for you to be a champion or winner always.
Stay in the Lion's mood!
That's the mood for winners.

Thanks for sharing this.... 🙂❤️It is highly appreciated. 👍😄

Disappear for 90 days and set yourself 10 years ahead

1. Develop a routine. Sleep at 9:00 PM and be awake at 4.00 AM every day.

2. Spend 60-minutes of your day reading ,writing, and internalizing what you understand.

3. Be willing to let go of friendships that don't serve you. If you hangout with losers, you become a loser.

4. Master the art of self-discipline. Get up early, work long hours, and face your problems head on.

5. Learn a high-income skill that'll earn you $10k+ per month.

6. Stop chasing cheap dopamine. Prioritize what's important over pleasure.

7. Hit at least 100 pushups and 80 squats per day to stay strong. You'll also be healthier than 97% of people.

8. Build self-discipline by taking one cold shower in the morning.

9. Make the internet a source of your income. There're endless possibilities for making money.

10. Take 100% responsibility for your life and never blame circumstances or anyone.

11. Include proteins, fresh fruits, and 3L of water in your daily diet to optimize your health.

12. Hang out with people who obsess over making moves and living a good life. Your circle should not gossip, complain, or get jealous of each other.

13. Invest in a good wardrobe, a good niche fragrance, and learn how to talk. You'll boost your success rate by 94%.

14. Befriend nature, walk 5000 steps per day to clear your mind, boost your mood and get creative.

15. Keep distance from people who only prioritize their needs over yours. They're your greatest setback.

16. Be smart enough to quit w**d, p*orn, and alcohol. They're the worst distraction that'll raise your dopamine, make you dumb, and depressed.

Thank you.

Leaders are responsible for the culture

Leaders are responsible for the culture.

IT IS A PITY.......MOST PEOPLE DO NOT MIND THE LYRICS OF ZAZU SONG !

The song is nothing but negative words, curse and demonic pronouncement on the generation of today.

Yes, many at times i shed tears because of what teenagers and youths introduced into the society.

How can 17years old behead a human being.. When we have a society that encourages indiscipline, wickedness, inhuman acts and behaviours?

Someone just released a rubbish song called *Zazu* and from there, fame came, society gave him huge money, made him a celebrity, they gave him car, visa and etc..

*What for?*

Because he sang a song that added no value to the society.. no wisdom, no knowledge, no moral, nothing encouraging.. But curse on whosoever that listens or dance to it.

Maybe I should state some of the WORD/LYRICS of such song below:

¶ *Many many were wa nlé répété* *(Madness at high level full ground)*

¶ *Babéjé (Destroy the place)*

¶ *Ika (wicked)*

¶ *Éjé loju bi t'abacha (Turn your eyes red like the then Abacha)*

¶ *Runju pa(Frank your face heavily)*

¶ *Ma r'érin(Don't laugh)*

¶ *Kala(frown)*

¶ *Daju(No mercy)*

¶ *Wuwa ika(Do evil)*

So, when you dance to this song you are one of those mad people referred to and you have been initiated into the evils in the song.

Yes!!! Young boys started doing EVIL, having seen how our society Encourages EVIL.

How on Earth can someone said all those word, and the next thing he experienced was fame, cars, money, houses, traveling abroad and etc?

And many, who have added value, disciples, Encouragment, love, motivation, right attitude, passion, devotion and Sacrifice to people are wallowing in poverty.

Our society will rather praise KING OF MARLIAAN FOR SMOKING W**D LIVE ON VIDEO than to praise and esteem God.

How can evil not prevail.. when evil and bad attitude are more rewarding nowadays than positive impact.

BBNaija gets more contributions of millions from the people, just for promoting immoralities, BUT the best graduating students of Kogi state are to be encouraged with just a cheque of N2000 each.. Not even 5k.. Yet, Gifts of cars, money and etc are being giving to those who can show their naked body on LIVE TV.

Society is not helping the upcoming Generation at all.

