16/04/2023
THE LOUDEST SILENCE
You remember this common phrase, "short people over do"? If that's a crime of some sort, then, We all are culpable.
I can't remember with absolute precision what my attention-seeking techniques were as a child, but I can bet they're very effective.
My little boy commands an array of such tricks too, and he always wins. Children are very good at that
Growing up, salutations, for many of us means love. At other times, we'd wished we’re treated with much respect called praise names, and have people say pleasant things to and about us.
As far as I understand , life's a race for recognition, acceptance and validation.
I'd never allowed myself to be associated with weakness and failure. And I'd not stand rejection.
Understandably, my chastisers were branded foes, and praise singers were christened buddies.
As I reflect the whole scenario now, I can't help but realize how childish I really was both in words, thoughts and deeds.
Found in a generation of celebrities where many're left feeling guilty and deeply insecure about who they are, nothing can be as soothing as getting the solicited attention.
There's nothing wrong with seizing the moment. We all need attention at some points in our lives, and want to be sure our friends and relatives appreciate our worth.
It's not only socially acceptable, its completely natural to want to feel respected and valued.
Attention-seeking habit isn't always a sign of deficiency or low self-worth, unless of course, it stems from an indiscriminate hunger for approval and a deep sense of desuetude and or neglect.
It's very unhealthy however, to allow one's happiness and comfort to be determined by others.
Again, It's pertinent to know what one can and cannot do. And if one knows how to do anything at all, then, there's a possibility of being the best at it.
All it requires is innovation and consistency in silence.
Don't be vague, but also don't be too obvious. Let them speculate; that's what humans do. It's allowed. It's the style of the game changers who imprint their names in the sand of time.
Like David, the shepherd boy, who was despised and overlooked, who had no form nor comeliness.
But became a King, preferred over his brethren who were extraordinary in physique but lacking in substance.
Crowned "Man of the Moment" because he killed the Giant thanks to the lonely moments in the bush,
The isolation, the drills and the rehearsals, the patience and the resilience, the vigils, the pains, the diligence and the resolve, the consistency and the faith that drives the hope that some day, "Hustlele go Pay" when jungle mature. (A set of stuff that makes a king).
David's ascendency came as a surprise to all but the Lord who sees in secret. There's always an open reward for every secret adventure.
David understood that to get the real attention one has to work hard, not scramble for it.
Genuine attention, true compliments come unsolicited to those who'd earned it.
It's a function of possessing the right values. Humans are attracted to values not puzzles.
It's a good thing to attract attention, but it's better to equip oneself with the right values.
That's the silence more effective than words.
They'll look for you someday, and you'll be celebrated.
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