Because, we reward INSANITY than SANITY. We reward NONSENSE than encouraging DILIGENCY.

All these are not what our society needs.. they prefer someone who can DO EVIL than someone who do good.

We are all seeing the result everywhere.

Time is now, that we all should start encouraging discipline, patience, endurance and excellence acts, which added advancement to the society.

Let's Encourage the best students in the way of Almighty God.

Let's Encourage student who can invent or produce value, in line of technology.

Lets begin to Encourage men of God..

Let's begin to Encourage our school teachers and counsellors

Let wake up to good work of morals

Let us all wake up to HONESTY and INTEGRITY.

Enough of all this EVIL ACTS, being Encouraged by the SOCIALIST of our SOCIETY, thinking it's NORMAL..

Enough!!!

Bobrisky Is Showcasing Wealth

WhiteMoney is Getting Endorsement

Best Graduating Students Are Ignored

our children are making those nonentities their role models.

This thing is getting worst on the coming Generations. Things are growing so worst, like a trailer without brake.

The late king of a certain community had ten wild dogs. He used them to torture and eat any of his servants who made a mistake. One of the servants gave an opinion that was wrong, and the king didn’t like it at all. So he ordered that the servant be thrown to the dogs.
The servant said, “I served you for ten years, and you do this to me? Please give me ten days before throwing me to those dogs!” The king agreed.
In those ten days, the servant went to the guard who looks after the dogs and told him he would like to serve the dogs for the next ten days. The guard was baffled but agreed, and the servant started feeding the dogs, cleaning for them, bathing them, and providing all sorts of comfort for them.
When the ten days were over, the king ordered that the servant be thrown to the dogs for his punishment. When he was thrown in, we were all amazed to see the ravenous dogs only licking the feet of the servant!
The king, baffled at what he was seeing, said,
”What has happened to my dogs?”
The servant replied, "I served the dogs for only ten days, and they didn’t forget my service. Yet I served you for a whole ten years and you forgot all, at my first mistake!"
The king realized his mistake and ordered the servant to be set free.
This post is a message to all those who forget the good things a person does for them as soon as the person makes a mistake towards them. Don’t put out the history that is filled with good because of a mistake you don’t like.

WHAT A LIFE WE LIVE!

According to Wikipedia This is the garage of the Second Nigerian Senate President Prince Nweke Nwafor from 1960 to 1966. I vividly Recall the story of a man who became popular for engaging in money rituals just to buy the 80's edition of the Honda Prelude. You wouldn't buy that car for 50k today. Some other guy brutally murdered his brother ( whom their father gave cash 2 travel 4 the purpose of re- stocking their warehouse), just cos he wanted to acquire the rave of the moment - Pathfinder Jeep. That same vehicle is now better described as a coffin. I Remember as a kid, my whole street gathered to watch a truck deliver a very large satellite dish to my neighbour's house. Today a dish one tenth that size delivers 5 times the value and is in almost every student's room. What about the Volkswagen Santana, Mercedes Benz V boot, 505Evolution, Toyota Crown, all overtaken by latest models of Camry, Honda, Bugatti, Bentley, X6, Acura and Infinity... Vanity! Some ladies left their true loves cos some rich guy then persuaded them with a Benz 190, which turned out to be the only car they ever owned till date. They found out too late that true love is invaluable. A friend declared drinks because he launched the Nokia Communicator for over hundred grand in 2002. Today that phone would embarrass the owner and is a joke compared to the low cost and everyday phones. What about the MTN SIM card that many people went extra miles before they bought for over 30k, today you will not buy it at N100 because all networks are begging people to even take it for free. People are still making the most horrific sacrifices over 'vanity' and make enemies over worthless material things. What can I say? Look back at that one thing you want to kill or die for today and see what becomes of it tomorrow. There is absolutely nothing you can't achieve. All you need is a little time and PATIENCE and you would thank God without regrets. There is actually nothing in this world that is worth dying for, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

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